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And that is why it has been transmitted in an authentic hadith of the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) in Sunan Abee Daawood from Uqbah Ibn Aamir (radiyallaahu-anhu) that the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: ‘‘The best of marriages are the easiest ones.’’ And in another hadith, the Prophet (sallal-laahua-layhi-wasallam) said: ‘‘The women with the most blessing are the ones easiest to provide for.’’ [Ahmad: 25120; Nasaa’i; 9274] Therefore the best of women are those whose affair is easy.

And for this reason it is incumbent upon the woman, her father and mother to aim at making things easy and not to make things difficult in marriage and marriage ceremonies. (And that they aim for) humility and not exaltation and loftiness, and (that they aim) for gentleness and perseverance and not to be given to overspending and self-indulgence, for this affair has its effects on married life.   And if there is ease, making things easy and being distanced from overspending, then this is a call for the beginning of blessings and continuation of good.  And if the marriage began with overspending, self-indulgence, disobedience and various types of sins, then this is from the greatest causes of deprivation of blessings and Allaah’s refuge is sought.

References:

[1] Soorah Al-Kahf; Ayah 17

[2] Soorah Yoonus; Ayah 25

[3]Collected by Imaam Muslim (rahimahullaah) Number: 2664

[4] Soorah Al-Israa; Ayah 9

[5] Collected by Imaam Al-Haakim: 1/172; and authenticated by Shaikh Al-Albaanee (rahimahumallaah) in Saheeh Al-Jaami, Number: 2937