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[Reminder: Marriage is not lust and the woman is not just pleasure and enjoyment

The noble Sheikh, the Mufti of the committee of major scholars in Saudi Arabia, Sheikh Abdul Aziz ibn Abdullah Aali Shiekh declared that marriage is not just about lust and fulfilling the desires rather it is security and living together and stability.

And the noble Sheikh said: Some of the Muslims have an incorrect understanding about marriage, understanding it in a way other than its reality. Some of them have an understanding that marriage is simply about fulfilling their desires, so although they might implement the legislated marriage contract, their intention with this marriage is not stability nor commitment rather he marries and in himself he is planning to divorce her, meaning he knows in himself that he will marry her for a specific time period even if he does not mention this or disclose this.

So he marries her due to his desire for her not to have serenity and peace of mind with her, but he only counts her as just a simple pleasure; so he’s always on the verge of divorcing her and bringing in someone other than her. So he is a husband and at the same time he mixes this with the intention of divorce. And he does not want from the woman anything other than pleasure.

This is deception to the woman and dishonesty and misleading her; and if a man came to his daughter or his sister and he knew that he did not want her except for this purpose he would not allow him to marry her, but when it comes to other peoples daughters he does whatever he wants.

And all of this is from deception and dishonesty and fraud and betrayal. And for this reason Islam has prohibited temporary marriage; and this is to marry for an estimated number of days for an agreed upon specific duration. Therefore this was made impermissible due to the harms that it contains.

And the Sheikh said: So what the person does not like for his daughters then he should not like it for the daughters of the Muslims.

And the Sheikh said: And some of the people might travel to places in order to find marriage for a specific number of days or months and he thinks this is a marriage contract and all of this is trivial to him, so he falls into sin.

And there are some who marry a number of women before (the other women he divorced) finish their waiting period. So he will merge the marriage to more than ten women in one month without any concern for the Islamic legislated contract.

And the Mufti said: The Muslim must have good judgment and he should not let his goal be to fulfill his desire in a way that is not in accordance with the Islamic legislation. And he must adorn himself with the manners of Islam, and he must look at other peoples daughters just like he looks at his own daughters and his own sisters, and he should put people in the position that he likes to be in.

Therefore if the person believes it allowable to do evil to the daughters of others and to not comply with the Islamic standard and then he does not want this same evil for his daughters; then why this discrepancy? Where is the balance, where is the justice?

Unfortunately, there are some Muslims who make permissible that which Allah has made impermissible so in a matter of days they marry a number of women, all with the intention of divorce, seeking by this to gain some benefit (from the wife) in the summer or the winter or other than this, and Islam prohibits this. Therefore Islam wants for us to be well-balanced in our contracts and to put others in the position of our daughters and our sisters and to be truthful in our dealings.

And the Sheikh said: And some of them go and travel and get married against the normal system and then they fall into sin or serious situations and perhaps they might abandon their wives or leave them and not return to them after they have become pregnant or given birth to his child, so this exposes the Muslim descendants to danger. And some of them dont care about their wives or their children so major problems occur as a result of this treacherous marriage.

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[Source: http://www.salafitalk.net/st/viewmessages.cfm?Forum=29&Topic=6408]

Muslim Woman busy cooking food in Ramadhaan—Shaikh Saaleh Al-Fawzaan

A sister says that a Muslim woman spends most of her time in cooking and being busy in preparing various types of foods during the month of Ramadhaan. And due to this she misses the benefits of the month of Ramadhaan; so what advice can the Shaikh give and is she rewarded for preparing food?

Shaikh Saaleh Al-Fawzaan answered: Yes she will be rewarded for this because she prepares food for those observing the fast and this is an act of co-operating upon righteousness and piety. She will be rewarded in doing this and cooking does not prevent her from uttering Tasbeeh [سبحان الله]; Tahleel [لا إله إلا الله]; Takbeer [الله أكبر] and reciting what she has memorized of the Qur’aan. Cooking does not prevent her from remembrance of Allaah (The Mighty and Majestic)

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Paraphrased. See link for text and audio http://www.sahab.net/forums/index.php?showtopic=144522

Concern for our Children: We Nurture and Supplicate….

Imaam Fudayl Ibn Iyaad (rahimahullaah) made du’aa for his son saying:

”O Allaah! I have made strenuous efforts to nurture my son upon (goodness and piety), but I have not been able to nurture him, so nurture him for me.”

Allaah answered Fudayl’s supplication because his son changed and became one of the most righteous people during his era.

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[See Siyar A’laam Nubulaa 8/390]

Ayyoub As-Sakhtiyaani used to say when congratulating a man…..

Hammaad Bin Zayd (rahimahullaah) said:

When Ayyoub As-Sakhtiyaani (rahimahullaah) used to congratulate a man for the birth of a child, he would say:

جَعَلَهُ اللهُ مُبَارَكًا عَلَيْكَ وَعَلَى أُمَّةِ مُحَمَّدٍ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ

May Allaah make him a blessing upon you and upon the Ummah of Muhammad (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam).

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[Source:   الدعاء للطبراني] [945 ]

Can a woman work even if she is not in need of money–Imaam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz (rahmahullaah)

Imaam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz was asked whether a woman is considered to be following her whims and desires if she works without being in need of money.

The Imaam (rahimahullaah) said that such a woman is not considered to be following her whims/desires. Her engagement n work is not tantamount to following desires/whims if it is noble and safe occupation, and carried out amongst women, without free mixing with men.  And she only works amongst women without any injustice and hostility, with the permission of her husband.

The Imaam (rahimahullaah) also said that there are different kinds of work, and if the work includes disobedience to Allah, then it is obligatory on her to abandon it. If it includes free mixing between men and women and showing her beauty, then this is also evil. But if it is work that is allowed or legislated by Islamic law amongst her Muslim sisters, such as teaching girls, or working as a nurse, or working as a doctor for women; then there is no harm in this and all praise is due to Allaah.

The questioner then asked the Imaam (rahmahullaah) what if the woman is not in need of money; so the Imaam replied saying that even if she is not in need of money, it is still allowed because she might want more money, or need it to give away in charity and so on.  Source: http://www.binbaz.org.sa/audio/noor/033907.mp3

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NB: Women may face different circumstances in the West, so whoever finds herself in different circumstances (especially single parents or women without guardians) should ask the students of knowledge in the Salaficentres to present their questions to the upright scholars n the Muslim lands. May Allaah facilitate ease… Aameen

‘’Having intercourse (with one’s wife) is a charity.”

The Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: ”Having intercourse (with one’s wife) is a charity.” [1]

In this there is: Perfect enjoyment; Kindness towards a beloved wife; seeking reward, gaining reward equivalent to giving Sadaqah, exhilaration of the soul, expelling bad thoughts, lighten the soul, expel her strain [and yours]; lighten her body and balancing her temperament [and yours]. If this happens in a good way, with gentleness and a lot of passion, complete desire and seeking reward, there will not be any enjoyment equal to it. [2]


[1] [Reported by Muslim. Number 1674]

[2]An Excerpt from Rawdatul Muhibbeen Wa Nuzhatul Mush-taaqeen of Imaam Ibnul Qayyim. Page 187. Slightly paraphrased]

How Should Women Dress In Front of Other Women? Sh.Fawzan/Sh.Uthaymeen/Sh.Albany

Shaikh Salih al-Fawzan was asked regarding women wearing extremely tight clothes, or open clothing that reveals large areas of the chest and arms, he replied:

“What is required from a woman is modesty and shyness, and that she is a good example for her sisters from the women, and that she should not reveal among women other than that which practising muslimaat [muslim sisters] are accustomed to uncovering among themselves. This is more deserving and encompassing, since leniency in uncovering that which there is no need to uncover may lead to [further] lenience which [eventually] leads to impermissible uncovering, Allahu ‘alam”.

Shaikh Salih al-Fawzan was also asked regarding women wearing tight clothing in the presence of other women only, he replied:

“No doubt that a women wearing something tight which highlights her body areas [bosom etc]  is not permissible, it is not permissible except in front of her husband only. As for in the presence of others besides her husband then it is not permissible, even if it was in the presence of women only. Since then she will be a bad example for others if they see her wearing such [tight] clothes, and they will emulate her.

Additionally, she [the woman] is commanded to cover her ‘aura with ample and covering clothing from everyone, except her husband, she should cover her ‘aura from other women as she covers from men – except for that which is customarily accepted to uncover for women among women, such as the face, the hands, the feet, that which there is a need to uncover.”

[فتاوى المرأة المسلمة ص437 – 438]

Shaikh al-‘Uthaymeen was asked upon the ruling of women wearing short clothing in front of other women, he replied:

“It is not permissible for a woman to wear short clothes except if she was in her home and no-one was there other than her husband. As for in front of other people then it is not permissible for her to wear short or tight clothes, or transparent [thin, see-through materials] whereby it displays that which is behind it [the skin and body].”

[مجموع الفتاوى والرسائل م12]

Shaikh al-‘Uthaymeen was also asked regarding women wearing tight clothes in front of other women only, he replied:

“A woman wearing tight clothes that highlight the intimate areas [bosom etc] and make apparent that which has fitnah within it is impermissible…[later continued to say]…the tight clothing is not permissible in front of her mahaarim [any of those who are her mahram from the men] nor in front of the women if it is extremely tight making apparent her initimate areas.”

[فتاوى المرأة المسلمة ص417 – 418]

Indeed the women of the believers [sahaabiyyaat] were at the pinnacle of purity and chastity, modesty and shyness through the blessing of eemaan in Allah and His messenger and in the Qur’an and Sunnah. The women of that time wore covering clothing, and it was known from them that they would not uncover in front of their mahaarim or other women [other than the habitual areas such as the face, hands, feet and such], and this practice continued within the women of Islam generation after generation until recently when corruption in regards to clothing and mannerisms entered into the women.

We advise the women to have characteristics of shyness and modesty which is a branch of Eemaan itself, and from that modesty  – Islamically speaking and customarily – is the woman covering herself and removing herself from any situation of fitnah. So what is upon the women is to abide by that which the Mothers of the Believers and the women of the companions were upon in terms of modesty and shyness.

[Paraphrased from speech of the Permanent Committe of Scholars].

Shaikh al-Albany stated regarding this subject, “The areas of wudu [head/face/neck, hands/forearms, feet], these are the areas of beautification that a women may make apparent in front of her muslim sister”.

[شريط تحية المسجد – الهجرة – عورة المرأة أمام النساء…السلسلة 641]

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Ikhlaas and Not Showing off, whether a Scholar or Laymen- Shkh Muhammad b. Haadi- relayed by @ABDULILAH_UK

An important reminder, to be sincere and grounded, and not to show off regarding your actions; no matter how many people follow you or take from you in terms of da’wa.

This reminder has come to us at a crucial time in which we see many people entering into the dawah and religion of Allah. Alhamdulillah the blessings in this dawat-us salafiyyah are great. But we must always remember that anything that is achieved is by the tawfique of Allah and his mercy first. Our effort is very little in comparison to Allah’s immense favour and Mercy upon us to even allow us to be a part of it.

So we should strive as hard as we can to aid this call to Islam; working deligently in this dawah – and we ask Allah to reward us fully – all of us – and not to hold us to account for the things we fall short in.


 

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