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Month: August 2019

Relationship Between Grandparents And Grandchildren

Written by Salafi Dawah Manchester on . Posted in Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Pearls of Wisdom, Purification of The Soul, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

 In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

The questioner asks: A relative of mine has children and those children neither sit with their grandmother nor do they visit her except occasionally, and the excuse they give is that she is harsh towards them. Her son is the only one who sits with her, so is this [i.e. behaviour of her grandchildren] permissible?

Answer: It is obligated on them to sit with her and make her happy because she is their grandmother. She is like their mother, so it is obligated on them to treat her with kindness and this is part of maintaining the ties of kinship. It is obligated on her son to nurture his children upon this [i.e. to keep the ties of kinship], deal kindly and softly with their grandmother. Likewise it is obligated on the grandmother to be gentle towards these children and not to be harsh towards them if what the children say is true. Abdullaah Ibn Amr [radiyallaahu-anhu] said that the Messenger [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “He (or she) is not one of us, who does not respect our elders and is not merciful to our youngsters”. [Reported by Imam Ahmad]

[Source: Fadaa’il Al- A’maal page 19’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah)]

Allaah Supports Those Who Are Kind to Their Relatives

Written by Salafi Dawah Manchester on . Posted in Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Severing the ties with relatives and boycotting them due to affairs of little importance is not permissible; rather it is obligatory to keep the ties of kinship, even if your relatives harm you personally. The true keeper of the ties of kinship is the one who maintains ties even if they (i.e. relatives) break it; as reported by Imaam Al-Bukhaari (rahimahullaah) and others on the authority of Abdullaah Ibn Amr Ibn Aas [radiyallaahu-anhu] that the Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “The maintainer of the ties of kinship is not the one who returns kind treatment to his relatives when they treat him kindly; rather the maintainer of the ties of kinship is the one who, when his relatives cut him off, he maintains it”.

And (Imaam) Muslim reported in his Saheeh on the authority of Abu Hurairah that a man said, “O Messenger of Allah! I have relatives with whom I maintain ties of kinship, while they cut me off. I treat them kindly, while they are evil to me. They behave ignorantly towards me and I am forbearing towards them.’ He (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) then said: ‘If the (affair) is as you have stated, it is as if you were placing hot ashes on them and you will not cease to have a supporter from Allaah against them as long as you carry on doing that’”.

Source:Al-Mindhaar Fee Bayaani Katheer Minal Akhtaa Ash-Shaa’i’ah by Shaikh Saaleh Aala Shaikh (hafidhahullaah). Pages 80-81

Reward For a Woman Who Intended to Perform Optional Fasts, But Was Prevented From Doing So Due to Menstruation

Written by Salafi Dawah Manchester on . Posted in Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Question: The questioner asks: if a woman makes an intention to fast the ninth and tenth of Muharram, but then her monthly menstrual circle prevents her from that, will she be rewarded for her intention?

Answer: If a person is determined to perform an act of worship but then he (or she) is (genuinely) prevented from doing so by something that prevents him (or her) from performing the act, the reward for that deed is written for him (or her) even if the act was not performed. That is because Abu Moosaa Al-Ash’ari (radiyallaahu-anhu) said that the Messenger of Allaah (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: If a slave of (Allah) becomes sick or travels, he (or she) is rewarded for the good deeds he (or she) used to perform when he (or she) was healthy or at home. [Reported by Bukharin and Muslim]

The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alaayhi-waallam) said: Whoever desires to do a good deed then does not do it [i.e. he (or she) is genuinely prevented from doing so], Allah will write it down as one complete good deed. [Reported by Bukhari]

[source: Fadaa’il Al-A’maal’ pages 21-22’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah)]