Response to a beloved brother who mentioned his grief to us
In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.
الٓمٓ (١) أَحَسِبَ ٱلنَّاسُ أَن يُتۡرَكُوٓاْ أَن يَقُولُوٓاْ ءَامَنَّا وَهُمۡ لَا يُفۡتَنُونَ (٢)وَلَقَدۡ فَتَنَّا ٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبۡلِهِمۡۖ فَلَيَعۡلَمَنَّ ٱللَّهُ ٱلَّذِينَ صَدَقُواْ وَلَيَعۡلَمَنَّ ٱلۡكَـٰذِبِينَ (٣) أَمۡ حَسِبَ ٱلَّذِينَ يَعۡمَلُونَ ٱلسَّيِّـَٔاتِ أَن يَسۡبِقُونَاۚ سَآءَ مَا يَحۡكُمُونَ (٤) مَن كَانَ يَرۡجُواْ لِقَآءَ ٱللَّهِ فَإِنَّ أَجَلَ ٱللَّهِ لَأَتٍ۬ۚ وَهُوَ ٱلسَّمِيعُ ٱلۡعَلِيمُ (٥) وَمَن جَـٰهَدَ فَإِنَّمَا يُجَـٰهِدُ لِنَفۡسِهِۦۤۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ لَغَنِىٌّ عَنِ ٱلۡعَـٰلَمِينَ (٦) وَٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ وَعَمِلُواْ ٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتِ لَنُكَفِّرَنَّ عَنۡهُمۡ سَيِّـَٔاتِهِمۡ وَلَنَجۡزِيَنَّهُمۡ أَحۡسَنَ ٱلَّذِى كَانُواْ يَعۡمَلُونَ (٧) وَوَصَّيۡنَا ٱلۡإِنسَـٰنَ بِوَٲلِدَيۡهِ حُسۡنً۬اۖ وَإِن جَـٰهَدَاكَ لِتُشۡرِكَ بِى مَا لَيۡسَ لَكَ بِهِۦ عِلۡمٌ۬ فَلَا تُطِعۡهُمَآۚ إِلَىَّ مَرۡجِعُكُمۡ فَأُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمۡ تَعۡمَلُونَ (٨) وَٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ وَعَمِلُواْ ٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتِ لَنُدۡخِلَنَّهُمۡ فِى ٱلصَّـٰلِحِينَ (٩) وَمِنَ ٱلنَّاسِ مَن يَقُولُ ءَامَنَّا بِٱللَّهِ فَإِذَآ أُوذِىَ فِى ٱللَّهِ جَعَلَ فِتۡنَةَ ٱلنَّاسِ كَعَذَابِ ٱللَّهِ وَلَٮِٕن جَآءَ نَصۡرٌ۬ مِّن رَّبِّكَ لَيَقُولُنَّ إِنَّا ڪُنَّا مَعَكُمۡۚ أَوَلَيۡسَ ٱللَّهُ بِأَعۡلَمَ بِمَا فِى صُدُورِ ٱلۡعَـٰلَمِينَ (١٠) وَلَيَعۡلَمَنَّ ٱللَّهُ ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ وَلَيَعۡلَمَنَّ ٱلۡمُنَـٰفِقِينَ (١١)
Alif-Lam-Mim. Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: “We believe,” and will not be tested. And We indeed tested those who were before them. And Allah will certainly make (it) known (the truth of) those who are true, and will certainly make (it) known (the falsehood of) those who are liars; Or those who do evil deeds think that they can outstrip Us (i.e. escape Our Punishment)? Evil is that which they judge! Whoever hopes for the Meeting with Allah, then Allah’s Term is surely coming. and He is the All-Hearer, the All-Knower. And whosoever strives, he strives only for himself. Verily, Allah is free of all wants from the ‘Alamin (mankind, jinns, and all that exists). Those who believe [in the Oneness of Allah (Monotheism) and in Messenger Muhammad, and do not apostate because of the harm they receive from the polytheists], and do righteous good deeds, surely, We shall remit from them their evil deeds and shall reward them according to the best of that which they used to do. And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents, but if they strive to make you join with Me (in worship) anything (as a partner) of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. Unto Me is your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do. And for those who believe (in the Oneness of Allah and other items of Faith) and do righteous good deeds, surely, We shall make them enter in (the entrance of) the righteous (i.e. in Paradise). Of mankind are some who say: “We believe in Allah,” but if they are made to suffer for the sake of Allah, they consider the trial of mankind as Allah’s punishment, and if victory comes from your Lord, (the hypocrites) will say: “Verily! We were with you (helping you).” Is not Allah Best Aware of what is in the breast of the ‘Alamin (mankind and jinns). Verily, Allah knows those who believe, and verily, He knows the hypocrites. [Surah Al-Ankaboot’ Aayaat 1-11]
Our beloved Salafi brother, close friend and confidant said to us today: “May Allah bless you all. Not by way of compliant – as I leave my affair to Allah, but by way of information. I’m finding it a bit more difficult today- Qadar Allah. May Allah make it an expiation for me, grant me patience, strength and determination needed during Fitna”. [end of quote] [Footnote a]
We remind ourselves and him, first and foremost that the Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “If one of you is afflicted with a calamity, then let him reflect upon his calamity through me (i.e. my death), for indeed it is the greatest of calamities”. [1]
Imam Al-Qurtubi, may Allah have mercy upon him, reported in his Tafsir that Imam Ibn Abdil Barr, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:
“Indeed, he (the Messenger) spoke the truth because the calamity that results from his death is greater than every calamity that will afflict a Muslim after him until the day of judgement. The revelation stopped and Prophethood ceased (forever)”. [2] There is nothing more severe upon the Muslims than the death of Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, because indeed he was the most trustworthy and perfect guide for the Ummah. [3]
Reflect Upon The Harm Received By The Messengers
Al-Allamah Abdur Rahman Bin Yahyah Al-Mu’allimee, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:
Allah tested Prophet Ayyoub, peace be upon him, and Prophet Yaqub, peace be upon him, during the time he lost his two sons, (Yusuf and Binyamin), peace be upon them, along with the profound sorrow that afflicted his heart. Allah says:
وَتَوَلَّىٰ عَنۡہُمۡ وَقَالَ يَـٰٓأَسَفَىٰ عَلَىٰ يُوسُفَ وَٱبۡيَضَّتۡ عَيۡنَاهُ مِنَ ٱلۡحُزۡنِ فَهُوَ كَظِيمٌ۬
And he turned away from them and said: “Alas, my grief for Yusuf (Joseph)!” And he lost his sight because of the sorrow that he was suppressing]. [Yusuf. 84]
Allah tested Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, during the initial years of his prophethood, commanding him to call his people to renounce the Shirk and the erroneous beliefs inherited from their ancestors. He communicated this message both privately and publicly, tirelessly day and night. He engaged with them in their social settings, assemblies, and communities, persistently advocating for nearly 13 years, despite enduring significant persecution, a stark contrast to the 40 years of his life before this period during which he faced no harm.
He hailed from a distinguished and esteemed tribe, belonging to a household that was both noble and revered. He grew up with refined manners, earning him the admiration and respect of the people, however, he remained remarkably humble despite his elevated status. The individual possessing these attributes endured significant suffering and encountered profound difficulties. This suffering was exacerbated by ridicule; this one spat in his face, another tried to place his feet on his neck while he was in prostration to his Lord, and yet another placed camel intestines on his back when he prostrated to his Lord. Another seized the collar of his garment in an attempt to strangle him. His uncle, Abu Lahab, relentlessly pursued him, cautioning others by declaring, “He is a liar” and “He is insane.”
The ignorant were stirred up against him, and they hurled stones at him until blood streamed from his feet. Others chose to ostracize him and his close relatives for an extended period, hoping they would perish from starvation. Some individuals subjected his followers to various forms of torment, including forcing them to lie on the scorching sand during the peak heat of the day without access to water. One follower was burned with fire, and the only thing that could extinguish the flames was the fat from his back. A woman among them faced severe torture, but when it became evident that she would not abandon her faith in Islam, she was stabbed in her private area and ultimately killed.
The suffering they endured stemmed solely from the Messenger’s efforts to lead them away from the darkness of Shirk and into the light of Islam. He intended to remove them from corruption and guide them towards righteous behaviour, to steer them away from the wrath of Allah and direct them towards the means of achieving His Pleasure. He sought to divert them from the path of eternal punishment and guide them towards everlasting happiness. Despite the clarity of these truths, they remained oblivious, fixated instead on the fact that he was urging them toward something contrary to their desires.
Furthermore, Allah tested the Prophet peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, through the loss of his parents during his early childhood, followed by the passing of his grandfather, the demise of his uncle who provided him with protection, and the death of his wife who offered him solace. The calamities continued unabated, despite his status as the leader of the children of Adam and his position as the most beloved individual to Allah.
Contemplate these matters to understand, through genuine knowledge, that the competitive strife in which we participate, driven by our desire to attain the pleasures of this world, pales in comparison to the pursuit of Allah’s Pleasure and the everlasting joy of paradise. In contrast, the suffering and challenges of worldly existence that we seek to avoid are insignificant when weighed against Allah’s discontent, His wrath, and the eternal torment of hellfire. Anas Bin Malik, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, “A person amongst the inhabitants of Hell – who lived the most enjoyable life amongst the people of the world – would be dipped in fire only once on the Day of Resurrection and then it would be said to him, ‘O son of Adam! Did you find any comfort, did you happen to get any material blessing?’ He would say, ‘By Allah! No, my Lord’. Then a person amongst the people of the world would be brought – who lived the most miserable life (in the world) – from amongst the inhabitants of Paradise and he would be dipped once in Paradise, and it would be said to him, ‘O son of Adam! Did you face any hardship? Or had any distress fallen to your lot?’ He would say, ‘By Allah! No, O my Lord, never did I face any hardship or experience any distress’”. [Sahih Muslim. 2807] [4]
Shuraih Al-Qaadhiy, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:
Indeed, when afflicted by a calamity, I praise Allah four times: I praise Allah for not making the calamity greater than what it is. I praise Allah for granting me patience. I praise Allah for the reward I hope for in that calamity and I praise Allah for not placing that calamity in the affairs of my religion. [5]
We ask Allah:
اللَّهُمَّ بِعِلْمِكَ الْغَيْبَ وَقُدْرَتِكَ عَلَى الْخَلْقِ أَحْيِنِي مَا عَلِمْتَ الْحَيَاةَ خَيْراً لِي وَتَوَفَّنِي إِذَا عَلِمْتَ الْوَفَاةَ خَيْراً لِي، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَشْيَتَكَ فِي الْغَيْبِ وَالشَّهَادَةِ، وَأَسْأَلُكَ كَلِمَةَ الْحَقِّ فِي الرِّضَا وَالْغَضَبِ، وَأَسْأَلُكَ الْقَصْدَ فِي الْغِنَى وَالْفَقْرِ، وَأَسْأَلُكَ نَعِيماً لَا يَنْفَذُ، وَأَسْأَلُكَ قُرَّةَ عَيْنٍ لَا تَنْقَطِعُ، وَأَسْأَلُكَ الرِّضِا بَعْدَ الْقَضَاءِ، وَأَسْأَلُكَ بَرْدَ الْعَيْشِ بَعْدَ الْمَوْتِ، وَأَسْأَلُكَ لَذَّةَ النَّظَرِ إِلَى وَجْهِكَ وَالشَّوْقَ إِلَى لِقَائِكَ فِي غَيْرِ ضَرَّاءَ مُضِرَّةٍ وَلَا فِتْنَةٍ مُضِلَّةٍ، اللَّهُمَّ زَيِّنَّا بِزِينَةِ الْإِيمَانِ
وَاجْعَلْنَا هُدَاةً مُهْتَدِينَ
O Allah! By Your Knowledge of the unseen and by Your Power over creation, let me live if life is good for me, and let me die if death is good for me; O Allah! I ask You to grant me (the blessing of having) fear of You in private and public, and I ask You (to make me utter) a statement of truth in times of contentment and anger, and I ask You for moderation when in a state of wealth and poverty, and I ask you for blessings that never ceases, and I ask You for the coolness of my eye that never ends, and I ask You (to make me pleased) after (Your) decree; and I ask You for a life of (ease, comfort, tranquillity, etc) after death; I ask You for the delight of looking at Your Face (i.e. in the Hereafter) and yearning to meet You without any harm and misleading trials (coming upon me). O Allah! Adorn us with the adornment of Iman, and make us (from those who are) guided and guiding (others). [6]
اللَّهُمَّ أَصْلِحْ لِي دِينِي الَّذِي هُوَ عِصْمَةُ أَمْرِي
وَأَصْلِحْ لِي دُنْيَايَ الَّتِي فِيهَا مَعَاشِي
وَأَصْلِحْ لِي آخِرَتِي الَّتِي فِيهَا مَعَادِي
وَاجْعَلِ الْحَيَاةَ زِيَادَةً لِي فِي كُلِّ خَيْرٍ
وَاجْعَلِ الْمَوْتَ رَاحَةً لِي مِنْ كُلِّ شَرٍّ
O Allah! Rectify my religion for me, which is the safeguard of my affairs; rectify my worldly [affairs], wherein is my livelihood; and rectify my Afterlife to which is my return; and make life for me [as a means of] increase in every good and make death for me as a rest from every evil. [Saheeh Muslim Number: 2720] [7]
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ، وَالْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَالْبُخْلِ وَالْجُبْنِ ، وَضَلَعِ الدَّيْنِ، وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ
O Allaah! I seek refuge with You against distress and grief, helplessness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, being heavily in debt and being overcome by men. [Saheeh Al-Bukhaari. Number 2893] [8]
Footnote a: https://salafidawahmanchester.com/2024/09/30/souls-cannot-be-purified-until-they-are-put-to-the-test-by-imam-ibn-al-qayyim-qayyim/
Also read: It may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you
[1] Sahih Al-Jaami As-Sagheer. Number 347
[2] Al-Jami Li-Ahkam Al-Qur’an. Tafsir Surah Al-Baqarah Aayaat 155-157
[3] Shuruh Sunan Ibn Maajah pages 633- 634
[4]An Excerpt from “Aathaar Ash-Shaikh Al-Allamah Abdur Rahman Bin Yahyah Al-Mu’allimee”. 11/311-313
[5] Shu’ab Al-Eemaan 9507
[6] https://salafidawahmanchester.com/2021/01/01/o-allaah-let-me-live-if-life-is-good-for-me-and-let-me-die-if-death-is-good-for-me/
[7] https://salafidawahmanchester.com/2019/03/12/shuraih-al-qaadhiys-thankfulness-when-afflicted-with-a-calamity/
[8] https://salafidawahmanchester.com/2020/03/24/grief-distress-helplessness-laziness-miserliness-cowardice-being-heavily-in-debt-and-being-overcome-by-men-the-prophet-used-to-seek-allaahs-refuge-from-these-eight-affairs/