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Boyfriends and Girlfriends in Islaam – Shaykh Al-Uthaymeen

Having Boyfriends & Girlfriends in Islaam

What is the ruling on a man and woman who kiss, and do everything else other than intercourse?

Answer: These deeds which you have mentioned are impermissible – unlawful for them, because Allah – the Most High – says:

And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts) except from their wives or that their right hands possess, for then, they are free from blame, but whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors;
Al-Muminoon 5-7

And His statement – The One free from all deficiency, the Most High:

And come not near to the unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a Fahishah [i.e. anything that transgresses its limits (a great sin)], and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him).
Al-Israa 32

And Allaah did not say, “And do not fornicate”, except to deal with everything that is a cause and leads to fornication, and this –  what they are doing – is zina of the hand by touching, zina of the eye by looking, zina of the feet by walking (to do that which is haraam). This is impermissible for them and it is obligated on them to repent.

It is obligated on those given responsibility to educate them and dissuade them from the likes of these actions, and turn them away from this sin.

The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam) did not prohibit a person from being alone with a strange woman (one who it is not permissible to be alone with) except out fearing this this deed and its likes.

So you, may Allah give you success, advise them with that which is obligated on you, warn them about this, the impermissiblity of this is clear and is present in the books of tafseer, books of hadeeth, books of fiqh, all of them. It is not allowed and it is impermissible.

Fataawa Noor Alad Darb Vol 5. Page 549. Slightly paraphrased


 

Warn Against Baatil

Sheikh Rabee says: One must aid the haqq and warn against baatil; if not, you are dead. Not recognising khayr and rejecting evil is a sign of a hard heart.

Majmoo 14

Sweetness of Worship – Al-Imaam Ahmad Harb

Al-Imaam Ahmad Harb (rahimahullah) said:

“I worshipped Allah for 50 years and I did not experience the sweetness of worship until I abandoned three things:

  • I abandoned pleasing the people in order to be able to speak the truth.
  • I abandoned the companionship of sinners until I found companionship of the righteous,
  • and I left the sweetness of the dunya until i found the sweetness of (seeking after) the hereafter.”

Siyaar A’laam an Nubaalaa Vol 11 pg 34

Benefits of Seeking and Adhering to the Truth – Ash Shaykh Rabee Al Madkhalee

 

Ash Shaykh Rabee bin Haadi Al Madkhalee (hafidahullah) said:

“From the signs of As-Sa’aadah [i.e. happiness, success and wellbeing in this life and the next, InshaaAllaah] is that:

•You are eager for the truth;

•You seek it and

•You are happy when informed of your mistakes.

Source: Marhaban Yaa Taalib Al Ilm pg 262

Congregational Dua at Graves – Shaykh Fawzaan

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Al-Allaamah Ash-Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan:

Congregational Dua at the grave is an innovation,rather a person supplicates individually for the deceased and he does not join (his dua) with others.

Ash-Shaykh Fawzaan’s explanation of Ighaafatul Lahfaan 29-01-1438