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The Students of Hadeeth Should Strive to Be The Best In Behaviour!

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

It is necessary (or crucial) that the seekers of Hadeeth should have the most perfect [behaviour, manners, etiquettes etc] amongst the people, be the most humble amongst the people, the greatest in their impartiality and adherence to the religion, the least in (deviating from good conduct) and (being overcome with) anger, because they constantly listen to the narrations that gathers the excellent manners and etiquettes of Allaah’s Messenger [peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him], the lives of the virtuous pious predecessors, the path of the scholars of Hadeeth and the virtues of the (pious ones and scholars) who have passed away; so they adhere to the purest and excellent (aspects of those traits, etiquettes, manners etc) and turn away from the most despised and lowly [(raits, behaviour, manners, etiquettes etc). [Source: An Excerpt from ‘Jaami Bayaan Al-Ilm 1/78. By Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdaadi (rahimahullaah). Slightly paraphrased]

The Great Reward for the One Who Maintains the Ties of Kinship

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Question: The questioner asks: We have blood relations who revile us, so is it obligatory that we have to visit them and maintain the ties of kinship?

Answer: Maintaining the ties of kinship is from the best of deeds due to the saying of the Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam): Whoever would like his provision to be increased and his lifespan to be extended, let him maintain the ties of kinship. [Reported by Bukhari and Muslim from Anas Ibn Maalik (radiyallaahu-anhu)]

Abu Hurairah [radiyallaahu-anhu] said, “The Prophet [sallal-laahi-alayhi-wasallam] said, ‘The Prophet said: Indeed Ar-Rahim (the womb) derives its root from Ar-Rahmãn (i.e., one of the Names of Allah) and Allah said: ‘I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you, (womb i.e., kith and kin) and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you, (womb, i.e., kith and kin).” [Reported by Bukhaari]

So even if you receive harm or revilement from them, it is still obligated on you to exercise patience in bearing their harm and deal with them kindly, and you’ll obtain a great reward (from Allaah). Abu Hurairah reported that a man said Abu Hurairah [radiyallaahu-anhu] said: A man said to the Messenger of Allaah, “I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. I treat them well, but they abuse me. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me.” The Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] said, “If you are as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot dust in their mouths. Allaah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that”. [Reported by Muslim]

Abdullah Ibn Umar [radiyallaahu-anhu] said that the Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said: The one who maintains a relationship with his relatives only because they maintain a relationship with him is not truly upholding the ties of kinship. The one who truly upholds those ties is the one who does so even if they break off the relationship. [Reported by Bukhaari] This is difficult upon the soul (i.e. a hard thing to bear patiently) but it carries a great reward.

[Source: Fadaa’il Al- A’maal pages 14-15’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah)]

 

 

 

 

 

Relationship Between Grandparents And Grandchildren

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 In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

The questioner asks: A relative of mine has children and those children neither sit with their grandmother nor do they visit her except occasionally, and the excuse they give is that she is harsh towards them. Her son is the only one who sits with her, so is this [i.e. behaviour of her grandchildren] permissible?

Answer: It is obligated on them to sit with her and make her happy because she is their grandmother. She is like their mother, so it is obligated on them to treat her with kindness and this is part of maintaining the ties of kinship. It is obligated on her son to nurture his children upon this [i.e. to keep the ties of kinship], deal kindly and softly with their grandmother. Likewise it is obligated on the grandmother to be gentle towards these children and not to be harsh towards them if what the children say is true. Abdullaah Ibn Amr [radiyallaahu-anhu] said that the Messenger [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “He (or she) is not one of us, who does not respect our elders and is not merciful to our youngsters”. [Reported by Imam Ahmad]

[Source: Fadaa’il Al- A’maal page 19’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah)]

Allaah Supports Those Who Are Kind to Their Relatives

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Severing the ties with relatives and boycotting them due to affairs of little importance is not permissible; rather it is obligatory to keep the ties of kinship, even if your relatives harm you personally. The true keeper of the ties of kinship is the one who maintains ties even if they (i.e. relatives) break it; as reported by Imaam Al-Bukhaari (rahimahullaah) and others on the authority of Abdullaah Ibn Amr Ibn Aas [radiyallaahu-anhu] that the Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “The maintainer of the ties of kinship is not the one who returns kind treatment to his relatives when they treat him kindly; rather the maintainer of the ties of kinship is the one who, when his relatives cut him off, he maintains it”.

And (Imaam) Muslim reported in his Saheeh on the authority of Abu Hurairah that a man said, “O Messenger of Allah! I have relatives with whom I maintain ties of kinship, while they cut me off. I treat them kindly, while they are evil to me. They behave ignorantly towards me and I am forbearing towards them.’ He (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) then said: ‘If the (affair) is as you have stated, it is as if you were placing hot ashes on them and you will not cease to have a supporter from Allaah against them as long as you carry on doing that’”.

Source:Al-Mindhaar Fee Bayaani Katheer Minal Akhtaa Ash-Shaa’i’ah by Shaikh Saaleh Aala Shaikh (hafidhahullaah). Pages 80-81

They Exalted Worldly Possessions And Status Until That Led Them to Question Allaah Regarding Who Should Be Sent As a Messenger!

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Imaam Muhammad Bin Abdul Wahhaab [rahimahullaah] stated in Masaa-ilil Jaahiliyyah: [The Worldly Life Was Exalted In Their Hearts, as Allaah [The Exalted] Said [that They Said]: [ لَوۡلَا نُزِّلَ هَـٰذَا ٱلۡقُرۡءَانُ عَلَىٰ رَجُلٍ۬ مِّنَ ٱلۡقَرۡيَتَيۡنِ عَظِيمٍ – Why is not this Qur’aan sent down to some great man of the two towns]. [Surah Az-Zukhruf, Aayah 31]

Commentary:

One of the traits of the [people] of Al-Jaahiliyyah [i.e. the people who lived during the Pre-Islamic Era of Ignorance] was that the worldly life was exalted in their hearts; so, they regarded the one who possessed [the things of the worldly life] to be honourable and the one who was not in possession of the [things of the worldly life] to be of lowly [status] and despised. And even in the affair of Risaalah [Messengership], which is Allaah’s [absolute choice to choose the one He decides to send as a Messenger], they saw that it should be given to the rich people and not the poor people.  And they said, “Allaah found [none], except an orphan of Abu Taalib to send [as a Messenger]? They were referring to Muhammad [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam]. [   لَوۡلَا نُزِّلَ هَـٰذَا ٱلۡقُرۡءَانُ عَلَىٰ رَجُلٍ۬ مِّنَ ٱلۡقَرۡيَتَيۡنِ عَظِيمٍ – And they say: “Why is not this Qur’aan sent down to some great man of the two towns]. [Surah Az-Zukhruf. Aayah 31]. The two towns are Makkah and Madina; and that [great man] in Makkah is Waleed Bin Mugheerah or Habeeb Bin Amr Ath-thaqafee; and it is said that the great man in Taa’if is Urwa Bin Mas’ood.

The people of Al-Jaahiliyyah [i.e. the people who lived during the Pre-Islamic Era of Ignorance] said, “If the message was given to one of those two great men, it would have been befitting to be [regarded] a message, but it does not befit them to think that it is given to a poor orphan [i.e. Muhammad-sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam]. Allaah [The Exalted] said [in response to them]: [ أَهُمۡ يَقۡسِمُونَ رَحۡمَتَ رَبِّكَ‌ۚ – Is it they who would portion out the mercy of your Lord] [Surah Az-Zukhruf. Aayah 32] – Meaning: They interfered in Allaah’s [choice, decrees, decisions etc]. They wanted to portion out Allaah’s Mercy and did not testify to what Allaah portioned out [of His Mercy], even though [ٱللَّهُ أَعۡلَمُ حَيۡثُ يَجۡعَلُ رِسَالَتَهُ – Allaah knows best with whom to place his message] [Surah Al-An’aam. Aayah 24]

[Source: An Excerpt from ‘Sharh Masaa-ilil Jaahiliyyah (by Sheikh Fawzaan (hafidhahullaah). Page: 261-262. Slightly paraphrased]

The Blessing of Contentment

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Purification of The Soul, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Question: The questioner asks: How can a person attain contentment with what Allaah has provided for him (or her)?

Answer: Among those specific (manners) that will enable a person to be contented with what Allaah portioned out for him (or her) is to have Ridaa (i.e. to be pleased with Allaah’s decree and submit to it without any resistance or displeasure) with the livelihood Allaah has portioned out for him (or her). Allaah (Glorified be He and free is He from all imperfections) stated:

نَحْنُ قَسَمْنَا بَيْنَهُم مَّعِيشَتَهُمْ فِي الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا ۚ وَرَفَعْنَا بَعْضَهُمْ فَوْقَ بَعْضٍ دَرَجَاتٍ لِّيَتَّخِذَ بَعْضُهُم بَعْضًا سُخْرِيًّا ۗ وَرَحْمَتُ رَبِّكَ خَيْرٌ مِّمَّا يَجْمَعُونَ

It is We Who portion out between them their livelihood in this world, and We raised some of them above others in ranks, so that some may employ others in their work. But the Mercy (Paradise) of your Lord (O Muhammad) is better than the (wealth of this world) which they amass. [43:32]

This (i.e. what is stated in this ayah) enables a person to be contented with what Allaah has portioned out for him (or her). And also because of this Allaah (The Most High) said to His noble Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam):

وَلَا تَمُدَّنَّ عَيْنَيْكَ إِلَىٰ مَا مَتَّعْنَا بِهِ أَزْوَاجًا مِّنْهُمْ زَهْرَةَ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا لِنَفْتِنَهُمْ فِيهِ ۚ وَرِزْقُ رَبِّكَ خَيْرٌ وَأَبْقَىٰ

And strain not your eyes in longing for the things We have given for enjoyment to various groups of them (polytheists and disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah), the splendour of the life of this world that We may test them thereby. But the provision (good reward in the Hereafter) of your Lord is better and more lasting. [20:131]

Abu Hurairah (radiyallaahu-anhu) said that the Messenger of Allaah (salllal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: Look to those below you (i.e. compare yourselves to those lesser in status and provision than you etc) and do not look to those above you (i.e. those given higher status or provision more than you). This is more appropriate lest you look down upon Allaah’s favours (upon you). [Reported by Muslim]

[Source: Fadaa’il Al-A’maal pages 29-30’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah)]

A Warning Against Covetousness!

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Ibn Abbaas [radiyallaahu-anhumaa] said, “I heard the Messenger of Allaah [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] say, ‘If the son of Aadam had a valley filled with wealth, he would love to have [another one] similar to it. Nothing can suffice the son of Aadam’s soul except dust. And Allaah forgives the one who repents’”. [Saheeh Muslim- Hadeeth number 1049]

Few Reminders Related to The Above Hadeeth

  • The son of Aadam does not cease being eager for the Dunyah until death and thus his mouth is filled with the dust in his grave.
  • Allaah accepts the repentance of a person who repents from that blameworthy eagerness for the Dunyah [worldly possessions].
  • This hadeeth censures blameworthy eagerness for the Dunyah, the [blameworthy] love of gathering worldly things and being desirous of them.

[Source: An Excerpt from ‘Saheeh Muslim Bi-Sharhin Nawawi’ Vol 7-8. page 124′ Daar Kotob Al-Ilmiyyah 1st Ed 1421AH (Year 2000). slightly paraphrased]

 

Allāh Hates all Lowly Manners, Characteristics, Speech and Actions – Shaykh Zayd, Shaykh ‘Abdullāh Bassām and Shaykh Fawzān

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عن أنس رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: ما كان الفحش في شيء؛ إلا شانه، و ما كان الحياء في شيء؛ إلا زانه

On the authority of Anas (Allāh be pleased with him), that the Messenger of Allāh (sallāhu alaihi wa salam) said:

Indecency is not present in an affair except that it makes it ugly, and shyness/shame is not present in an affair except that it beautifies it. (Authenticated by al-Imām Al-Albāni in Sahīh At-Tirmidhi vol.2 pg. 369)

Shaykh Zayd ibn Hādi (rahimahullāh):

This hadith indicates the great status of shyness/shame in the religion of Islam, due to (the effect it has on the servant of) making him feel ashamed of facing Allah, whilst abandoning His commands, or carrying out a prohibition, or wrongdoing in speech or action in an affair connected to the rights of the creation.

Alongside that, the Hadith shows the dispraise of indecency in speech or actions, regardless of if it is linked to the rights of Allāh, His messenger or the ummah (in general). This is because Islam calls to the adornment of all praiseworthy characteristics, statements and deeds and the abandonment of all lowly despicable characteristics, actions and statements.

عن أبي الدرداء رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: إن الله يبغض الفاحش البذيء

Abu ad-Darda (Allāh be pleased with him), said that the Messenger of Allāh (sallāhu alaihi wa salam) said:

Verily, Allāh hates the fāhish and the badhī.

Shaykh Al-Fawzān (hafidahullāh) explains:

Al-Fāhish are the perpetrators of foul indecent disgusting actions and Al-Badhī are the utterers of indecency, cursing, revilement and slandering etc.

All of these affairs are evil and Allāh hates those who posses these two characteristics.

 ‎  ليس المؤمن بالطعان، ولا اللعان، ولا الفاحش، ولا البذيء ‎ :عن عبد الله بن مسعود رضي الله عنه قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم

‘Abdullāh ibn Mas’ūd (Allāh be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allāh (sallāhu alaihi wa salam) said:

The (complete) believer does not revile and curse (frequently whether he has a reason or not) and neither does he commit immoral vile disgusting deeds or utter lewd immoral speech. (Authenticated by al- Imām Al-Albāni in Sahīh At-Tirmidhi vol.2 pg. 370)

Shaykh ‘Abdullāh Bassām (rahimahullāh) mentions at the end of his explanation of this hadīth:

In conclusion, these are not the manners of someone whose heart has been illuminated with the light of īmān in Allāh. Nor of one whose manners have been beautified by at-Taqwa. Or of one whose conduct has been improved by worship, or by the one whose tongue has become rectified and refined by adh-dhikr; rather these are only the manners of the riffraff from the sinful and hypocrites.

Shaykh Zayd ibn Hādi (rahimahullāh) concludes his explanation of the hadīth of Anas by saying:

When the issue is as you have learnt oh Muslims, then verily it is compulsory upon us to take an example from what these texts show us, in relation to the praiseworthy nature of shyness/shame and the evil of depravity, indecency, lewdness etc.

Compiled, abridged and paraphrased from:
Shaykh Zayd ibn Hādi’s ‘Awnul-Ahadis-Samad Sharhul-Adabil-Mufrad vol.2 pgs. 213-214
Shaykh Fawzān’s Tashīlul-Ilmām bi Fiqhil-Ahādīth min Bulūghil-Marām Vol.6 pgs 263-264
Shaykh ‘Abdullāh Bassām’s Tawdīhil-Ahkām min Bulūghil-Marām vol.7 pg 497

Take Good Care of the Youth – Shaykh Al-Uthaymīn

Written by Amjad Khan on . Posted in Articles, Brotherhood, Da'wah - Calling To Islam, Family & Women, Must Read.

Shaykh Al-Uthaymīn (Allah have mercy on him) said:

The legislated texts came urging with (cultivating and) taking good care of the youth; directing them to that which is good, upright and proper.

Therefore, if the youth are upright and proper – and they are the foundation and future of this nation, their uprightness is built upon strong pillars of the religion and manners – in the future they will be a light for this nation and righteous successors for our scholars, inshā Allāh.

Source: Shaykh Uthaymīn’s “Min Mushkilāt Ash-Shabāb” page 5

Our Noble Messenger Informed Us That Our Creator Commanded Us to Be Humble

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

Iyaad Bin Himaar [radiyallaahu-anhu] said: The Messenger [sallal-laahi-alayhi-wasallam] stood amongst us one day and addressed (us), so he said: Indeed Allaah has revealed to me that you must be humble, so that no one boasts over another and no one oppresses another. [Saheeh Muslim: Hadeeth Number: 2865]

[Indeed Allaah has revealed to me that you must be humble]- Meaning: Everyone should be humble towards the other and not elevate himself above another [person]; rather he [a person] should place him [i.e. the other person] in the same rank as himself or honours him more. And it was from the customary behaviour of the Salaf [may Allaah have mercy upon them] for one amongst them to treat someone younger than him like his own son and someone older than him like his own father, and someone similar to him like his own brother. So he looks at the one older than him with honour and reverence, the one younger than him with compassion and mercy and the one similar to him with equality-none transgresses against the other. This is from the affairs that are obligatory upon a person to characterise himself with- humble in the presence of Allaah and towards his Muslim brothers.

[An Excerpt from Sharh Riyaadus-Saaliheen- by Imaam Muhammad Ibn Saaleh Al-Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah): Number: 602 slightly paraphrased]