[6] Determinants of Wholesome Relationships
In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy
Distance From Transgression
Allah, The Most High, said:
وَلَقَدۡ ءَاتَيۡنَا بَنِىٓ إِسۡرَٲٓءِيلَ ٱلۡكِتَـٰبَ وَٱلۡحُكۡمَ وَٱلنُّبُوَّةَ وَرَزَقۡنَـٰهُم مِّنَ ٱلطَّيِّبَـٰتِ وَفَضَّلۡنَـٰهُمۡ عَلَى ٱلۡعَـٰلَمِينَ
وَءَاتَيۡنَـٰهُم بَيِّنَـٰتٍ۬ مِّنَ ٱلۡأَمۡرِۖ فَمَا ٱخۡتَلَفُوٓاْ إِلَّا مِنۢ بَعۡدِ مَا جَآءَهُمُ ٱلۡعِلۡمُ بَغۡيَۢا بَيۡنَهُمۡۚ إِنَّ رَبَّكَ يَقۡضِى بَيۡنَہُمۡ يَوۡمَ ٱلۡقِيَـٰمَةِ فِيمَا كَانُواْ فِيهِ يَخۡتَلِفُونَ
And indeed We gave the Children of Israel the Scripture, and the understanding of the Scripture and its laws, and the Prophethood; and provided them with good things, and preferred them above the ‘Alamin (mankind and jinns) (of their time, during that period); And gave them clear proofs in matters [by revealing to them the Taurat (Torah)]. And they differed not until after the knowledge came to them, through envy among themselves. Verily, Your Lord will judge between them on the Day of Resurrection about that wherein they used to differ. [Surah Al-Jathiyah 16-17]
Allah, Glorified be He and free is He from all imperfections, informed us that those who differed with each other based on false interpretation, did not differ due to an absence of the knowledge which the Messengers conveyed to them, rather they differed after knowledge came to them and this has been (mentioned) a lot in the Qur’an. [1] They did not differ due to an absence of knowledge, rather (the cause of the differing was due to) the transgression and oppression (perpetrated by) some of them against others. [2]
Damratah Bin Thalabah [may Allah be pleased with him] said that Allah’s Messenger [peace and blessings of Allah be upon him] said, “The people will not cease to be upon good as long as they do not envy one another.
Distance From Envy and Have Ghibtah
Al-Allamah Zaid Bin Haadi Al-Mad’khali [may Allah have mercy upon him] said:
The hadith is clear in its prohibition against envy. What is intended by envy is when one wishes that the blessing bestowed upon another person should cease, regardless whether the envier wants that blessing for himself or for another person, or wants that the blessing given to the one he envies should cease- whether the blessings is related to an affair of the religion or a worldly affair. Envy is forbidden and the command to seek Allah’s protection from the evil of an envier has been stated in the Qur’an: [وَمِن شَرِّ حَاسِدٍ إِذَا حَسَدَ – And from the evil of the envier when he envies]. Therefore, one should be careful of envy! Indeed the Prophet said, “Do not envy one another”. [3]
Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim [may Allah have mercy upon him] said: There are three types of envy. The first type is very little and does not lead the (envier) to harm (others)-either by way of (hatred in) his heart, (speech of the) tongue or (deeds of the) hand; rather the person has some envy in his heart but he only deals with his Muslim brother through what Allah loves. The second type is that the envier desires that the blessing (bestowed on the one he envies) should cease. He hates that Allah should give blessings to His slaves; rather he (desires) that the envied person should remain in that state (of deprivation).The third type is Al-Ghibtah and it is when a person wishes to be like another person without desiring that the blessing possessed by that person should cease. The person who has this type of envy is not blamed; rather this is very similar to praiseworthy competition to excel another in good deeds. [4]
Amir Al-Muminin – Mu’aawiyah Bin Abi Sufyan, may Allah be pleased with him and his father, said: “I am able to please all the people [i.e. with regards to what is lawful] except the one who is envious of a blessing because never will he be pleased until that blessing ceases”. [5]
Imam Muhammad Ibn Sirin, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: “I do not envy anyone for some worldly thing, because if he is going to be from the people of paradise, then how can I envy him for something of the worldly life, while he is destined for Paradise?! And if he is going to be from the people of the hell fire, then how can I envy him for something of the worldly life, while he is destined for the Hellfire?!” [6]
[1] Bada’i at-Tafsir al-Jami Limaa Fassarahu Al-Imam Ibn al-Qayyim. 2/446
[2] Tafsir As-Sadi.
[3] at-Taleeqaat Al-Maleehah Alaa Silsilah Al-Ahaadeeth as-Saheehah. Page 1/270.
[4]: Badaa’i Al-Fawaa-id 2/237
[5]: Tarikh Baghdad 59/200
[6] Az-Zudh Al-kabeer’ Number 845]