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A Warning Against Cutting The Ties of Kinship  

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Question: Is it obligated on a woman to keep the ties of kinship? Can you clarify this for us and may Allaah reward you.

Answer: keeping the ties of kinship is obligated on every person-both men and women. Allaah [The Most High] said:

فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ

أُولَٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَىٰ أَبْصَارَهُمْ

Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight. [47:22-23]

Allaah (Glorified be He and free is He from all imperfections) said: [  وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ – And fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship)]. [4:1]

Your kinship ties include everyone related to you, regardless whether they are close or distant relatives. Your mother is the closest relative to you and the one more deserving of your kind treatment, and then your father.  Abu Hurairah (radiyallaahu-anhu) reported that a man said: O Messenger of Allaah! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father. [Hadeeth reported by Muslim]

After your mother and father, those who are closest to you are your children, blood brothers and sisters, uncles (or aunts) and cousins. And whenever a person is closer to you as a relative, he (or she) is entitled to more rights from you. Keeping the ties of kinship should be established in accordance with one’s ability, so if your relatives live with you in the same country or close by, it is obligatory to visit them, honour them, show them kindness and assist them if they are in need.

Written correspondence and other means of communication, such as telephones and other modern means of communication are all good means through which close contact can established between many people living far away from each other. Therefore, it is obligated on a person to use them for what will make a person get close to Allaah by keeping the ties of kinship.

However, this (keeping contact through the modern means of communication) is not enough, rather it is obligated on a Muslim to visit his (or her) relatives in person, especially if they are in the same country or close by. But if they live far away, then one should strive to the best of his ability to keep in touch with them and utilise every means that is available to keep in touch. A person should be committed to that in order to receive the reward for keeping the ties of kinship.  He (she) should not be among those who cut the ties of kinship because cutting the ties of kinship is a dangerous affair.  Allah (Glorified be He and free is He from all imperfections) said:

 فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ

أُولَٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَىٰ أَبْصَارَهُمْ

Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight. [47:22-23]

And Allah knows best.

[Source: Fadaa’il Al-A’maal Pages 22-22’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah). Slightly paraphrased]

 

 

 

The Great Reward for the One Who Maintains the Ties of Kinship

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Question: The questioner asks: We have blood relations who revile us, so is it obligatory that we have to visit them and maintain the ties of kinship?

Answer: Maintaining the ties of kinship is from the best of deeds due to the saying of the Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam): Whoever would like his provision to be increased and his lifespan to be extended, let him maintain the ties of kinship. [Reported by Bukhari and Muslim from Anas Ibn Maalik (radiyallaahu-anhu)]

Abu Hurairah [radiyallaahu-anhu] said, “The Prophet [sallal-laahi-alayhi-wasallam] said, ‘The Prophet said: Indeed Ar-Rahim (the womb) derives its root from Ar-Rahmãn (i.e., one of the Names of Allah) and Allah said: ‘I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you, (womb i.e., kith and kin) and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you, (womb, i.e., kith and kin).” [Reported by Bukhaari]

So even if you receive harm or revilement from them, it is still obligated on you to exercise patience in bearing their harm and deal with them kindly, and you’ll obtain a great reward (from Allaah). Abu Hurairah reported that a man said Abu Hurairah [radiyallaahu-anhu] said: A man said to the Messenger of Allaah, “I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. I treat them well, but they abuse me. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me.” The Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] said, “If you are as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot dust in their mouths. Allaah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that”. [Reported by Muslim]

Abdullah Ibn Umar [radiyallaahu-anhu] said that the Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said: The one who maintains a relationship with his relatives only because they maintain a relationship with him is not truly upholding the ties of kinship. The one who truly upholds those ties is the one who does so even if they break off the relationship. [Reported by Bukhaari] This is difficult upon the soul (i.e. a hard thing to bear patiently) but it carries a great reward.

[Source: Fadaa’il Al- A’maal pages 14-15’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah)]

 

 

 

 

 

Relationship Between Grandparents And Grandchildren

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 In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

The questioner asks: A relative of mine has children and those children neither sit with their grandmother nor do they visit her except occasionally, and the excuse they give is that she is harsh towards them. Her son is the only one who sits with her, so is this [i.e. behaviour of her grandchildren] permissible?

Answer: It is obligated on them to sit with her and make her happy because she is their grandmother. She is like their mother, so it is obligated on them to treat her with kindness and this is part of maintaining the ties of kinship. It is obligated on her son to nurture his children upon this [i.e. to keep the ties of kinship], deal kindly and softly with their grandmother. Likewise it is obligated on the grandmother to be gentle towards these children and not to be harsh towards them if what the children say is true. Abdullaah Ibn Amr [radiyallaahu-anhu] said that the Messenger [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “He (or she) is not one of us, who does not respect our elders and is not merciful to our youngsters”. [Reported by Imam Ahmad]

[Source: Fadaa’il Al- A’maal page 19’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah)]

Allaah Supports Those Who Are Kind to Their Relatives

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Severing the ties with relatives and boycotting them due to affairs of little importance is not permissible; rather it is obligatory to keep the ties of kinship, even if your relatives harm you personally. The true keeper of the ties of kinship is the one who maintains ties even if they (i.e. relatives) break it; as reported by Imaam Al-Bukhaari (rahimahullaah) and others on the authority of Abdullaah Ibn Amr Ibn Aas [radiyallaahu-anhu] that the Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “The maintainer of the ties of kinship is not the one who returns kind treatment to his relatives when they treat him kindly; rather the maintainer of the ties of kinship is the one who, when his relatives cut him off, he maintains it”.

And (Imaam) Muslim reported in his Saheeh on the authority of Abu Hurairah that a man said, “O Messenger of Allah! I have relatives with whom I maintain ties of kinship, while they cut me off. I treat them kindly, while they are evil to me. They behave ignorantly towards me and I am forbearing towards them.’ He (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) then said: ‘If the (affair) is as you have stated, it is as if you were placing hot ashes on them and you will not cease to have a supporter from Allaah against them as long as you carry on doing that’”.

Source:Al-Mindhaar Fee Bayaani Katheer Minal Akhtaa Ash-Shaa’i’ah by Shaikh Saaleh Aala Shaikh (hafidhahullaah). Pages 80-81

Reward For a Woman Who Intended to Perform Optional Fasts, But Was Prevented From Doing So Due to Menstruation

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Question: The questioner asks: if a woman makes an intention to fast the ninth and tenth of Muharram, but then her monthly menstrual circle prevents her from that, will she be rewarded for her intention?

Answer: If a person is determined to perform an act of worship but then he (or she) is (genuinely) prevented from doing so by something that prevents him (or her) from performing the act, the reward for that deed is written for him (or her) even if the act was not performed. That is because Abu Moosaa Al-Ash’ari (radiyallaahu-anhu) said that the Messenger of Allaah (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: If a slave of (Allah) becomes sick or travels, he (or she) is rewarded for the good deeds he (or she) used to perform when he (or she) was healthy or at home. [Reported by Bukharin and Muslim]

The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alaayhi-waallam) said: Whoever desires to do a good deed then does not do it [i.e. he (or she) is genuinely prevented from doing so], Allah will write it down as one complete good deed. [Reported by Bukhari]

[source: Fadaa’il Al-A’maal’ pages 21-22’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah)]

 

The Angels Supplicate For The Believers; Why?!- [A Brief Faa’idah By Shaikh Abdur Razzaaq Al-Badr]

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

The Angels were created from light and the (origin) of the children of Aadam is clay; however Sound Aqeedah creates a bond between these two creatures- Angels and the pious people amongst the children of Aadam. Allaah (The Most High) said:

ٱلَّذِينَ يَحۡمِلُونَ ٱلۡعَرۡشَ وَمَنۡ حَوۡلَهُ ۥ يُسَبِّحُونَ بِحَمۡدِ رَبِّہِمۡ وَيُؤۡمِنُونَ بِهِۦ وَيَسۡتَغۡفِرُونَ لِلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ رَبَّنَا وَسِعۡتَ ڪُلَّ شَىۡءٍ۬ رَّحۡمَةً۬ وَعِلۡمً۬ا فَٱغۡفِرۡ لِلَّذِينَ تَابُواْ وَٱتَّبَعُواْ سَبِيلَكَ وَقِهِمۡ عَذَابَ ٱلۡجَحِيمِ

Those (angels) who bear the Throne (of Allaah) and those around it glorify the praises of their Lord, and believe in Him, and ask forgiveness for those who believe (in the Oneness of Allaah) (saying): ‘’Our Lord! You comprehend all things in mercy and knowledge, so forgive those who repent and follow Your way, and save them from the torment of the blazing fire.’’ [40:7]

The angels believe in Allaah and constantly supplicate to Allaah. They ask Allaah to forgive the believers and to enter them into paradise.  This is a great and amazing bond despite the fact that they (angels) are a different from humans, however it is the sound Aqeedah that unites their hearts. [1] Likewise, the righteous slaves of Allaah amongst human beings love the angels. [2]

[1] Source: Al-Madkhal Li- Diraasatil Aqeedatil Islaamiyyah, lesson number 3’ by Shaikh Abdur-Razzaaq Al-Badr (may Allaah preserve him)

[2] Source: Explanation of the forty hadeeth of Imaam An-Nawawi’ lesson 12’ by Shaikh Abdur-Razzaaq Al-Badr (may Allaah preserve him)

Ahlus Sunnah Refute a Mukhaalif Solely Due to His Deviations And They Refrain From Personal Attacks!

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Al-Allaamah Ubaid Al-Jaabiri [may Allaah preserve him] said: When they [i.e. Ahlus Sunnah] speak against anyone amongst the people, it is not due to his lineage, tallness, shortness or specific traits etc. This does not hold any value in their view. They speak against a Mukhaalif [i.e. the one in opposition to the truth] due to the corruptness of his methodology. They speak against the [deviated] groups and individuals who are in opposition- not because of their personalities; rather due to their deviation from guidance, the true religion, the path of the believers [i.e. the Sahaabah] and the [authentic] Sunnah of the leader of the Messengers [i.e. Muhammad (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam)]

[Source: An Excerpt from ‘It-haaf Ulul Basar Bit-Taleeqaat Alaa Risaalah Al-Amr Bil Ma’roof Wan-Nahyi Anil Munkar’ page 17-18. Slightly paraphrased]

Toobaa [Paradise And Happiness] Is For The Strangers- Those Who Rectify When The People Become Corrupt or Rectify What The People Have Corrupted

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Yunus Ibn Ubaid [rahimahullaah] said, “How remarkable today are those who call to the Sunnah.  Even more remarkable are those who respond and accept the Sunnah”.

Shaikh Saaleh Al-Fawzaan commented saying: The Sunnah has become strange and those who call to it have become strange, and even stranger are those who act upon it.  No doubt there will be times when there will be strangeness with respect to the Sunnah and its people.  As time elapses the Sunnah will become strange and Ahlus Sunnah are the strangers; for that reason he (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: “Islaam began as a strange thing and it will return being strange. So Toobaa is for the strangers.  They said, ‘Who are the strangers O Messenger of Allaah?’  He said, ‘those who will rectify when the people become corrupt’.  And in another narration, [he (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam)] said, ‘They rectify that which the people have corrupted’”.

These are the strangers during the end of time.  They hold onto the Sunnah when the people become corrupt.  They exercise patience upon that which touches them of harm.  They exercise patience upon (this) strangeness amongst the people; because those who oppose them are numerous, for they are in strangeness amongst the people. [Source: An Excerpt from It-haaful Qaaree Bitta’liqaat Alaa Sharhis Sunnah Lil Imaam Barbahaaree 2/310-311]

A Book of Imaam As-Sadi [rahimahullaah] Recommended By Ustaadh Abu Hakeem [hafidhahullaah]

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Ustaadh Abu Hakeem [hafidhahullaah] recommended – at the Birmingham Conference – that we buy Imaam As-Sadi’s Book Titled:

البراهين

العقلية على وحدانية الرب ووجوه كماله

The book has been explained by Shaikh Abdur Razzaaq Al-Badr [hafidhahullaah] in 12 Audios, so perhaps those of us who prefer audios can benefit from these audios or use them for more Fawaa’id whilst reading the Book. May Allaah benefit all of us from the works of the Ulama and the upright students Aaameen. Visit Link for audios:  https://al-badr.net/sub/395

After Me You Will See Others Given Preference to You, So Be Patient Till You Meet Me at The Haud

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

The Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “After me you will see others given preference to you, so be patient till you meet me at Al-Haud [the pond (i.e. Al-Kauthar)] (on the Day of Resurrection]”. [Bukhaari]

It has (also) been reported in the Saheehayn [Bukhaari and Muslim] on the authority of Ubaadah Bin As-Saamit [radiyallaahu-anhu] who said, “We gave the Bai’ah (pledge) to Allaah’s Messenger that we would listen to and obey him both at the time when we were active and at the time when we were tired”. “And that we would not fight against the ruler or disobey him, and would stand firm for the truth or say the truth wherever we might be, and in the Way of Allah we would not be afraid of the blame of the blamers”. [End of ahaadeeth]

Indeed, the Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] commanded the Muslims to exercise patience when others are given preference to them. They [must] obey their rulers in [good]- even if others are given preference to them- and should not challenge the authority [of the rulers]. Many of those who rebel against the rulers or most of them only do so when others are given preference to them, so they do not exercise patience when this occurs. Then it may be that the ruler has other sins [i.e. sins committed openly], so the person’s hatred – due to others being given preference to him – leads him to inflate those [other sins of the ruler] and thus he fights the ruler, [whilst] thinking that he is fighting for the sake of stopping fitna and so that the religion is sincerely established for the sake of Allaah alone. However, the greatest drive behind this [path of his] is to achieve his goals – either to seize power or [obtain] wealth, just as Allaah [The Most High] said: [فَإِنْ أُعْطُوا مِنْهَا رَضُوا وَإِن لَّمْ يُعْطَوْا مِنْهَا إِذَا هُمْ يَسْخَطُونَ   – If they are given part thereof, they are pleased, but if they are not given thereof, behold! They are enraged! [Surah At-Tawbah’ Ayah 58]

In the Saheehayn, the Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “There will be three [types] of people whom Allaah will neither speak to them on the Day of Resurrection nor will He purify them [from sins], and they will have a painful punishment. [They are]: a man who had superfluous water on a way and withholds it from the wayfarers. And a man who sells something to another man after Asr and swears by Allaah [with a false oath] that he has been offered so much for it, whereas the buyer believes him and buys it although the seller has not been offered such a price. And a man who gives a pledge of allegiance to an Imam [i.e. a ruler] and only gives it for worldly [gains]; if he is given he fulfils his pledge, and if he is not given, he does not fulfil it”. [Muslim]

However, when Shub’hah [i.e. an affair that resembles the truth but is falsehood in reality] and Shah’wah [i.e. evil desires] come together, fitna arises. The Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasalam]- the one who conveyed Allaah’s legislation- commanded [us] with everything that will lead to rectification [or well-being] for an individual and the Muslims, therefore, he commanded the rulers to be just and sincere to their subjects to the extent that he [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “Any man whom Allaah has given authority of ruling some people and he does not look after them in an honest manner, [Allaah] will forbid him from entry into paradise”.’ [Bukhaari] [i.e. the one who dies and failed to repent from this major sin, he is left under the will of Allaah. Allaah will either punish him or forgive him; but if punished, he will not remain in the fire forever. This applies to all major sins that are lesser than Shirk…see link regarding this affair: http://www.wrightstreetmosque.com/the-two-shaikhs-ibn-baaz-al-fawzaan-on-the-position-of-ahlus-sunnah-regarding-a-person-committing-major-sins-not-making-takfeer-of-the-sinners/

And he [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] commanded the subjects to obey [the rulers in good] and to give them advice, as reported in the Bukhaari and Muslim: “The Religion is Naseeha (sincerity and sincere advice).” We said, “To whom?” He said, “To Allaah [i.e. sincerely worship Allaah alone and not to ascribe partners with Him]; to His Book [i.e. sincerely belief in the Qur’aan, affirm everything it has stated and negate everything it has negated, and judge by it in all affairs]; to His Messenger [i.e. obey the Messenger, believe in everything he has stated and keep away from what he has forbidden]; and [being sincere] to the leaders of the Muslims [i.e. obey the rulers in good, supplicate for them, refrain from rebelling against them, give them sincere advice in private etc ] and their general people [i.e. love for the Muslims what you wish for yourself, repel harm from them, advise them, teach them, stop them from evil, aid them when they need help etc]

He [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] commanded [the believers] to exercise patience when others are given preference to them and forbade them from fighting the rulers. He [forbade them from] challenging their authority, even though the [rulers] commit oppression. That is because the corruption that results from fighting them is greater than the oppression they commit; therefore, a lesser corruption is not to be repelled if it will lead to a greater evil. See link: http://www.abukhadeejah.com/the-tyranny-of-the-rulers-a-reason-for-rebellion/

How to advice the rulers:

http://salafipublications.com/sps/sp.cfm?subsecID=MNJ16&articleID=MNJ160003&articlePages=1    

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[Source: An Excerpt from ‘Silsilah Ar-Rasaa’il Al-Manhajiyyah Fin-Nus’hi Wal-Irshaad Wat-Taw’iyah’ pages 34-38. slightly paraphrased]