Reconciliation
In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.
Allah said:
وَإِن طَآٮِٕفَتَانِ مِنَ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ ٱقۡتَتَلُواْ فَأَصۡلِحُواْ بَيۡنَہُمَاۖ فَإِنۢ بَغَتۡ إِحۡدَٮٰهُمَا عَلَى ٱلۡأُخۡرَىٰ فَقَـٰتِلُواْ ٱلَّتِى تَبۡغِى حَتَّىٰ تَفِىٓءَ إِلَىٰٓ أَمۡرِ ٱللَّهِۚ فَإِن فَآءَتۡ فَأَصۡلِحُواْ بَيۡنَہُمَا بِٱلۡعَدۡلِ وَأَقۡسِطُوٓاْۖ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُقۡسِطِينَ
إِنَّمَا ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ إِخۡوَةٌ۬ فَأَصۡلِحُواْ بَيۡنَ أَخَوَيۡكُمۡۚ وَٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تُرۡحَمُونَ
And if two parties or groups among the believers fall to fighting, then make peace between them both, but if one of them transgresses against the other, then fight you (all) against the one that which rebels till it complies with the Command of Allah; then if it complies, then make reconciliation between them justly, and be equitable. Verily! Allah loves those who are equitable. The believers are nothing else than brothers (in Islamic religion). So make reconciliation between your brothers, and fear Allah, that you may receive mercy. [Al-Hujuraat. 9-10]
Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:
Allah commanded the reconciliation between the two warring factions initially. However, if one side oppresses the other, the obligation shifts to fighting against the transgressor rather than seeking peace, as they are unjust. Attempting to reconcile in the face of such injustice undermines the rights of the oppressed group. Many unjust individuals who claim to be peacemakers often mediate between the powerful oppressor and the weak victim in a way that favours the powerful, believing they have achieved harmony, while in reality, they deny the oppressed their rightful claims. This is injustice; rather, the wronged party should be allowed to reclaim their rights. They can then be asked, with their consent, to forgo a portion of their rights without favouritism towards those in power, ensuring that there is no coercion involved in favouring others.
A reconciliation that permits the forbidden and prohibits the permissible is akin to an agreement that forbids a lawful act, allows an unlawful act, enslaves a free person, alters lineage, waives an obligation, suspends a punishment, or inflicts injustice on a third party. The permissible reconciliation among Muslims is one that is based on Allāh’s Pleasure and the satisfaction of both parties involved (based on justice). This represents the most just and rightful form of settlement, grounded in knowledge and fairness. The mediator should be well-informed about the circumstances, aware of their responsibilities, and committed to justice. The merit of this role is even greater than that of the (voluntary) fasting and prayer of a person, as the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him, said: ‘Shall I not inform you of something more excellent in degree than (voluntary) fasting, prayer and almsgiving?’ The people replied: ‘Certainly O Prophet of Allah!’ He said: “It is working for reconciliation between people, and spoiling it is the shaver (destruction)”. [Abu Dawud 4919]
The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “Whoever has wronged his brother, should ask for his pardon (before his death), as (in the Hereafter) there will be neither a Dinar nor a Dirham. (He should secure pardon in this life) before some of his good deeds are taken and paid to his brother, or, if he has done no good deeds, some of the bad deeds of his brother are taken to be loaded on him (in the Hereafter). [Al-Bukhari 6534] [2]
Imam As-Sadi, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:
This is a prohibition on the believers against transgressing and fighting one another; and that if two groups of believers fall to fighting, it is obligated to others amongst the believers to prevent this great evil by bringing about reconciliation between them, mediating in the best manner that will bring about reconciliation and employing the means that will lead to that. Thus, if they achieve reconciliation that is wonderful; (3) but [فَإِنۢ بَغَتۡ إِحۡدَٮٰهُمَا عَلَى ٱلۡأُخۡرَىٰ ٱللَّهِۚ – but if one of them transgresses against the other]- Meaning, when they seek after what they are not entitled to and refuse to return to reconciliation (4); [فَقَـٰتِلُواْ ٱلَّتِى تَبۡغِى حَتَّىٰ تَفِىٓءَ إِلَىٰٓ أَمۡرِ – then fight you (all) against the one that which rebels till it complies with the Command of Allah] – Meaning, return to that which Allah and His Messenger have decided to be acted upon- good deeds, and to abandon evil, one of severest of which is fighting. [فَإِن فَآءَتۡ فَأَصۡلِحُواْ بَيۡنَہُمَا بِٱلۡعَدۡلِ – then if it complies, then make reconciliation between them justly, and be equitable]. This is a command to bring about reconciliation and be just in bringing about reconciliation, because indeed reconciliation may exist, but not based on justice, rather it maybe based on injustice and unfair treatment towards one of the two disputing groups. This is not the type of reconciliation that is stipulated. It is incumbent that one should not show favour to one of the two groups due to close blood relations, shared homeland or other goals and aims that would necessitate refraining from justice. [إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُقۡسِطِينَ – Verily! Allah loves those who are equitable]- Meaning, those who are just in all their rulings between people and in all those affairs entrusted to them, even including a man’s fair dealing with his wife, family and dependents by fulfilling their rights. (5)
Al-Allaamah Salih Al-Fawzan, may Allah preserve him, said:
A person should not leave the people in dispute; rather it is incumbent upon him to be eager to bring about conciliation between disputing parties, especially relatives. As for some people-and Allaah’s Protection is sought-they only bring into disputes that which will increase it. This type of person is a shaytaan. Also the one who seeks to bring about conciliation between the people should do that with justice; he should not oppress any of them or judge based on desires”. (6)
Al-Allamah Rabee Bin Hadi Al-Mad’khali, may Allah preserve him, said,
“There is one who comes to two disputing parties, misguides them and does not give greater weight to the truth. He has a new doctrine which he considers to be balanced, but it is falsehood and sophistry”. (7)
Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih Al-Uthaymeen, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:
Fujur Fil Khusumah is two types: rejecting what is obligated to you and claiming what one is not entitled to. [8]
[1] https://www.thenoblequran.com/q/#/verse/49/9
https://www.thenoblequran.com/q/#/verse/49/10
[2] Excerpts from “I’laam al-Muwaqqi’een 1/84-86
[3] An Excerpt from Tafseer As-Sadi. slightly paraphrased]
[4] An Excerpt from Zaadul Maseer Fee Ilmit Tafseer. By Imaam Ibnul Jawzi]
[5] An Excerpt from Tafseer As-Sadi. slightly paraphrased]
[6] An Excerpt from ‘Al-Minhatur Rabbaaniyyah Fee Sharh Al-Arba’een. 213-217. slightly paraphrased]
[7] دحر إفتراءات p191
[8] https://youtu.be/FGtZtOBbif4