Imaam Dhahabi (rahimahullah) said:
“It is obligatory upon the scholar to speak with (sincere) intention and a good aim. If his speech amazes him, he should keep quiet; and if keeping quiet amazes him, he should speak. He should not slacken in examining his soul, because it loves fame and praise” [Siyar A’laam Nubulaa 4/494]
Mahmood Al-Warraaq (rahimahullaah) said:
”The most perfect amongst the people is the one who is more knowledgeable about his shortcomings and suppresses his desires and covetousness the most.” [Jaami Bayaan Al-Ilm Wa Fadlihi 1/259]
Imaam Ibnul Qayyim [rahimahullaah] said that Abu Hafs [rahimahullaah] said, ”The best of that which a slave seeks a means of closeness to his Mawlaa [his Protector, Patron, Supporter (i.e. Allaah)] is to be constantly in need of Him in all circumstances, holding onto the Sunnah in all his actions and seeking nourishment [i.e. food] through permissible means.” [Tareequl Hijratayn: page 59]
Here is an audio for clarification, so that none in Manchester or elsewhere make any claims in order to raise themselves beyond what is due; or seek to diminish the rightful status of others.
We ask Allaah for humility and truthfulness.
Abu Khaythama narrated to us, (saying): Jareer related to us from Layth from Mujaahid from Ibn Abbaas, (that): ”There are two types of people with a strong desire and the strong desire of each one of them will not end—the one who has a strong desire in pursuit of knowledge, his desire will not end. And the one who has a strong desire in pursuit of the worldly (things, affairs etc.), his desire will not end.”
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[Kitaabul Ilm of Abu Khaythama with the checking of Imaam Albaanee Number: 141. Page: 33]
Question:
What is the verdict–“Going to a man called shaykh who uses the Qu’aan to cure (people); but he recites over women whilst secluding himself with each one of (them). And if the woman’s condition requires (further attention), he makes her stay with him in his house for some days. Indeed, I was from those women, but I have realised with great regret (about such error) and I have sought Allaah’s forgiveness and repented to Him. Give us a verdict (regarding this) and may Allaah reward you and us with all good?
Answer:
The seclusion of a man with a strange woman—(i.e. a woman he is not allowed to free mix with)– is haraam even if that was for the purpose of performing ruqya with the Qur’aan, due to statement of the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi- wasallam): “A man does not seclude himself with a (strange) woman except that shaytaan is the third of them”[1] And your seclusion with that man, spending time in the house of that man who is a stranger to you, staying with him in his house for a number of nights and days in seclusion with him–this is a greater danger and a greater crime, because it is from the means to evil and corruption. Therefore, any woman who did the likes of this (action), then it is incumbent upon her to sincerely repent from that and should never repeat the likes of this evil act. And to Allaah belongs all bestowal (of guidance and ability to perform good deeds)
وصلى الله على نبينا محمد واله وصحبه وسلم
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[Source:Fataawaa Al – Mar’atil Muslimah compiled by Daarus Sahaabah and Daar Sabeelil Mumineen with the recommendation of shaikh Muhammad Al – Imaam, page:63 or see Fataawaa Al-Lajna Ad-Daa’imah 63/17)
Ref 1:As-saheehah of Imaam Albaanee, Number:430
Question:
When I go to propose a young woman for marriage, how should i speak to her in order to know her Aqeedah, fear of Allaah, manners and etiquettes?
Answer:
It is permissible for the proposer to have a look at the one he is proposing but not in seclusion, because the Sunnah has confirmed that from the Messenger of Allaah (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam). And he can ask her and her guardians what he holds important in relation to a beneficial marriage.
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[Source:Fataawaa Al-Mar’atil Muslimah compiled by Daarus Sahaabah and Daar sabeelil Mumineen with the recommendation of Shaikh Muhammad Al-Imaam, page:542 or see Fataawaa Islaamiyyah of Shaikh Bin Baaz; 3/128]
Question:
What is the ruling regarding daughters who publicize themselves in the newspapers and magazines with a description of their characteristics for the one who desires to propose and marry them?
Answer:
A woman publicizing herself in the magazines and newspapers out of a desire for marriage, whilst making a mention of her characteristics is (something) in opposition to shyness, modesty and protection (of a woman from strange men and harm). This is not from the normal habits of the Muslims and it is obligatory to abandon it. This (action) is in violation of the guardianship of her guardian over her, due to the (fact) that a proposal made to her for marriage has (to be done) through him and (with) his agreement. And to Allaah belongs (all bestowal of guidance and ability to perform good deeds).
وصلى الله على نبينا محمد واله وصحبه وسلم
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[Source: Fataawaa Al-Mar’atil Muslimah compiled by Daarus Sahaabah and Daar Sabeelil Mumineen with the recommendation of Shaikh Muhammad Al-Imaam page: 538 or see Fataawaa Al-Lajna Ad-Daa-imah 40/18]
Question:
My husband requests that I stay up late at night with him but I refuse because I want to pray the night prayer, so I sleep early. Is this (refusal of mine) disobedience to a husband?
Answer:
It is incumbent upon you to obey your husband in good. If he calls you to stay up late and you will definitely fail to perform the fajr salaah at its fixed time or (he calls you to stay up late) to watch what is evil, then you do not obey him. As for other than this then it is obligatory to obey him even if the night prayer is missed because it is an (optional) Sunnah and obedience to a husband is obligatory.
وصلى الله على نبينا محمد واله وصحبه وسلم
[Source: Fataawaa Al-Lajna Ad-Daa-imah 19/222]
