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Our Salaf: Aa’isha (radiyallaahu-anhaa)

As-isha (radiyallaahu-anhaa) said:

”Indeed you (people) are heedless of the most virtuous (act) of worship; HUMILITY.”

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Az-Zudh of Ibnul Mubaarak 132

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[Reminder: Marriage is not lust and the woman is not just pleasure and enjoyment

The noble Sheikh, the Mufti of the committee of major scholars in Saudi Arabia, Sheikh Abdul Aziz ibn Abdullah Aali Shiekh declared that marriage is not just about lust and fulfilling the desires rather it is security and living together and stability.

And the noble Sheikh said: Some of the Muslims have an incorrect understanding about marriage, understanding it in a way other than its reality. Some of them have an understanding that marriage is simply about fulfilling their desires, so although they might implement the legislated marriage contract, their intention with this marriage is not stability nor commitment rather he marries and in himself he is planning to divorce her, meaning he knows in himself that he will marry her for a specific time period even if he does not mention this or disclose this.

So he marries her due to his desire for her not to have serenity and peace of mind with her, but he only counts her as just a simple pleasure; so he’s always on the verge of divorcing her and bringing in someone other than her. So he is a husband and at the same time he mixes this with the intention of divorce. And he does not want from the woman anything other than pleasure.

This is deception to the woman and dishonesty and misleading her; and if a man came to his daughter or his sister and he knew that he did not want her except for this purpose he would not allow him to marry her, but when it comes to other peoples daughters he does whatever he wants.

And all of this is from deception and dishonesty and fraud and betrayal. And for this reason Islam has prohibited temporary marriage; and this is to marry for an estimated number of days for an agreed upon specific duration. Therefore this was made impermissible due to the harms that it contains.

And the Sheikh said: So what the person does not like for his daughters then he should not like it for the daughters of the Muslims.

And the Sheikh said: And some of the people might travel to places in order to find marriage for a specific number of days or months and he thinks this is a marriage contract and all of this is trivial to him, so he falls into sin.

And there are some who marry a number of women before (the other women he divorced) finish their waiting period. So he will merge the marriage to more than ten women in one month without any concern for the Islamic legislated contract.

And the Mufti said: The Muslim must have good judgment and he should not let his goal be to fulfill his desire in a way that is not in accordance with the Islamic legislation. And he must adorn himself with the manners of Islam, and he must look at other peoples daughters just like he looks at his own daughters and his own sisters, and he should put people in the position that he likes to be in.

Therefore if the person believes it allowable to do evil to the daughters of others and to not comply with the Islamic standard and then he does not want this same evil for his daughters; then why this discrepancy? Where is the balance, where is the justice?

Unfortunately, there are some Muslims who make permissible that which Allah has made impermissible so in a matter of days they marry a number of women, all with the intention of divorce, seeking by this to gain some benefit (from the wife) in the summer or the winter or other than this, and Islam prohibits this. Therefore Islam wants for us to be well-balanced in our contracts and to put others in the position of our daughters and our sisters and to be truthful in our dealings.

And the Sheikh said: And some of them go and travel and get married against the normal system and then they fall into sin or serious situations and perhaps they might abandon their wives or leave them and not return to them after they have become pregnant or given birth to his child, so this exposes the Muslim descendants to danger. And some of them dont care about their wives or their children so major problems occur as a result of this treacherous marriage.

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Beautiful advice from al-‘Allaamah Zayd al-Madkhalee, for the young Muslims…Shaikh Zayd

Beautiful advice from al-‘Allaamah Zayd al-Madkhalee (rahimahullaah), for the young Muslims and the manners they should adorn themselves with:
http://www.salafitalk.com/threads/1940-Manners-the-young-muslim-should-adorn-himself-with-al-Allaamah-Zayd-al-Madkhalee?p=3183#post3183

Cursed is the one who approaches his wife in her…..

The Messenger of Allaah (sallal-laahu alayhi wasallam) said:

”Cursed is he who approaches a woman (i.e. his wife) in the anus.” [1]

The messenger (sallal-laahu- alayhi wasallam) said:

”Indeed Allah is not shy of the truth.  Do not have intercourse with women (i.e. your wives) in their anuses.” [2]

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[1]Reported by Imaam Ahmad 2/479.Saheeh al Jaami no: 5865

[2] Reported by Imam Nasaa-ee, Ibn Maajah and others. Authenticated by Imaam Al Albaanee in Saheeh al Jaami No: 933, 934, 1852, 7711

Seize The Benefit Of Five Things From The People Of Your Time

Ibn Abee Haatim(.328H) Rahimahullaah said:

”I entered Damascus and came upon the students of hadeeth, and I passed by the circle of Qaasim al Joo’ee(d.248 AH). I found a  group sitting around him and he was speaking. Their appearance amazed me; and I heard him saying:

”Seize The Benefit Of Five Things From The People Of Your Time:

  1. When you are present, you are not known;
  2. When you are absent you are not missed;
  3. When you are seen, your advice is not sought;
  4. When you say something, your saying is not accepted;
  5. And when you have some knowledge, you are not given anything for it.

I Also Advise You With Five Matters:

  1. When you are treated unjustly, do not behave unjustly;
  2. When you are praised, do not become happy;
  3. When you are criticised, do not become upset;
  4. When you are not believed, do not become angry;
  5. And if people act deceitfully towards you, do not act deceitfully towards them.”

Ibn Abee Haatim said: ”So I took that as my benefit from Damascus.”

Related by Ibn al Jawzee in Sifatus-safwah(2/200).

‘’Having intercourse (with one’s wife) is a charity.”

The Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: ”Having intercourse (with one’s wife) is a charity.” [1]

In this there is: Perfect enjoyment; Kindness towards a beloved wife; seeking reward, gaining reward equivalent to giving Sadaqah, exhilaration of the soul, expelling bad thoughts, lighten the soul, expel her strain [and yours]; lighten her body and balancing her temperament [and yours]. If this happens in a good way, with gentleness and a lot of passion, complete desire and seeking reward, there will not be any enjoyment equal to it. [2]


[1] [Reported by Muslim. Number 1674]

[2]An Excerpt from Rawdatul Muhibbeen Wa Nuzhatul Mush-taaqeen of Imaam Ibnul Qayyim. Page 187. Slightly paraphrased]

[نعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم]-What type of intoxication is this?!

Allaah (The Most High) said:

لَعَمۡرُكَ إِنَّہُمۡ لَفِى سَكۡرَتِہِمۡ يَعۡمَهُونَ

”Verily, by your life (O Muhammad), in their wild intoxication, they were wandering blindly.”[1]

This wild intoxication is an intoxication with love of lewd acts, which (made) them neither heedful of rebuke nor blame. [2]

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[1] Soorah Al-Hijr. Ayah 72]

[2] Tayseer Al-Kareem Ar-Rahmaan Fee Tafseer Kalaam Al-Mannaan’ of Imaam Sadi

 

Haughtiness and supporting error—Imaam Ibn Battah

Imaam Ibn Battah (rahimahullaah) said:

Whoever heard the truth and rejects it after having knowledge of it, then he is from those who are haughty towards Allaah. And whoever supports error, then he is from the party of shaytaan. [Al-Ibaanah: 2/54]

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