Skip to main content

Gentleness In The Households Is a Sign of Goodness

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Contemporary Issues, Family & Women, Featured, Marriage (Nikkah), Methodology - 'Manhaj', Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Pearls of Wisdom, Prophets, Purification of The Soul, Scholars of Islam, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Aa’isha, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated that Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said to her: “O Aa’isha! Be gentle, for indeed when Allah wishes good for a household, He guides them to gentleness”.

Al-Allamah Zaid Bin Hadi Al-Mad’khali, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

This hadith contains proof regarding the fact that it is obligatory to give sincere advice and the first people one should give sincere advice is the members of the household- the wives, sons, daughters and others. Also, this hadith contains proof regarding the virtue of gentleness in all matters, for indeed gentleness is not found in any matter except that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything except that it ruins it. On the other hand, the opposite of gentleness is warn against and it is the harshness that is applied in other than its rightful place, because its end result will be alienation and disharmony. [1]

Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih Al-Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: If a person says:

“What will make a man love his wife and vice versa?”

We say: Allah has clarified this in His statement:

وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ

And live with them honourably. [An-Nisaa. 19]

If every person lives with his wife honourably and vice versa, then love, a strong bond and a happy married life will be established.

[Fataawaa Noor Alad-Darb 6/29. Abridged]

[1]at-Ta’liqat Al-Malihah Alaa Silsilah Al-Ahadith As-Sahihah. 1/277.

Gratitude to the selfless wives throughout the year, especially in Ramadan

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Basics, Contemporary Issues, Family & Women, Marriage (Nikkah), Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq'.

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

After thanking Allah, then thanks to that special person in the house – she fasts, establishes the five daily prayers and performs other acts of worship; but she also takes great pleasure in preparing the food which everyone is eager to see on the table at the time of Iftar.

She is not our possession; rather she is the one with a more compassionate heart InShaaAllaah- always ready to make everyone happy, even when she is tired.

We thank Allah for granting us the companionship of this special one- the compassionate wife and mother of the household. She is a treasure and a beloved one, within and outside the month of Ramadan.

It is a great pleasure to know that we are sharing our lives with this person- one of the most selfless people we have ever met. May Allah grant her abundant good in this life and the next and strengthen our relationship with her upon everything beloved to Allah, love and compassion. Aameen. Your hard work is always appreciated, as it involves nurturing our children, providing care, and showing unwavering dedication. “Whoever is not thankful to the people will not be thankful to Allah” (Hadith)

We truly appreciate your patience and selflessness, and we strive not to be swayed by unrealistic expectations. We recognise your struggles, fatigue, and emotional challenges, and we are committed to supporting you in practical ways whenever you need it. May Allah help us all find fulfillment, peace, and a sense of identity in caring for our home and family- roles we embrace with joy and commitment, while doing our best to support each other during demanding times.

O selfless wives! Your homes are not a “lesser” space; they are sanctuaries where we experience joy, warmth, and meaningful companionship, especially when husbands face the pressures of work or when household responsibilities become overwhelming.

The tasks we perform both inside and outside the home, and the roles we assume, are to be celebrated, not sources of conflict. Therefore, just as you appreciate your husbands’ efforts outside the home, we equally value your contributions within it. We ask Allah:

رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the pious.

Listen Here:

https://t.co/lWSSwhn4n8

Shaikh Abdur-Razzaaq Al-Badr speaks about appreciating the efforts of our wives in the house: One Day, Man Did Household Chores & Really Appreciated Wife’s Daily Efforts

Some Key Factors for Security and Peaceful Coexistence

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Aqeedah, Aqeedah (Creed & Belief), Basics, Brotherhood, Contemporary Issues, Da'wah - Calling To Islam, Family & Women, Methodology - 'Manhaj', Monotheism - Tawheed, Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Pearls of Wisdom, Prophets, Purification of The Soul, Qur'aan, Scholars of Islam, Sin, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:

“Whoever possesses the following three qualities will have the (delight) of faith: The one whom Allah and His Messenger become dearer to him than anything else; the one who loves a person and he loves him only for the sake of Allah, and the one who hates to revert to disbelief as he hates to be thrown into the fire”. [Al-Bukhari 16]

Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:

“There are not two people who love each other for the sake of Allah, and then they split from each other, except that it is due to a sin of one of them”.

Al-Allaamah Zaid Bin Haadi Al-Mad’khali, may Allah have mercy upon him, commented as follows:

This Hadith shows that to love one another, the religious and worldly benefits it contains is legislated in the Shariah. Regarding the religious benefits of this love, (it brings about) cooperation upon righteousness and piety. As for its worldly benefits, it (leads to the attainment of) necessities of life that are sought after. Those who love one another are attached to each other and remain upon that until one of them commits a sin that leads to the destruction of this legislated love- the love that was established for the sake of Allah and for the sake of Islamic brotherhood. Therefore, it is a good thing that the person abandons the sin he committed, which was the cause of separation between them, so that brotherhood for the sake of Allah is restored as it was before, and so that both the religious and worldly benefits of that brotherly love can continue. The basis of the sin committed by one of them may have occurred without any external influence, or it may have occurred due to tale-carrying and instigated by some of the devils amongst mankind- those who hasten to caused corruption in the earth.

Loving one another for the sake of Allah carries reward that has been mentioned in the Shariah texts. Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, “Allaah will give shade to seven on the day when there will be no shade but His”…and amongst those people are: “Two people who love each other only for the sake of Allah and they meet and part in Allah’s cause only”. [Awnul Ahadis Samad Sharhu Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1/445-446]

Abdullah Bin Amr, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:

“Whoever would love to be delivered from Hellfire and admitted into Paradise, let him meet his end whilst believing in Allah and the Last Day, and let him treat people as he would love to be treated”. [(1)]

Imam An-Nawawi, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: This is from the Jawami al-Kalim of the Prophet [i.e. precise speech with a comprehensive meaning] and his amazing wisdom. It is obligatory to pay close attention to this important principle and that a person must not deal with the people except in a way he loves to be dealt with. [(2)]

Al-Allamah Zayd Bin Hadi Al-Madkhali, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: A Muslim is to give consideration to his Muslim brothers in the same way he would give consideration to himself- wishing for them the good he wishes for himself and hates that evil should touch them just as he hates that for himself. The one who loves that the people should approach him with good related to the worldly affairs and affairs related to the Afterlife, then it is obligated on him to do the same for them, so that the statement of the Prophet, “You cannot (truly) believe until you wish for your brother what you wish for yourself” becomes a reality in his personality; and also the statement of the Prophet, “The believer in relation to another believer is like a structure, each part strengthening the other”. And also the statement of the Prophet, “The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim”. Whoever is able to have these characteristics, then indeed he has established Iman (in this affair), good manners and good dealings. [(3)]

Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

And from the signs of well-being and success is that whenever the slave is increased in his knowledge, he increases in humility and mercy; and whenever he is increased in action, he increases in his fear and caution; and whenever his age is increased, he decreases in eagerness; and whenever he is increased in wealth, he increases in his generosity and spending; and whenever his status and honour is increased, he increases in coming close to the people, in fulfilling their needs and being humble in (their presence). And the signs of wretchedness are: Whenever he is increased in knowledge, he increases in pride and haughtiness; and whenever he is increased in actions, he increases in his boasting, mockery of the people and having a good opinion of himself; and whenever he is increased in his status and honour, he increases in pride and haughtiness. These affairs of [well-being and wretchedness] are a trial and a test from Allah by way of which He puts His slaves to trial. He brings about well-being and wretchedness to a people by way of these affairs. [(4)]

Imam Muhammad Al-Amin Ash-Shanqeetee, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

Contemplate what the great leader [Muhammad (peace blessings of Allah be upon him)] has been commanded and how he should deal with his society. Allah, The Most High, said:

فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ ٱللَّهِ لِنتَ لَهُمْ وَلَوْ كُنتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ ٱلْقَلْبِ لَٱنفَضُّوا۟ مِنْ حَوْلِكَ فَٱعْفُ عَنْهُمْ وَٱسْتَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِى ٱلْأَمْرِ

And by the Mercy of Allah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allah’s) Forgiveness for them; and consult them in the affairs. [Aal Imran. 159]

Contemplate what a person has been commanded and how he should deal with his leader. Allah [The Most High] said:

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوٓا۟ أَطِيعُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ وَأَطِيعُوا۟ ٱلرَّسُولَ وَأُو۟لِى ٱلْأَمْرِ مِنكُمْ

O you who believe! Obey Allah and obey the Messenger (Muhammad), and those of you (Muslims) who are in authority]. [An-Nisaa.59] [Footnote a]

Contemplate what a person has been commanded to do (in order to safeguard close members) of his society, such as his children and wife. Allah [The Most High] said:

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ قُوٓا۟ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا ٱلنَّاسُ وَٱلْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَٰٓئِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَّا يَعْصُونَ ٱللَّهَ مَآ أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ

O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded. [at-Tahreem. 6]

Contemplate how (the Qur’an) has informed the person about cautiousness and resoluteness when dealing his (close) social group in particular- that if he comes across what is not befitting, he is commanded to pardon and forgive. Firstly, the Qur’an commands him to be cautious and resolute, and secondly, it commands him to pardon and forgive. Allah [The Most High] said:

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوٓا۟ إِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَٰجِكُمْ وَأَوْلَٰدِكُمْ عَدُوًّا لَّكُمْ فَٱحْذَرُوهُمْ وَإِن تَعْفُوا۟ وَتَصْفَحُوا۟ وَتَغْفِرُوا۟ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ

O you who believe! Verily, among your wives and your children there are enemies for you (i.e. may stop you from the obedience of Allah), therefore beware of them! But if you pardon (them) and overlook, and forgive (their faults), then verily, Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. [at-Taghabun. 14]

Contemplate how individuals in society have been commanded to deal with one another in general. Allah (The Most High) said:

إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يَأْمُرُ بِٱلْعَدْلِ وَٱلْإِحْسَٰنِ وَإِيتَآئِ ذِى ٱلْقُرْبَىٰ وَيَنْهَىٰ عَنِ ٱلْفَحْشَآءِ وَٱلْمُنكَرِ وَٱلْبَغْىِ يَعِظُكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ

Verily, Allah enjoins Al-Adl (i.e. justice and worshipping none but Allah Alone – Islamic Monotheism) and Al-Ihsan [i.e. to be patient in performing your duties to Allah, totally for Allah’s sake and in accordance with the Sunnah (legal ways) of the Prophet in a perfect manner], and giving (help) to kith and kin (i.e. all that Allah has ordered you to give them e.g., wealth, visiting, looking after them, or any other kind of help, etc.): and forbids Al-Fahsha’ (i.e. all evil deeds, e.g. illegal sexual acts, disobedience of parents, polytheism, to tell lies, to give false witness, to kill a life without right, etc.), and Al-Munkar (i.e. all that is prohibited by Islamic law: polytheism of every kind, disbelief and every kind of evil deeds, etc.), and Al-Baghy (i.e. all kinds of oppression), He admonishes you, that you may take heed. [An-Nahl. 90]

Allah [The Most High] said:

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱجْتَنِبُوا۟ كَثِيرًا مِّنَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا۟ وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا

O you who believe! Avoid much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another.[Al-Hujuraat. 12] [Footnote b]

Allah said:

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ لَا يَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌ مِّن قَوْمٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُونُوا۟ خَيْرًا مِّنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَآءٌ مِّن نِّسَآءٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُنَّ خَيْرًا مِّنْهُنَّ وَلَا تَلْمِزُوٓا۟ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا۟ بِٱلْأَلْقَٰبِ بِئْسَ ٱلِٱسْمُ ٱلْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ ٱلْإِيمَٰنِ وَمَن لَّمْ يَتُبْ فَأُو۟لَٰٓئِكَ هُمُ ٱلظَّٰلِمُونَ

O you who believe! Let not a group scoff at another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former; nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former, nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad is it, to insult one’s brother after having Faith [i.e. to call your Muslim brother (a faithful believer) as: “O sinner”, or “O wicked”, etc.]. And whosoever does not repent, then such are indeed Zalimun (wrong-doers, etc.). [Al-Hujuraat. 11]

Allah said:

وَتَعَاوَنُوا۟ عَلَى ٱلْبِرِّ وَٱلتَّقْوَىٰ وَلَا تَعَاوَنُوا۟ عَلَى ٱلْإِثْمِ وَٱلْعُدْوَٰنِ

Help you one another in Al-Birr and At-Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression. [Al-Maa’idah. 2] [Footnote c]

Allah said: [إِنَّمَا ٱلْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ – The believers are nothing else than brothers (in Islamic religion). [Al-Hujuraat. 10]

Allah said: [وَأَمْرُهُمْ شُورَىٰ بَيْنَهُمْ – And who (conduct) their affairs by mutual consultation. [Ash-Shuraa 38] [Footnote d]

When it is the case that the individuals of a society are not safe – regardless who they may be-from the hostility and enmity of others in their Jinn or human society, and it is the case that every individual is in need of a remedy for this problem whose trial affects everyone, therefore Allah [The Most High] clearly prescribed its remedy in three places in His Book. The remedy for human hostility is that (a person) should turn away from the hostile one and responds to them with what is better. Allah [The Most High] said in Surah Al-A’raf 199: [خُذِ ٱلْعَفْوَ وَأْمُرْ بِٱلْعُرْفِ وَأَعْرِضْ عَنِ ٱلْجَٰهِلِينَ – Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish (i.e. don’t punish them].

Allah said Surah Al-Muminun 96:

ٱدْفَعْ بِٱلَّتِى هِىَ أَحْسَنُ ٱلسَّيِّئَةَ نَحْنُ أَعْلَمُ بِمَا يَصِفُونَ

Repel evil with that which is better. We are Best-Acquainted with the things they utter].

Allah [The Most High] made it more evident that this divine remedy cuts off this satanic ailment and He also made it more (evident) that this divine (remedy) is not bestowed upon every person, except a person who has been granted in abundance and a great portion (of the happiness in the Hereafter). Allah [The Most High] said:

ٱدْفَعْ بِٱلَّتِى هِىَ أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا ٱلَّذِى بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُۥ عَدَٰوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُۥ وَلِىٌّ حَمِيمٌ
وَمَا يُلَقَّىٰهَآ إِلَّا ٱلَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا۟ وَمَا يُلَقَّىٰهَآ إِلَّا ذُو حَظٍّ عَظِيمٍ

Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allah ordered the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly), then verily! he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend. But none is granted it (the above quality) except those who are patient, and none is granted it except the owner of the great portion (of the happiness in the Hereafter i.e. Paradise and in this world of a high moral character)” [Fussilat. 34-35]

And there is no remedy against a devil amongst the Jinn except through seeking refuge with Allah. Allah [The Most High] said:

وَإِمَّا يَنزَغَنَّكَ مِنَ ٱلشَّيْطَٰنِ نَزْغٌ فَٱسْتَعِذْ بِٱللَّهِ إِنَّهُۥ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ

And if an evil whisper comes to you from Shaitan (Satan) then seek refuge with Allah. Verily, He is All-Hearer, All-Knower]. [Al-A’raf 200]

Allah [The Most High] said Surah Al-Muminun 97-98]:

وَقُل رَّبِّ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ هَمَزَٰتِ ٱلشَّيَٰطِينِ
وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ رَبِّ أَن يَحْضُرُونِ

And say: “My Lord! I seek refuge with You from the whisperings (suggestions) of the Shayatin (devils). “And I seek refuge with You, My Lord! lest they may attend (or come near) me.”

Allah [The Most High] said:

وَإِمَّا يَنزَغَنَّكَ مِنَ ٱلشَّيْطَٰنِ نَزْغٌ فَٱسْتَعِذْ بِٱللَّهِ إِنَّهُۥ هُوَ ٱلسَّمِيعُ ٱلْعَلِيمُ

And if an evil whisper from Shaitan (Satan) tries to turn you away (O Muhammad) (from doing good, etc.), then seek refuge in Allah. Verily, He is the All-Hearer, the All-Knower. [Fussilat, 36] [An Excerpt from ‘Al-Islam Deenun Kaamilun. Pages: 10-12]

Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih Al- Uthaimeen, may Allah have mercy upon him, on Interacting With Non-Muslims in Western Countries

The Imam said during a tele-link, on the 28th July 2000:

Likewise, I invite you to have respect for those people who have the right to be respected – those between you and whom there is an agreement (of protection) [i.e. Non-Muslims]. For the land in which you are living is such that there is an agreement between you and them. If this were not the case they would have killed or expelled you. So preserve this agreement, and do not prove treacherous to it, since treachery is a sign of the hypocrites, and it is not from the way of the believers.

And know that it is authentically reported from the Prophet that he said : “Whoever kills one who is under and agreement of protection will not smell the fragrance of Paradise.”

Do not be fooled by those sayings of the foolish people: those who say: “Those people are Non-Muslims, so their wealth is lawful for us [i.e. to misappropriate or take by way of murder and killing.]” For by Allah, this is a lie – a lie about Allah’s Religion, and a lie in Islamic societies.

So we may not say that it is lawful to be treacherous towards people whom we have an agreement with.

O my brothers! O youth! O Muslims! Be truthful in your buying and selling, and renting, and leasing, and in all mutual transactions, because truthfulness is from the characteristics of the believers, and Allah – the Most High – has commanded truthfulness – saying:

“O you who believe – fear and keep you duty to Allaah and be with the truthful”

And the Prophet encouraged truthfulness and said “Adhere to truthfulness, because truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise; and a person will continue to be truthful, and strive to be truthful until he will be recorded in the sight of Allah as a truthful person“. And he warned against falsehood, and said: “Beware of lying, because lying leads to wickedness, and wickedness leads to the Fire. And a person will continue lying, and striving to lie until he is written in the sight of Allaah as a liar.”

O my brother Muslims! O youth! Be true in your statements with your brothers, and with those Non-Muslims with whom you live, so that you will be inviters to the religion of Islam through your actions and in reality. How many people there are who first entered into Islam because of the behaviour and manners of the Muslims, and their truthfulness, and their being true in their dealings! [salafipublications.com]

We ask Allah:

 اللهمَّ كما حسَّنتَ خَلقي فحسِّنْ خُلُقي

O Allah! Just as you have made my physical appearance beautiful, make my manners beautiful.

———————————————-

Footnote a:

Believer’s Bahaviour Towards Muslim Rulers – [Supplicates For Them….]

Footnote b: Imam As-Sadi, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: Allah [The Most High] has forbidden much evil suspicion towards the believers because some suspicions are sins, such as the suspicion devoid of reality and factual evidence, and the suspicion accompanied by much forbidden speech and action, for indeed the settlement of evil suspicion in the heart does not restrict the one (in whose heart is that evil suspicion) only to that; rather, he does not cease until he utters and does that which is not permissible. [Tafseer As-Sadi]

Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih Al-Uthaymeen, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: Not every suspicion is a sin and there is no harm regarding the suspicion that is based on clear indications regarding the validity of a matter. As for mere assumption, it is not permissible. For example, if a man – who is known to be upright – is seen with a woman by another man, it not permissible to accuse him that the woman he is seen with is a stranger because this is the type of suspicion that is tantamount to sin. [Fataawaa Islaamiyyah 4/537]

Spying: The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, “Whoever listens to the talk of some people who do not like him (to listen) or they run away from him, then molten lead will be poured into his ears on the Day of Resurrection”. [Sahih Al-Bukhaari Number 7042].

Al-Allaamah Saleh Al-Fawzan, may Allah preserve him, said, “This is a severe threat, so one should not listen to the speech of the people if they do not want anyone to know what they are talking about”. [An Excerpt from It’haaf At-Tullaab Bi-Sharhi Mandhoomah Al-Aadaab. page 149]

Al-Allamah Zayd Bin Hadi Al-Mad’khalee, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

It may be that two or more people gather to speak about a particular affair that concerns them, and they do not want anyone else to know about it; but then a person or more than one person becomes an obstacle by listening to their speech and [wants] to know what they are talking about, whilst they are not pleased with that. This is an act of transgression and foolishness – that a person involves himself into something that does not concern him. And from the perfection of a person’s Islam is to leave that which does not concern him. However, there is an exception to this prohibition such as when a person listens into the speech of those who are focused or (involved) in seeking to breach the state of safety and security of the Muslims”. [An Excerpt from ‘Awnul Ahadis Samad Sharh Al-Adabil Mufrad’ 3/281]

Backbiting: Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, ‘’Do you know what backbiting is?’’ They (i.e. the Sahaabah) replied Allah and his Messenger know best’’; he said said, “It is to mention your brother what he dislikes’’. Someone asked, ‘’What if what I said is true?’’ He replied, “If what you said about him is true you have backbitten him, and if it is not true you have slandered him’’. [Muslim]

When is speaking about someone behind his back not considered backbiting? It is not considered backbiting when a person makes a complaint about an oppressor to a person who has the ability to stop the oppression; when seeking help to stop an evil- by making that known to the person who has the ability to stop the evil; when seeking for a fatwa; when warning the Muslims so that they are not deceived; when mentioning a person who commits his evil openly or one who calls to bidah and when identifying someone with a physical defect, whilst not intending defamation. [Subul As-Salaam. 4/553]

Footnote c: Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: This verse contains all the Masaalih (things that will bring about benefit and repel harm) for the servants of Allah in their worldly affairs and in the Hereafter – amongst themselves or reharding their relationship with their Lord. This is because every servant of Allah finds himself within two circumstances and obligations – either to fulfil the obligations owed to Allah or the obligations owed to Allah’s creation. As for the obligations owed to the creation, they include (righteous) association, companionship, aiding one another in Allah loves and obedience to Allah, and that is the goal behind one’s search for happiness and success in the afterlife. There can be no happiness in the afterlife except through Bir and Taqwaa because it is basis of all affairs of the religion. [An Excerpt from Bada’i at-Tafsir Al-Jaami Limaa Fassarahu Al-Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah. 1/307. Publisher: Daar Ibn Al-Jawziyyah 2nd Edition. 1431AH]

Footnote d: Consultation: Al-Hasan al-Basree [may Allah have mercy upon him] said: “By Allah! Never have a people sought advice except that they were guided to the best of what was available to them.” Then he recited [the statement of Allaah]:

[وَأَمۡرُهُمۡ شُورَىٰ بَيۡنَہُمۡ – And (the Believers) who (conduct) their affairs by mutual consultation].

Al-Allamah Zaid Bin Haadee Al-Mad’khalee [may Allah have mercy upon him] said: Allah [The Mighty and Majestic] commanded His Messenger Muhammad [peace and blessings of Allah be upon him] to consult his companions in some affairs. Allah [Glorified be He and free is He from all imperfections] said:

وَشَاوِرۡهُمۡ فِى ٱلۡأَمۡرِ‌ۖ فَإِذَا عَزَمۡتَ فَتَوَكَّلۡ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ‌ۚ

“And consult them in the affairs. Then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allah”.

He [i.e. the Messenger] is the example to be followed by the Ummah, therefore when it is the case that Allah commanded him to consult his companions, then there is even a greater reason that the Muslims are in need of consultation amongst themselves. When a difficulty that is related to a Muslim’s religious and worldly affairs occurs, then indeed it is fitting that he consults someone whom he considers reliable, wise, truthful and sincere. He examines [the advice] given by that person, then he makes a choice – either to take that advice or decides not to take it based on what he is satisfied with, in relation to his personal affairs.

The hadeeth places emphasis on the fact that consultation guides to the best outcomes, and due to this it is said: ”The one who consults [others] does not regret [thereafter InShaaAllaah] and the one who performs Istikhaarah will not fail [to achieve good]”. Both Istikhaarah and consultation are legislated and a lot of good is achieved by way of them, as opposed to when affairs are pursued in a rigid and haphazard manner, for indeed this might lead to regret and harm. [An Excerpt from ‘Awnul Ahadis Samad Sharh Al-Adab Al-Mufrad’ 1/285]

[1] Ṣaḥih Muslim 1844]
[2] Sharh Sahih Muslim 12/196
[3] at-Ta’leeqaat Al-Maleehah Alaa Silsilati Al-Ahaadeeth As-Saheehah. 2/29-33
[4] Al-Fawaa’d. page: 228

Plural Marriage and Cousin Marriage: Two Previous Articles Combined into One Post

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Articles, Basics, Contemporary Issues, Family & Women, Fatawa-Rulings, Featured, Marriage (Nikkah), Methodology - 'Manhaj', Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Pearls of Wisdom, Purification of The Soul, Scholars of Islam, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Some of The Many Benefits of Plural Marriage For Those Who Can Do Justice and Are Financially Able- By Imam Ash-Shanqeetee and Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih Al-Uthaymin- may Allah have mercy upon them

Allah, The Most High, said:

إِنَّ هَٰذَا الْقُرْآنَ يَهْدِي لِلَّتِي هِيَ أَقْوَمُ

Verily, this Quran guides to that which is most just and right. [Al-Israa 9]

 

Imam Ash-Shanqeetee, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

From the guidance of the Qur’an to that which is most just and right is that it allows (a man to marry) four wives. If the man fears that he cannot be just between them, he restricts himself to one or those whom his right hand possesses, as Allah said:

وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَٰثَ وَرُبَٰعَ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَٰنُكُمْ

And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan- girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (those whom) that your right hands possess”. [An-Nisaa. 3]

No doubt the path that is most just and right is that which legitimises plural marriage (polygamy) due to perceptible matters known to every sensible person. And from those matters is that Allah made it a common phenomenon that men are fewer in number than women in the various regions of the world and are more often exposed to the causes of death in all walks of life. If a man were to be restricted to one wife, there would remain a great number of women deprived of marriage, so they (both men and women) will be strongly urged towards illegal sexual intercourse.

Therefore, turning away from the guidance of the Qur’an (in relation to) to this matter is one of the greatest causes of moral deprivation, degradation to the level of animals due to lack of safeguarding chastity, preservation of nobility, good moral conduct and manners. Glorified and Exalted is (Allah) above all that evil they associate with Him, the All-Wise, All-Aware of all things.

كِتَابٌ أُحْكِمَتْ آيَاتُهُ ثُمَّ فُصِّلَتْ مِن لَّدُنْ حَكِيمٍ خَبِيرٍ

(This is) a Book, the verses whereof are perfected (in every sphere of knowledge), and then explained in detail from One (Allah), Who is All-Wise, All-Aware of all things. [Hud 1]

No doubt the path that is the most just is that which legitimises plural marriage due to perceptible matters known to every sensible person. From those matters is that women are all readily prepared for marriage (i.e. when they reach the age of marriage and are not forced), whereas many men do not have the ability to fulfill the requirements of marriage due to poverty (i.e. because they are obligated to provide). Those prepared for marriage among men are fewer than among women. A woman is not hindered, whereas a man may be hindered by poverty.  If a man were restricted to one woman, many women prepared for marriage would have missed the opportunity for marriage. This would become a cause for loss of virtue, depravation and moral decadence, and the opportunity to preserve the human race would be lost.

If a man fears that he will not be able to deal justly between the wives, it is incumbent upon him to restrict himself to one or to those whom his right hand possesses because Allah has stated:

 إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُ بِالْعَدْلِ وَالْإِحْسَانِ وَإِيتَاءِ ذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَيَنْهَىٰ عَنِ الْفَحْشَاءِ وَالْمُنكَرِ وَالْبَغْيِ ۚ يَعِظُكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ

Verily, Allah enjoins Al-Adl (i.e. justice and worshipping none but Allah Alone – Islamic Monotheism) and Al-Ihsan [i.e. to be patient in performing your duties to Allah, totally for Allah’s sake and in accordance with the Sunnah (legal ways) of the Prophet in a perfect manner], and giving (help) to kith and kin (i.e. all that Allah has ordered you to give them e.g., wealth, visiting, looking after them, or any other kind of help, etc.)'[An-Nahl. 90]

It is impermissible to incline towards preferential (treatment) with regards to the Shariah rights (to be given to each of the wives), due to the saying of Allah:

وَلَن تَسْتَطِيعُوا أَن تَعْدِلُوا بَيْنَ النِّسَاءِ وَلَوْ حَرَصْتُمْ ۖ فَلَا تَمِيلُوا كُلَّ الْمَيْلِ فَتَذَرُوهَا كَالْمُعَلَّقَةِ ۚ  

You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives – (with regards to what is hidden in your heart as to which of them is dearer to you although you love both) – even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married)’. [An-Nisaa. 129]

As for the natural inclination towards loving some of them more than others, the human being is incapable of preventing this because it is emotional and the soul’s desire. This is what is intended by Allah’s statement: “You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives”. [An-Nisaa. 129] [1]

 

Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih Al-Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy upon him, was asked:

The questioner says: “Fadeelah Ash-Shaikh, what is your view on plural marriage and what is its condition?”

The Shaikh responded:

Our view regarding plural marriage due to what is therein with regards to having numerous offspring and the greater safeguard of chastity, it is better than limiting oneself to one wife. In most cases in societies, women are more than men, so they are in need of someone to safeguard their chastity.

If a man has one wife, he does good to one woman and teaches her from that which Allah has taught him regarding the issues of the Shariah. If he has two, goodness increases by teaching two, guiding and providing for them. If he has three, the good increases even more, and if he has four, it is even more. The more one has, the better and more virtuous the welfare that results from that. However, there has to be conditions.

The first condition is financial ability: (the wealth) to give as Mahr and provision for the wives. Second, physical ability:  the desire and strength such that he can fulfill what is obligated to him with regards to these wives. The third condition is being able to do justice: knows about himself that he is able to do justice between the new wife and the first wife. But if he fears for himself that he will not be just, then indeed, Allah, Blessed and Most High said: [فإن خفتم ألا تعدلوا فواحدة – But if you fear that you will not be just, then (marry only) one]- Meaning: Limit yourselves to one.[ ذلك أدنى ألا تعولوا – That is more suitable that you may not incline (to injustice)] [An-Nisaa 3]

In the situation of plural marriages, it is not befitting that a wife becomes vexed, grieved, and deals with her husband badly because he has married another (woman), for indeed, this is his right. She should exercise patience and seek reward from Allah for what has taken place and caused her discomfort. If she does this, Allah – The Mighty and Majestic – will help her bear this thing which she considers to be from the greatest calamities. Because of this, we hear that in some places – where plural marriage is a common thing for them (customary),  the first wife neither gives it much concern nor become upset or saddened when her husband marries a new wife. Therefore, the issue is based on custom (i.e. what is common, the norm). If in a country men are not accustomed to (or do not normally engage in) plural marriage, it is difficult for a woman; but if their custom is engagement in plural marriage, it is easier for her.

So, we say to the woman whose husband has married another wife: be patient and hope for reward from Allah, so that Allah aids you upon that and aids your husband to be just. And the husband has to be careful of committing injustice between the wives, for indeed the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him and his family -in a statement of his – issued a threat of punishment to the one who does so, (saying): “Whoever has two wives and he inclines to one of them over the other, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides collapsed”.

It is incumbent upon him to be just between the wives in everything: in speaking, friendliness, cheerfulness, spending the night – in everything he is able to do. As for the love (concealed in his heart), this is something not under a person’s control- not obligated to him (to feel exactly the same way with regards to how much his heart loves one over the other). The hearts are in Allāh’s Hand, the Mighty and Majestic, and He turns them however He wills; but with regards to what he is able to fulfil, such as being just, it is incumbent upon him. [End of quote] [2] 

 

Marrying Close Relatives, Especially Cousins

Imam Abdul Aziz Bin Baz, may Allah have mercy upon him, was asked:

يا سماحة الشيخ

We have heard that indeed there is danger in marrying relatives as I want to marry off one of my children. Is there any hadith regarding this? May Allah reward you.

Answer: There is no danger therein. What is said (regarding this) is an error. There is no danger in marrying relatives, rather, it is good. The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, married from his relatives. Umm Salamah was from his relatives, Aisha was from his relatives, and Umm Habiba was from his relatives. All of them are from Quraysh, all from his tribe. There is no harm in that. Ali married Fatimah, the daughter of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, who was the daughter of his cousin (i.e. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him). Uthman married the Prophet’s daughters, Ruqayyah and Umm Kulthum (i.e. after of them died he married the other). Abu Al Aas Ibn Ar-Rabee married the Prophet’s fourth daughter, Zainab, and all of them were cousins. There is no harm in this. [3]

The Imam, may Allah have mercy upon him, was also asked: Some people would not marry the daughter of their uncle out of fear that the children might be born with deformities. Does this negate the perfection (completeness) of (one’s) belief in pure Islamic monotheism?

Answer: Many among the people of knowledge have clarified these matters , and that indeed a person should choose a suitable spouse for their offspring to the extent that some of the Fuqaha said: “The best is that one marries a non-relative, rather than the daughter of his uncle”. This is a mistake and it has no basis, whether it is the daughter of his paternal uncle or not the daughter of his paternal uncle, the daughter of his maternal uncle or not the daughter of his maternal uncle. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, married the daughter of his uncle.

But, one should examine (give thought or consideration) that if the woman comes from a family that is afflicted with hereditary defects, mental illness, or physical deformities, he should not marry (someone among) them from the angle of employing the means of precaution, because this could bring you hereditary (issues). Diseases can be passed down – by the will of Allah- to the child, the grandchild and the daughter’s child. If this (such and such) family is well-known to have hereditary diseases that affect the children, he should avoid (marrying into such family). And if nothing is known about the family (i.e. regarding hereditary diseases), he marries (someone) among them. These matters that are known – (through experience, observation etc) regarding what is passed down do occur. Due to this, scholars and physicians advise that one examines (pays attention) to these matters. [4]

[1] An Excerpt from Adwaa Al-Bayan. Tafseer Surah Al-Israa Verse 9

[2] Paraphrased from the following link: https://alathar.net/home/esound/index.php?op=codevi&coid=58048

[3]Paraphrased:https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/8826/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%82%D8%A7%D8%B1%D8%A8

[4]Paraphrased:https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/2565/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%AA%D8%B1%D9%83-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%82%D8%A7%D8%B1%D8%A8-%D8%AE%D8%B4%D9%8A%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%B6

 

[2] Some of The Many Benefits of Plural Marriage

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Contemporary Issues, Family & Women, Marriage (Nikkah), Methodology - 'Manhaj', Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Pearls of Wisdom, Purification of The Soul, Scholars of Islam, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih Al-Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy upon him, was asked:

The questioner says: “Fadeelah Ash-Shaikh, what is your view on plural marriage and what is its condition?”

The Shaikh responded:

Our view regarding plural marriage due to what is therein with regards to having numerous offspring and the greater safeguard of chastity, it is better than limiting oneself to one wife. In most cases in societies, women are more than men, so they are in need of someone to safeguard their chastity.

If a man has one wife, he does good to one woman and teaches her from that which Allah has taught him regarding the issues of the Shariah. If he has two, goodnes increases by teaching two, guiding and providing for them. If he has three, the good increases even more, and if he has four, it is even more. The more one has, the better and more virtuous the welfare that results from that. However, there has to be conditions.

The first condition is financial ability: (the wealth) to give as Mahr and provision for the wives.

Second, physical ability:  the desire and strength such that he can fulfill what is obligated to him with regards to these wives.

The third condition is being able to do justice: knows about himself that he is able to do justice between the new wife and the first wife. But if he fears for himself that he will not be just, then indeed, Allah, Blessed and Most High said:

فإن خفتم ألا تعدلوا فواحدة

But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one. [An-Nisaa 3]- Meaning: Limit yourselves to one;

ذلك أدنى ألا تعولوا

That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]. [An-Nisaa 3]

In the situation of plural marriages, it is not befitting that a wife becomes vexed, grieved, and deals with her husband badly because he has married another (woman), for indeed, this is his right. She should exercise patience and seek reward from Allah for what has taken place and caused her discomfort. If she does this, Allah – The Mighty and Majestic – will help her bear this thing which she considers to be from the greatest calamities.

Because of this, we hear that in some places – where plural marriage is a common thing for them (customary),  the first wife neither gives it much concern nor become upset or saddened when her husband marries a new wife.

Therefore, the issue is based on custom (i.e. what is common, the norm). If in a country men are not accustomed to (or do not normally engage in) plural marriage, it is difficult for a woman; but if their custom is engagement in plural marriage, it is easier for her.

So, we say to the woman whose husband has married another wife: be patient and hope for reward from Allah, so that Allah aids you upon that and aids your husband to be just.

And the husband has to be careful of committing injustice between the wives, for indeed the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him and his family -in a statement of his – issued a threat of punishment to the one who does so, (saying):

“Whoever has two wives and he inclines to one of them over the other, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with one of his sides collapsed”.

It is incumbent upon him to be just between the wives in everything: in speaking, friendliness, cheerfulness, spending the night – in everything he is able to do.

As for the love (concealed in his heart), this is something not under a person’s control- not obligated to him (to feel exactly the same way with regards to how much his heart loves one over the other). The hearts are in Allāh’s Hand, the Mighty and Majestic, and He turns them however He wills; but with regards to what he is able to fulfil, such as being just, it is incumbent upon him. [End of quote]

Paraphrased from the following link:

https://alathar.net/home/esound/index.php?op=codevi&coid=58048

NB: Someone wonders and says: “Why this topic in Ramadan?”

Response:

Firstly, what should prevent us from discussing any topic of the religion in Ramadan?! The Qur’an, as well as the Sunnah, details this matter.

Secondly, we find that some people back home, due to being greatly influenced by foreign ideas, have suddenly started uttering absolute nonsense regarding plural marriage. So, when this topic is discussed, it is not that we are addressing specific people engaged in plural marriage in the West, rather, this paraphrased translation is primarily addressed to people from our countries in the Muslim lands where our grandparents, parents and many other relatives – to this day – engage in plural marriages. When we suddenly hear some men and women back home – due to foreign influence – speaking about this matter without knowledge and justice, we must clarify -from the clarifications of the scholars – this matter whether inside or outside of Ramadan. Therefore, instead of seeking to bring ambiguity in this matter, the right thing a sensible person should do is to return to the guidance of Allah and His Messenger.

 

[1] Some of The Many Benefits of Plural Marriage

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Articles, Contemporary Issues, Da'wah - Calling To Islam, Family & Women, Marriage (Nikkah), Methodology - 'Manhaj', Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Pearls of Wisdom, Purification of The Soul, Qur'aan, Scholars of Islam, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Some of The Many Benefits of Plural Marriage For Those Who Can Do Justice and Are Financially Able

Allah, The Most High, said:

إِنَّ هَٰذَا الْقُرْآنَ يَهْدِي لِلَّتِي هِيَ أَقْوَمُ

Verily, this Quran guides to that which is most just and right. [Al-Israa 9]

Imam Ash-Shanqeetee, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

From the guidance of the Qur’an to that which is most just and right is that it allows (a man to marry) four wives. If the man fears that he cannot be just between them, he restricts himself to one or those whom his right hand possesses, as Allah said:

وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَٰثَ وَرُبَٰعَ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَٰنُكُمْ

And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan- girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (those whom) that your right hands possess”. [An-Nisaa. 3]

No doubt the path that is most just and right is that which legitimises plural marriage (polygamy) due to perceptible matters known to every sensible person. And from those matters is that Allah made it a common phenomenon that men are fewer in number than women in the various regions of the world and are more often exposed to the causes of death in all walks of life. If a man were to be restricted to one wife, there would remain a great number of women deprived of marriage, so they (both men and women) will be strongly urged towards illegal sexual intercourse.

Therefore, turning away from the guidance of the Qur’an (in relation to) to this matter is one of the greatest causes of moral deprivation, degradation to the level of animals due to lack of safeguarding chastity, preservation of nobility, good moral conduct and manners.

Glorified and Exalted is (Allah) above all that evil they associate with Him, the All-Wise, All-Aware of all things.

كِتَابٌ أُحْكِمَتْ آيَاتُهُ ثُمَّ فُصِّلَتْ مِن لَّدُنْ حَكِيمٍ خَبِيرٍ

(This is) a Book, the verses whereof are perfected (in every sphere of knowledge), and then explained in detail from One (Allaah), Who is All-Wise, All-Aware of all things. [Hud 1]

No doubt the path that is the most just is that which legitimises plural marriage due to perceptible matters known to every sensible person. From those matters is that women are all readily prepared for marriage (i.e. when they reach the age of marriage and are not forced), whereas many men do not have the ability to fulfill the requirements of marriage due to poverty (i.e. because they are obligated to provide). Those prepared for marriage among men are fewer than among women. A woman is not hindered, whereas a man may be hindered by poverty.  If a man were restricted to one woman, many women prepared for marriage would have missed the opportunity for marriage. This would become a cause for loss of virtue, depravation and moral decadence, and the opportunity to preserve the human race would be lost.

If a man fears that he will not be able to deal justly between the wives, it is incumbent upon him to restrict himself to one or to those whom his right hand possesses because Allah has stated:

 إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُ بِالْعَدْلِ وَالْإِحْسَانِ وَإِيتَاءِ ذِي الْقُرْبَىٰ وَيَنْهَىٰ عَنِ الْفَحْشَاءِ وَالْمُنكَرِ وَالْبَغْيِ ۚ يَعِظُكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ

Verily, Allaah enjoins Al-Adl (i.e. justice and worshipping none but Allaah Alone – Islamic Monotheism) and Al-Ihsaan [i.e. to be patient in performing your duties to Allaah, totally for Allaah’s sake and in accordance with the Sunnah (legal ways) of the Prophet in a perfect manner], and giving (help) to kith and kin (i.e. all that Allaah has ordered you to give them e.g., wealth, visiting, looking after them, or any other kind of help, etc.)'[An-Nahl. 90]

It is impermissible to incline towards preferential (treatment) with regards to the Shariah rights (to be given to each of the wives), due to the saying of Allah:

وَلَن تَسْتَطِيعُوا أَن تَعْدِلُوا بَيْنَ النِّسَاءِ وَلَوْ حَرَصْتُمْ ۖ فَلَا تَمِيلُوا كُلَّ الْمَيْلِ فَتَذَرُوهَا كَالْمُعَلَّقَةِ ۚ  

You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives – (with regards to what is hidden in your heart as to which of them is dearer to you although you love both) – even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married)’. [An-Nisaa. 129]

As for the natural inclination towards loving some of them more than others, the human being is incapable of preventing this because it is emotional and the soul’s desire. This is what is intended by Allah’s statement: “You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives”. [An-Nisaa. 129]

[1] An Excerpt from Adwaa Al-Bayan. Tafseer Surah Al-Israa Verse 9

pink and white lotus flower

Opinionated beauty standards

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Articles, Contemporary Issues, Family & Women, Fitnah, Marriage (Nikkah), Methodology - 'Manhaj', Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Purification of The Soul.

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

The Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:

A woman is married for four (reasons); her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should take possession of the one with Religion, otherwise you will be a loser”. [Al-Bukhari 5090]

Imam Abdul Aziz Bin Baz, may Allah have mercy upon her, said:

 فليكن همك الوحيد هو صلاح دينها، فإذا كان مع ذلك جمال ومال وحسب؛ فهذا خير إلى خير، طيب، لكن لا يكون همك الجمال، أو المال، أو الحسب، لا. فليكن أكبر الهم، وأعظم القصد صلاح الدين، واستقامة الأخلاق، تسأل عنها الخبيرين بها، فإذا كانت ذات دين، بعيدة عن التبرج، وعن أسباب الفتنة، محافظة على الصلاة في أوقاتها؛ فاقرب منها، وإذا كانت بخلاف ذلك؛ فاتركها، المهم أن العناية الكبرى تكون بالدين، نعم.

Your only concern should be the righteousness of her religion. If beauty, wealth, and noble lineage accompany that, then this is goodness added to goodness. But let not beauty, wealth, or family status be your foremost concern.

Your greatest concern and objective should be the righteousness of her religion and steadfast moral character. Ask those who know her well about these matters. If she is a woman with sound religious practice, far removed from Tabarruj and the causes of temptation, and she observes her prayers at their prescribed times, then incline toward her. But if she is the opposite, leave her. What is important is that religion should be your greatest concern. [1]

Some women complain about the opinionated beauty standards that burden women- cheekbones, slim, angular faces with big features, fat-freezing cosmetic procedure etc. The women who blindly follow this path are regarded beautiful and attractive, regardless whether they are righteous or not; rather as long as they are considered more attractive based on what a group of women exploiters consider to be the beauty standard, they are given an advantage – Pretty Privilege!!! Indeed, the upright scholars have spoken about this matter and warned against it. Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih Al-Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

Women are portrayed as if they are mere images- pictures people attach no importance to except that which is connected to the woman’s figure (outward appearance). See how they have decorated and beautified her! See how they have brought about beautifications for her and presented her in a desirable condition, in relation to hair, skin, legs, arms, face and everything else, until they make it the most important thing for the woman, like a picture made out of plastic. They neither present to her the importance of establishing worship nor bearing children. [2]

Al-Allamah Khalil Al-Harras, may Allah have mercy upon him, stated in his Sharh An-Nooniyyah:

After Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy upon him, described the beauty and perfection of the women of Paradise so that one is drawn towards them, he warned against being deceived by the evil women of this worldly life- those who are deprived of every excellent trait. They are neither perfect in their physical appearances nor do they possess good deeds.

How can one be deceived by a woman who possesses ugly manners and is untrustworthy! How can one be deceived by a woman who neither fulfills her obligations nor does she possess patience! How can one be deceived by a woman who is neither contented nor is she obedient and humble, and her deeds are ugly! Rather she is a female devil disguised in the image of a human, thus, she deceives the despicable and depraved people who desire her because they are similar to her and are ready to obey her.

As for the people of virtue, she neither wants nor desires them because there are no similarities between her and them. She is deprived of everything that directs her towards good and prevents her from evil. She neither possesses the correct way of life ordained by Allah and a sound moral intellect nor does she possess good manners and fear of Allah. She does not possess natural beauty, rather her beauty is a falsified one that emanates from cosmetics. And when she leaves that beautification and embellishment, the defects on her becomes apparent and she is deprived of everything that makes a person desirous of her. She is characterised with betrayal- neither grateful for good companionship nor does she preserve and fulfill its rights.

Her beauty is a thin shell and underneath it are defects and ugly affairs. Her beauty resembles a fake coin plated with gold or silver, which one may consider to be a real gold or silver coin; but this counterfeit cannot be circulated amongst the money changers even though many people are deceived by it. [3]

Be Warned Against Extremist Women

Imaam Adh-Dhahabee, may Allah have mercy upon him, stated that Salamah Bin Alqamah relates from Ibn Seereen, may Allah have mercy upon him, who said, “Imran Ibn Hattaan married a kharijiyyah (a female khaarijite) and said, ‘I will bring her back’ (i.e. make her leave her misguidance). Ibn Seereen said, ‘However, she converted him to her way'”. [4]

[1]https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/9619/%D9%85%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%B5%D9%81%D8%A7%D8%AA-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA%D9%8A-%D9%8A%D9%82%D8%AF%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%B3%D9%84%D9%85-%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%89-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC-%D8%A8%D9%87%D8%A7 paraphrased

[2]An Excerpt from this lecture:

https://safeshare.tv/x/fKxP_Mt7o9w# https://youtu.be/fKxP_Mt7o9w

[3] Sharh Al-Qaseedah An-Nooniyyah 2/738-739

[4] Siyar Alam An-Nubulaa 4/214

Guidance for a University Principal Who Went Beyond Limits – By Imam Abdul Aziz Bin Baz

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Articles, Contemporary Issues, Da'wah - Calling To Islam, Family & Women, Fitnah, Methodology - 'Manhaj', Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Purification of The Soul, Refutations, Repentance, Scholars of Islam, Sin, The Salaf - Pious Predecessors, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Imam Abdul Azeez Bin Baz, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

All praise and thanks belongs to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon Allah’s Messenger, his family and companions. To proceed:

I have seen what was published by As-Siyasah newspaper- issued on 7/24/1404 AH, Number 5644 – and attributed to the Principle of Sana’a University Abdul Azeez Al-Maqalih, in which he claimed that the demand to isolate female students from male students is in opposition to the Shariah, and he utilised as proof – for the permissibility of mixing – that Muslims from the era of of the Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, used to pray in the same mosque- men and women- and he said, “Therefore, education must be in one place”.

I was surprised to hear this speech from the principle of an Islamic university in an Islamic country, and asked him to direct his people – men and women – to what will lead to happiness and salvation in this worldly life and the Hereafter. There is no doubt that there is in this speech that which is tantamount to a great crime against the Islamic Shariah, because indeed the Shariah did not call for free mixing, such that the demand to prevent it would be in opposition to it; rather it forbids it and did so in a very strong manner, as Allah, The Most High, said:

وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ وَلا تَبَرَّجْنَ تَبَرُّجَ الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ الْأُولَى

And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance.  [Al-Ahzab. 33]

Allah, The Most High, said:

يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْْ لِأَزْوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاءِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ يُدْنِينَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِنْ جَلابِيبِهِنَّ ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَنْ يُعْرَفْنَ فلا يؤذين وكان اللهه غفورا رحيما

O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. [Al-Ahzab. 59]

Allah, Glorified be He and free is He from all imperfections, said:

وَقُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنََ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلاا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ

And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husband’s sons, their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess…

وَلا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينََ مِنْ زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful. [An-Nur. 31]

Allah, The Most High, said:

وَإِذَا سَأَلْتُمُوهُنَّ مَتَاعًا فَاسْأَلُوهُنَّ مِنْ وَرَاءِ حِجَابٍ ذَلِكُمْ أَطْهَرُ لِقُلُوبِكُمْ وَقُلُوبِهِنَّ

And when you ask (the Prophet’s wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts. [Al-Ahzab. 53]

In these noble verses, there is a clear demonstration that it is legislated for women to stay in their homes to guard against temptation, and that they only come out of their homes if there is a need. Then Allah warned them that they should not display themselves in a manner similar to the era of pre-Islamic ignorance, which is the display of their beauty and cause temptation among men. It has been authentically reported from Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, that he said:

“I have not left after me a trial more harmful to men than women”.

This hadith is agreed upon (i.e. recorded by Al-Bukhari and Muslim) and it was narrated by Usamah Bin Zayd, may Allah be pleased with him.

Imam Muslim recorded in Sahih Muslim on the authority of Usamah and Sa’eed Bin Zayd Bin Amr Bin Nufayl, may Allah be pleased with them both, and also in Sahih Muslim on the authority of Abu Saeed Al-Khudri, may Allah be pleased with him, from the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, that he said:

“Verily the worldly life is sweet and green, and verily Allah is going to place you as successors upon it in and will see how you act. So, be mindful of the worldly life and be mindful of women, because indeed the first trial for the Children of Israa’eel was due to women”. [Muslim. 2742]

And indeed Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, spoke the truth, because the temptation through women is great, especially in this era wherein most of them do not have the Hijab and they display themselves in a manner similar to the era of pre-Islamic ignorance. Immorality and evil has become rife due to this, and many youth (male and female)- in many countries- became reluctant to get married based on that which Allah has legislated. Indeed, Allah has made it clear that the Hijab is purer for the hearts of everyone and this shows that its removal is most likely to defile the hearts (i.e. corrupt the hearts) of everyone and deviating them from the path of truth.

It is known that the female student sitting with the male student is one of the greatest causes of temptation, one of the reasons for abandoning the Hijab (segregation) that is legislated by Allah for believing women and forbade them from showing their adornment others (i.e. non-Mahrams) (a), which Allah made known in the previous verse of Surah An-Nur. Whoever claims that the command regarding Hijab is only for the mothers of the believers is mistaken and far removed from what is correct – contradicted the many evidences demonstrating a general (command), and he has contradicted Allah’s statement: [ذَلِكُمْ أَطْهَرُ لِقُلُوبِكُمْ وَقُلُوبِهِنَّ – that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts]. (This is) because it is not permissible to say that the Hijab is purer for the hearts of the mothers of the believers and the male Companions and not for those after them. There is no doubt that those who came after the mothers of the believers and the male companions, may Allah be pleased with them, are more in need of Hijab, because of the great difference between them in the strength of faith and insight with regards to acquaintance with truth. This is because the Companions – men and women, including the mothers of the believers- are the best of people after the Prophets, peace be upon them, and the best of generations established by the Messenger’s, peace and blessings be upon him, statement in the hadith recorded in the Sahihayn [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].(b) Therefore, when it is the case that Hijab was purer for their hearts, then those who came after them have a far greater need of this purity.

It is not permissible to specify the texts of the Qur’an and the Sunnah to anyone in the Ummah without valid evidence that shows this specification; therefore, they are generally applied to all the Ummah during the era of the Messenger and after him until the Day of Resurrection. (This is) because, Allah sent His Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, to humankind and Jinn during his era and after him until the Day of Resurrection, as Allah  said:

وَمَآ أَرۡسَلۡنَـٰكَ إِلَّا ڪَآفَّةً۬ لِّلنَّاسِ بَشِيرً۬ا وَنَذِيرً۬ا

And We have not sent you (O Muhammad) except as a giver of glad tidings and a warner to all humankind. [Saba. 28]

The Noble Qur’an was not only revealed to the people of the Prophet’s era, rather it was also revealed to those after them, as Allah said:

 هَذَا بَلاغٌ لِلنَّاسِ وَلِيُنْذَرُوا بِهِ وَلِيَعْلَمُوا أَنَّمَا هُوَ إِلَهٌ وَاحِدٌٌ وَلِيَذَّكَّرَ أُولُو الْأَلْبَابِ

This (Qur’an) is a Message for humankind (and a clear proof against them), in order that they may be warned thereby, and that they may know that He is the only One Ilah (God – Allah) – (none has the right to be worshipped but Allah), and that men of understanding may take heed. [Ibrahim 52]

Allah said:

 وَأُوحِيَ إِلَيَّ هَذَا الْقُرْآنُ لِأُنْذِرَكُمْ بِهِ وَمَنْ بَلَغَ

This Qur’an has been revealed to me that I may therewith warn you and whomsoever it may reach. [Al-An’am. 19]

In the era of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, women did not intermingle with men- neither in mosques nor in the markets – (in the manner people intermingle nowadays), which the callers to rectification forbid in this era- (the type intermingling which) the Qur’an, the Sunnah and the scholars of the Ummah warn against to caution against temptation; rather, women – in the Prophet’s mosque – prayed behind the men in the last rows- away from the men. The Prophet used yo say:

“The best rows for the men are the first ones and the worst are the last ones. The best of the women’s rows are the last ones and the worst of them is the first”.

During the era of the Prophet, the men were commanded to wait until the women left the mosque so that the men would not mingle with them at the doors of the mosques, despite the Iman and piety they had; so how about those after them?! Women were forbidden from walking in the middle of the road in order to be careful of having contact with men, thus temptation occurs through touching each other when walking on the road. Allah commanded the women of the believers to draw their cloaks all over their bodies so that they cover their adornment with it, in order to prevent temptation. Allah forbade them from showing their adornment to other than those mentioned by Allah in His Mighty Book (c) in order to curtail the causes of temptation, urge towards chastity and distance from the manifestations of corruption and (the evil effects) of free mixing.

So, how can the principle of Sana’a University – may Allah guide and inspire him to His guidance – after all this call for mixing?! He claims that Islam calls to it- that the university campus is like a mosque and the hours of study are like the hours of prayer! For the one who understands Allah’s command and prohibition, knows Allah’s wisdom in what He has legislated for His servants and explained in His Great Book with regards to rulings for men and women, it is well-known that there is a great difference between these matters and the difference is vast. How is it permissible for a believer to say that a female student sitting with a male student is like sitting with her sisters in their rows behind the men (in the Masjid)?! No one with the least handhold of Iman and insight (in this matters) would say this. We might not even be safe together with the presence of the legislated Hijab, so how about if she is sitting with the male student while dressed in an un-Islamic manner, displaying her beauty and attractive looks, and with speech that will lead to temptation? Allah’s Aid is sought, and there is no power nor might except with Allah. Allah said:

فَإِنَّهَا لا تَعْمَى الْأَبْصَارُ وَلَكِنْ تَعْمَى الْقُلُوبُ الَّتِي فِي الصُّدُورِ

Verily, it is not the eyes that grow blind, but it is the hearts which are in the breasts that grow blind. [Al-Hajj. 46]

As for his statement: “Indeed, since the time of the Messenger, Muslims have been performing prayer in the same mosque, men and women, and therefore education must be in one place)”, the answer to this is: this is true, but the women were at the back of the mosques with Hijab – with care and being careful of what would cause temptation, and the men were at the front of the mosque. They [i.e. the women] used to listen to admonitions and sermons, participated in prayer and learned the rulings of their religion from what they heard and witnessed. The Prophet,  peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, used to go to them on the day of Eid – because they were at a distance and could not hear the sermon – after delivering admonition to the men and gave them an admonition and reminder. There is no problem in all of this, but the problem is in the statements of the principle of Sana’a University -may Allah guide him, reform his heart, and give him understanding of his religion. How is it permissible for him to compare education in our time with women praying behind men in one mosque, although there is a vast difference between the reality of education that is known today and the reality of women praying behind men in the Prophet’s era?!

Due to this reason, the callers to rectification call for the separation of women and men in the arena of education:

Women in a separate place and the young men in another, so that a female can acquire knowledge from female teachers with comfort without Hijab or hardship, because the time period for education is longer than the time period of prayer.

Due to the fact that learning from female teachers in a specific place (i.e. away from men) protects everyone and keeps them away from the causes of temptation, and it is the safest thing for young men not to get tempted through women.

And because young men being alone and separated from girls, together with the fact that it is the safest thing for them against temptation, is most likely to make them pay attention to their lessons and occupy themselves with it- listening well to teachers and receiving knowledge from the teachers while distanced from paying attention to girls, being preoccupied with them, exchanging glances that will intoxicate the hearts and mind with evil desires and statements that leads to immorality.

As for his claim, may Allah rectify him, that the call to isolate female students from male students is tantamount to rigidity and an opposition to the Shariah, this is an untrue claim; rather separating male students from female students is an act of sincere devotion to Allah, sincere advice to Allah’s servants, taking good care of the religion ordained by Allah and adherence to what has already been transmitted from noble verses of the Qur’an and the two Prophetic reports. My advice to the principle of Sana’a University is to fear Allah, The Mighty and Majestic, repent to Allah for what he has done, return to the truth and what is correct, because indeed returning to (truth and what is correct) is virtue itself, a proof regarding the search for truth and equity by the student of knowledge.

And Allah is the One asked to guide all of us to the path of righteousness, protect us and other Muslims from speaking about Him without knowledge, (protect us) from the misleading trials and Shaytan’s enmity, just as we ask Allah to grant success to the scholars of the Muslims and their leaders – in every place – to that which contains rectification (uprightness, wellbeing) for the country and the servants, in this life and the next; and to guide everyone to the straight path, for Allah is Jawwaadun Kareem [Al-Jawwaad – “The Munificent. The One Whose generosity covers everything in existence. The One Who gives liberally and generously to those in need – even when they reject and disbelieve in Him. The One Who – from His generosity – has prepared in Paradise for His believing servants that which no eye has ever seen, no ear has ever heard of, and which has never been imagined by anyone”, Al-Kareem “The Bountiful, The Generous One. Abundant in good. The One Who causes and makes easy every good. And Who bestows generously. The One so generous that He even bestows favors upon those who reject His favors, and use them as a means to disobey Him”]. (d) And may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, his companions and all those who follow them in righteousness until the Day of judgement.

https://binbaz.org.sa/articles/113/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%AE%D8%AA%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%B7-%D9%81%D9%8A-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%8A%D9%85.

Footnote a: The Mahaarim by Shaikh Abu Khadeejah, may Allah preserve him.

The Mahrams of a Woman (Male Chaperones) for Travel and Sittings – Mindmap

Footnote b: Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, “The best people are those of my generation, then those who come after them, then those who come after them. Then, there will come people after them whose testimony precedes their oaths and their oaths precede their testimony”. [Al-Bukhari 6065 and Muslim 2533]

Footnote c: Allah said:

وَقُل لِّلۡمُؤۡمِنَـٰتِ يَغۡضُضۡنَ مِنۡ أَبۡصَـٰرِهِنَّ وَيَحۡفَظۡنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبۡدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنۡهَا‌ۖ وَلۡيَضۡرِبۡنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَىٰ جُيُوبِہِنَّ‌ۖ وَلَا يُبۡدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوۡ ءَابَآٮِٕهِنَّ أَوۡ ءَابَآءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوۡ أَبۡنَآٮِٕهِنَّ أَوۡ أَبۡنَآءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوۡ إِخۡوَٲنِهِنَّ أَوۡ بَنِىٓ إِخۡوَٲنِهِنَّ أَوۡ بَنِىٓ أَخَوَٲتِهِنَّ أَوۡ نِسَآٮِٕهِنَّ أَوۡ مَا مَلَكَتۡ أَيۡمَـٰنُهُنَّ أَوِ ٱلتَّـٰبِعِينَ غَيۡرِ أُوْلِى ٱلۡإِرۡبَةِ مِنَ ٱلرِّجَالِ أَوِ ٱلطِّفۡلِ ٱلَّذِينَ لَمۡ يَظۡهَرُواْ عَلَىٰ عَوۡرَٲتِ ٱلنِّسَآءِ‌ۖ وَلَا يَضۡرِبۡنَ بِأَرۡجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعۡلَمَ مَا يُخۡفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ‌ۚ وَتُوبُوٓاْ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تُفۡلِحُونَ

And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husband’s sons, their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful. [Surah An-Nur. Verse 31]

Footnote d: Names and Attributes of Allah by Shaikh Abu Talhah, may Allah have mercy upon him and his wife]: https://www.salafisounds.com/the-names-attributes-of-allaah-by-abu-talhah-dawood-burbank/

Madam Ambiguous

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Articles, Contemporary Issues, Family & Women, Fitnah, Methodology - 'Manhaj', Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Purification of The Soul, Refutations.

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:

“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak goodness or remain silent”. [1]

Heba Yosry, may Allah guide her, said: “When society convinces young girls that it is forbidden for them to speak, they will grow to become muzzled women. Dar Al Ifta’s statement, as intuitive and as commonsensical as it is, is crucial. It took me some time to be able to say it. My voice is not ‘awra, and I am not ‘awra”.

https://english.alarabiya.net/views/2021/07/18/Women-s-voices-are-being-heard-across-the-Islamic-world

Firstly, this above statement can be utilised for both truth and falsehood. Allah, The Most High, said:

وَلَا تَلْبِسُوا الْحَقَّ بِالْبَاطِلِ وَتَكْتُمُوا الْحَقَّ وَأَنتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ

And mix not truth with falsehood, nor conceal the truth while you know (the truth). [l-Baqarah. 42]

Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy upon him, said,

“Allah forbade us from mixing truth with falsehood, and thus leading to concealment of the truth. Mixing truth with false is by mixing the two until one of them is confused for the other. This is forgery and deceit by way of which what is made apparent is the opposite of what it is in reality. Likewise, when truth is confounded with falsehood, the culprit manifests falsehood in the image of truth and speaks with a statement that carries two meanings- a correct meaning and false meaning, so the listener is under the illusion that the speaker intends the correct meaning, whilst he (i.e. the speaker) intends the corrupt meaning”. [2]

Shaikh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

“Falsehood does not spread except with a mixture of some truth, just as Ahlul Kitaab (i.e. those Jews and Christians who strayed after the departure of their Prophets) mixed truth with falsehood. And by way of the little truth they had, they misguided many from the truth and called them to a lot of the falsehood”. [3]

Indeed, the truth in Heba’s statement is that the voice of a woman is not Awrah, as Imam Abdul Azeez Bin Baz, may Allah have mercy upon him, stated, “A woman’s voice is not awrah at all, her voice is not awrah. So, she has the right to ask, and the one who is asked must respond. During the era of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, they [i.e. the women] used to ask the Prophet [i.e. questions] and he used to respond to them. Indeed, Allah, The Most High, said:

قَدۡ سَمِعَ ٱللَّهُ قَوۡلَ ٱلَّتِى تُجَـٰدِلُكَ فِى زَوۡجِهَا وَتَشۡتَكِىٓ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ

Indeed Allah has heard the statement of her (Khaulah bint Tha’labah) that disputes with you (O Muhammad ) concerning her husband (Aus bin As-Samit), and complains to Allah]. [Al-Mujaadilah. 1]

They used to ask the male Companions and those who came after the Companions, and this is a well-known matter. But the Awrah with regards to this matter is that it (i.e. the voice) should not be coquetry or softened. This is what is forbidden. Allah said:

يَا نِسَاءَ النَّبِيِّ لَسْتُنَّ كَأَحَدٍ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ إِنِ اتَّقَيْتُنَّ فَلَا تَخْضَعْنَ بِالْقَوْلِ فَيَطْمَعَ الَّذِي فِي قَلْبِهِ مَرَضٌ وَقُلْنَ قَوْلًا مَعْرُوفًا

O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allah), then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery, etc.) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner. [Al-Ahzab. 32]

Therefore, Allah forbade them from softening their voices lest the corrupters- those with lusts and diseased hearts- would desire them. [وَقُلْنَ قَوْلًا مَعْرُوفًا – but speak in an honourable manner]. Allah commanded them to speak with an honorable and moderate voice that does not involve softening- neither a means to obscenity nor harshness, but it should be moderate. Neither speak in a harsh manner and with evil speech nor with a sweet voice in which there is softness and coquetry; rather it should be ordinary speech in the middle between the two – neither obscene speech nor evil speech; neither speech in which there is harshness and forcefulness; nor soft adorned speech. Neither this nor that. This is the truth that has been stated by the scholars”. [4]

Therefore, if Heba, may Allah guide her, means that a woman’s voice is not Awrah in the manner clarified by Saudi Imam Abdul Azeez Bin Baz, may Allah have mercy upon him, then indeed this is truth, but anything besides that is tantamount to falsehood, evil and sin.

Secondly, regarding Heba’s statement, “I am not awrah”. This is an ambiguous statement! There is no doubt that Heba is not Awrah when dealing with those men that are related to her and she is allowed to free mix with them. See here:https://www.abukhadeejah.com/mind-map-illustration-showing-the-mahrams-male-chaperones-of-a-woman-for-travel-and-sittings/

A woman is not required to cover her hair, neck, forearms and ankles up to just the beginning of her shin in the presence of her father, brother, nephew etc. As for that which is other than this, the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, prohibited both men and women from showing their Awrah, except to their spouses. [Sunan Abu Dawud. 4017]

Therefore, if this is what Heba Yosry means that she is not Awrah to her Mahaarim with regards those parts of a woman’s body that can be seen by the Mahaarim and the specific parts of the body that can only be seen by a spouse, then indeed her statement is correct; but anything other than that is tantamount corruption, falsehood and evil. Indeed, it was incumbent upon her to detail and explain her ambiguous statement as Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy upon him, said:

“The basis of Banee Adam’s misguidance is as a result of ‘General Terms’ and ‘Ambiguous Meanings’ [i.e. terms and statements that can either be utilised for truth or falsehood when not explained in detail and distinguished], especially if they come in contact with a confused mind, then how about when [evil] desires and misguided enthusiasm is added to that? Therefore, ask the One Who keeps the hearts steadfast [i.e. Allah] to keep your heart firm upon His Religion and not allow you to fall into this darkness”. [5]

Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy upon him, also said:

“It is obligated on you to give detail and make a distinction, because unrestricted and general [statements] without clarification has indeed corrupted this existence [i.e. the world], and misguided the intellects and views [of the people] in every era”.

The Mufti, Al-Allamah Salih al-Fawzan, may Allah preserve him, commented on the above statement as follows:

“There has to be detail explanation. The one who is not proficient in giving detail should keep quiet, because benefit is not acquired from his speech. And every time error occurs, its cause is due to an absence of detail explanation regarding truth and falsehood. There has to be detail explanation and distinction and not to mix up [affairs]. Indeed, it may be that there is something of truth and falsehood in an opponent’s statement, so all of it is neither deemed to be false nor truth; rather there has to be a distinction between its truth and falsehood. All of it is neither rejected nor accepted; rather a distinction is made regarding the truth and what is correct and the falsehood and error in it. And if you are not proficient in giving detail, then you should not enter into this field”. [6]

Heba should not quote Fatwa as she pleases. May Allah guide all of us to that which is beloved to Him Amin.

[1] al-Bukhari 6136 and Muslim 47

[2] Badaa’i At-Tafseer Al-Jaami Limaa Fassarahu Al-Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim. 1/124

[3] Majmu 35/190]

[4]https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/4140/%D9%87%D9%84-%D8%B5%D9%88%D8%AA-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D8%B9%D9%88%D8%B1%D8%A9.

[5]An Excerpt from ‘As-Sawaa’iq Al-Mursalah Alal Jahmiyyah Wal Mu’attilah’ – 3/927

[6] An Excerpt from At-Ta-leeqaat Al-Mukhtasar Alaa Al-Qaseedah an-Nooniyyah: 1/216

A Balanced Approach to Marriage Between Relatives and Hereditary Diseases

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Articles, Basics, Contemporary Issues, Family & Women, Fatawa-Rulings, Featured, Islamic Jurisprudence - 'Fiqh', Marriage (Nikkah), Mental Health, Methodology - 'Manhaj', Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Pearls of Wisdom, Purification of The Soul, Scholars of Islam, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Imam Abdul Aziz Bin Baz, may Allah have mercy upon him, was asked:

يا سماحة الشيخ

We have heard that indeed there is danger in marrying relatives as I want to marry off one of my children. Is there any hadith regarding this? May Allah reward you.

Answer: There is no danger therein. What is said (regarding this) is an error. There is no danger in marrying relatives, rather, it is good. The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, married from his relatives. Umm Salamah was from his relatives, Aisha was from his relatives, and Umm Habiba was from his relatives. All of them are from Quraysh, all from his tribe. There is no harm in that. Ali married Fatimah, the daughter of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, who was the daughter of his cousin (i.e. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him). Uthman married the Prophet’s daughters, Ruqayyah and Umm Kulthum (i.e. after of them died he married the other). Abu Al Aas Ibn Ar-Rabee married the Prophet’s fourth daughter, Zainab, and all of them were cousins. There is no harm in this. [1]

The Imam, may Allah have mercy upon him, was also asked: Some people would not marry the daughter of their uncle out of fear that the children might be born with deformities. Does this negate the perfection (completeness) of (one’s) belief in pure Islamic monotheism?

Answer: Many among the people of knowledge have clarified these matters , and that indeed a person should choose a suitable spouse for their offspring to the extent that some of the Fuqaha said: “The best is that one marries a non-relative, rather than the daughter of his uncle”. This is a mistake and it has no basis, whether it is the daughter of his paternal uncle or not the daughter of his paternal uncle, the daughter of his maternal uncle or not the daughter of his maternal uncle. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, married the daughter of his uncle.

But, one should examine (give thought or consideration) that if the woman comes from a family that is afflicted with hereditary defects, mental illness, or physical deformities, he should not marry (someone among) them from the angle of employing the means of precaution, because this could bring you hereditary (issues). Diseases can be passed down – by the will of Allah- to the child, the grandchild and the daughter’s child. If this (such and such) family is well-known to have hereditary diseases that affect the children, he should avoid (marrying into such family). And if nothing is known about the family (i.e. regarding hereditary diseases), he marries (someone) among them. These matters that are known – (through experience, observation etc) regarding what is passed down do occur. Due to this, scholars and physicians advise that one examines (pays attention) to these matters. [2]

[1]Paraphrased:https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/8826/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%82%D8%A7%D8%B1%D8%A8

[2]Paraphrased:https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/2565/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%AA%D8%B1%D9%83-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%82%D8%A7%D8%B1%D8%A8-%D8%AE%D8%B4%D9%8A%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%B6