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Indeed the True Believers are those who Place their Trust In Allaah

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

Indeed the True Believers are those who Place their Trust In Allaah azza-Wajall.

Hadeeth no.49: 

عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ , عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ , قالَ

لَوْ أَنَّكُمْ تَتَوَكَّلُونَ عَلَى اللَّهِ حَقَّ تَوَكُّلِهِ لَرَزَقَكُمْ كَمَا يَرْزُقُ الطَّيْرَ تَغْدُو خِمَاصًا وَتَرُوحُ بِطَانًا.

On the authority of ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaab May Allaah be Pleased with him, narrated from the Messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه وسلم who said:

“If you rely upon Allah with the best level of Tawakkul (placing ones trust and reliance in Allaah) with him, He will provide you with sustenance just as He provides for the birds – they leave out (in the morning) with empty stomachs and return (in the evening) with full stomachs ” Reported in Tirmidhee1, Ahmad2 and others3.

Imaam Ibn Rajab Al-Hanbaliرحمه الله  said regarding this hadeeth:   This hadeeth is from the principles of At-Tawakkul, and it is from the greatest of the reasons that bring about ones provisions (from Allaah).

Allaah (عز وجل) said:

وَمَن يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَل لَّهُ مَخْرَجًا

 ۚوَيَرْزُقْهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لَا يَحْتَسِبُ ۚ وَمَن يَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ فَهُوَ حَسْبُهُ

“And whomsoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to him, he will make for him a way to get out (from every difficulty. And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him.”4

And indeed the Messenger of Allaah read these verses to Abu Dharr al-Ghifaaree and said to him: “If all of the people were to take heed of these (verses), then indeed it would suffice them.”

{Meaning: If they were to achieve At-Taqwaa and At-Tawakkul they will find contentment in their affairs, be they affairs of the Deen or of the Dunyaa. And this Kalaam has already been brought forth in the explanation of the Hadeeth of Ibn Abbaas: (( Be Mindful of Allaah and Allaah will Protect you.))5}

Some of the Salaf have said:

“It is sufficient in your beseeching/invoking of Him, to know in your heart the that you have the highest reliance in Him, for how many  servants from His servants entrust Him with their affairs and then He suffices them with that which they desire. Then they (the salaf) would read:

وَمَن يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَل لَّهُ مَخْرَجًا

ۚ وَيَرْزُقْهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لَا يَحْتَسِبُ ۚ وَمَن يَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ فَهُوَ حَسْبُهُ

“And whomsoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to him, he will make for him a way to get out (from every difficulty. And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him.”6

The correct meaning of Tawakkul:

Ibn Rajab says: “It is the true reliance of the heart in Allaah (عز وجل)  to seek beneficial affairs and to repel the harm (in relation) to all affairs of the Dunyaa and the hereafter, and to leave all affairs to Him and to have certain Eemaan that indeed none can give nor withhold, and none can benefit nor harm besides Allaah (alone).”

SOURCE: JAAMI’ UL ULOOM WAL-HIKAM – Volume 3 – p.1265-1266 – Daruss-Salaam Edition (1424H, 2004G)


1. 1 Reported by Imaam Tirmidhee in his Sunan : 37 – Book of Zuhd, 33 – Book of Reliance Upon Allaah (4/573) hadeeth no. 2344. And Aboo Eesaa At-Tirmidhee commented: “This hadeeth is Hasan (Good) Saheeh (Authentic). I do not know of it except with this position. Imaam Al Albaanee authenticated the hadeeth in his ‘Saheeh ut-Tirmidhee’.

2.Reported by Imaam Ahmad in his Musnad (1/243) with a chain of narration that is authentic.

3 Also reported in Kitaabur-Raqaa’iq, and Al-Kubraa, both of Imaam An-Nasa’ee, Ibn Hibbaan in his Saheeh, and Ibn Maajah in Az-Zuhd.

4 Surah At-Talaaq (65): Verses 2-3

5 The famous hadeeth that is collected by Imaam An-Nawawee in his 40 Ahaadeeth, from Sunan At-Tirmidhee:

عن أبي العباس عبد الله بن عباس رضي الله عنهما قال : كنت خلف النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يوما ، فقال : ( يا غلام ، إني أُعلمك كلمات : احفظ الله يحفظك ، احفظ الله تجده تجاهك ، إذا سأَلت فاسأَل الله ، وإذا استعنت فاستعن بالله ، واعلم أن الأُمة لو اجتمعت على أَن ينفعـوك بشيء ، لم ينفعوك إلا بشيء قد كتبه الله لك ، وإن اجتمعوا على أن يضروك بشيء ، لم يضروك إلا بشيء قد كتبه الله عليك، رفعت الأقلام وجفت الصحف ) رواه الترمذي وقال : حديث حسن صحيح .

On the authority of Abil-Abbaas Abdullaah ibn Abbaas May Allaah be pleased with them who said: “I was behind the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ one day and he said to me: “O Young boy, I shall teach you some words: Be mindful of Allaah and He will Protect you, Be Mindful of Allaah and you will find him at your side, If you ask, then ask only of Allaah, If you seek aid, then seek His aid only. And know, that if the whole world were to gather together in order to benefit you, then they would not be able to do so, except if Allaah had written for them to do so. And if the whole world were to gather together to harm you, then they would not be able to do so, except if Allaah Had written for them to do so. The pens have been lifted and the pages are dry. Tirmidhee said: This hadeeth is Hasan (Good) Saheeh (Authentic) Albaani authenticated it in his checking of Tirmidhee.

6 Surah At-Talaaq (65): Verses 2-3

 

 

Descriptions of The Sittings of The Prophet with The Sahaabah

The Prophet’s (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam ) sittings with the Sahaabah were sittings of remembrance of Allaah, urging towards good deeds and making one afraid of the consequences of evil deeds, either through reminders from the Qur’aan, the wisdom (i.e. the Sunnah ) Allaah has given him, fine admonition or learning what will benefit a person in religion.

[Lataa’if Al-Ma’aarif’ page 45′ by Imaam Ibn Rajab Al-Hanbali (rahimahallaah )]

Conduct & Mannerisms of The Student of Knowledge – Ash Shaykh Zayd bin Haadi

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Al Allaamah  Zayd bin Haadi Al Madkhalee:

“So congratulations to every Student of Knowledge who has purified his intention for Allah whilst seeking that knowledge and intended by it the pleasure of Allah.

And he who adorned himself with the characteristics and attributes of the Students of Knowledge of old, from holding onto tranquility, dignity and maintaining good conduct with one’s teacher and peers, and with the people in general. Since it is through these mannerisms and other than them from those commendable traits that the Students of Knowledge are distinguished from the rest of the people. So they are the elite and best from the people no doubt!”

 
أوضح المعاني شرح مقدمة رسالة أبي زيد القيرواني ٨.

Possessor of Evil Manners is Not a Key to Good – Ash Shaykh Abdur Razzaaq Al Badr

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

 

إِنَّ مِنْ النَّاسِ مَفَاتِيحَ لِلْخَيْرِ مَغَالِيقَ لِلشَّرِّ ، وَإِنَّ مِنْ النَّاسِ مَفَاتِيحَ لِلشَّرِّمَغَالِيقَ لِلْخَيْرِ ، فَطُوبَى لِمَنْ جَعَلَ اللَّهُ مَفَاتِيحَ الْخَيْرِ عَلَى يَدَيْهِ ، وَوَيْلٌ لِمَنْ جَعَلَاللَّهُ مَفَاتِيحَ الشَّرِّ عَلَى يَدَيْهِ

‘Indeed from amongst the people are those who are keys to goodness and closures to evil. And indeed from amongst the people are keys to evil and closures to goodness. So tooba for the one who Allah has made him a key to goodness and wayl to the one who Allah has made a key to evil.”(1)

Shaykh Abdur Razzaq Al Badr comments on this Hadith and extracts 8 affairs if a Muslim was serious about their actualisation he would become a Key for Good and a Closure of Evil.

Fifthly: Good Manners- to adorn yourself with good noble manners and to distance yourself from bad manners that are lowly. So the possessor of noble manners his character protects him from evil and indecency, in contrast to the possessor of an evil character, for indeed his character is evil and runs towards evil and indecency.
Source: al-badr.net
(1) Declared Hasan by Al Imaam Al Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Ibn Maajah, Hadeeth 195

A Traveller Eating In the Late Afternoon In The Presence of the People during Ramadhaan – Shaikh Abdullaah Bin Humaid

Question to Shaikh Abdullaah Bin Humaid (rahimahullaah)

Some of the people come for Umrah and eat in the Haram because they are travellers; but they eat in the presence of the people. Is it permissible for them to do so?

Answer:

It is permissible for a traveller to eat, but the scholars have stated that he (or she) should not eat in the presence of the people. He (or she) should eat in private lest the people disapproved of him (or her) and say that this person is thoughtless or lest the sinful people blindly follow him (or her).

You have a (legislated) excuse because you are a traveler. But it is not befitting that you eat in the presence of the people because they will accuse you and a person is commanded to safeguard his (or her) honour. Also the sinful people will follow you when they see you eating, saying: ‘’Such and such a person eats so we will also eat like him.’’

And indeed the scholars from the Hanaabilah (i.e. the scholars of the Madhab of Imaam Ahmad (rahimahullaah) and other than them have stated that it is permissible for the traveller to eat during the day in Ramadhaan and there is no harm in doing so, except that it is not befitting for him (or her) to eat in the presence of the people, rather of he (or she) should eat in private.

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[Source: Al-Fataawaa Wad-Duroos Fil Masjidil Haraam…pages: 493-494]

Sufyaan Ath-Thawri-[The first thing we will start with today……!]

Wakee (rahimahullaah) said:

We went out with Sufyaan Ath-Thawri (rahimahullaah) on the day of Eed, so he said:

The first thing we will start with on this day of ours is to lower our gaze.

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[الورع of Ibn Abee Dunyaa. 66]

[2] A Reminder from a beloved wife to her beloved husband

Allaah (The Most High) said:

 وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. [30:21]

 

Assalaamu alaykum warahmatullaah;

Let this be the final reminder to the one I love for the sake of Allaah (The Most High) because he constantly aids me-In’shaa’Allaah- in that which will bring about success in this life and the next.

You are that responsible father of my beloved children and what an excellent father you are Maa-Shaa-Allaah! It amazes me that you are always prepared to sacrifice your wealth, time and effort for this family. You are always spending on us within your means; but what amazes me is that you give little consideration to yourself!

Lol! However, the displeasure is clearly shown on your face whenever we attempt to be a bit spoilt. Please overlook our weaknesses because your displeasure-expressed without words- is always enough to stop us in our naughty footsteps. O Allaah! Reward my beloved husband because he always gives priority to the sound upbringing of our beloved children and my welfare.

My dear husband, I look at you sometimes and smile behind your back-thanking Allaah (The Most High) for bestowing you to me. The children cannot bear your absence beyond your working hours due to the love, compassion and friendliness you always show. O Allaah! Keep this man upon steadfastness and reward him with abundant good in this life and the next…Aameen.

My dear husband, Allaah has given us good in abundance, so let us be grateful and not forgetful. You are not wealthy, but you are generous, modest, hardworking, self-sufficient and compassionate. This is the greatest source of joy for me and I will not exchange it for any other riches In-Shaa-Allaah!  Perhaps I am always falling short, but you are never tired of giving advice with gentleness and compassion. Lol! But your command becomes very unambiguous when advice falls on deaf ears and we always-and all praise is due to Allaah-carry it out. Thereafter, you smile and find something else and direct our attention to more important things in this life. May Allaah bless you. So let me remind myself and perhaps some reminders for you as well….

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.” They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Because of their ingratitude.” It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 1052)

O Allaah protect me and all my Muslim sisters from being ungrateful to our husbands… Aameen

 

The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: “The best among you is the best towards his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.

My dear husband! Continue to be from those who are good to their wives-May Allaah bless you. However, this does not mean that you leave me to demand things that are against the sharia of Allaah in the name of kind treatment; rather continue being kind to me and restrain me from anything that will ruin my aakhirah- with gentleness, compassion and clear advice. Please overlook my shortcomings-even though you do not make that known to me- rather you always give advice from that which Allaah has granted you of knowledge and wisdom- from the Book and the Sunnah, and the understanding of the pious predecessors.

May Allaah continue to unite our hearts upon Bir and Taqwah, and love and compassion for the sake of Allaah (The Most High). And may Allaah (The Most High) grant us patience, so that we are blessed in the afterlife. Allaah (The Most High) stated:

قُلْ يَا عِبَادِ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمْ ۚ لِلَّذِينَ أَحْسَنُوا فِي هَٰذِهِ الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةٌ ۗ وَأَرْضُ اللَّهِ وَاسِعَةٌ ۗ إِنَّمَا يُوَفَّى الصَّابِرُونَ أَجْرَهُم بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ

Say (O Muhammad): “O My slaves who believe (in the Oneness of Allah Islamic Monotheism), be afraid of your Lord (Allah) and keep your duty to Him. Good is (the reward) for those who do good in this world, and Allah’s earth is spacious (so if you cannot worship Allah at a place, then go to another)! Only those who are patient shall receive their rewards in full, without reckoning.” [39:10]

And Allaah (The Most High) said:

الَّذِينَ يُوفُونَ بِعَهْدِ اللَّهِ وَلَا يَنقُضُونَ الْمِيثَاقَ

وَالَّذِينَ يَصِلُونَ مَا أَمَرَ اللَّهُ بِهِ أَن يُوصَلَ وَيَخْشَوْنَ رَبَّهُمْ وَيَخَافُونَ سُوءَ الْحِسَابِ

وَالَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا ابْتِغَاءَ وَجْهِ رَبِّهِمْ وَأَقَامُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَأَنفَقُوا مِمَّا رَزَقْنَاهُمْ سِرًّا وَعَلَانِيَةً وَيَدْرَءُونَ بِالْحَسَنَةِ السَّيِّئَةَ أُولَٰئِكَ لَهُمْ عُقْبَى الدَّارِ

جَنَّاتُ عَدْنٍ يَدْخُلُونَهَا وَمَن صَلَحَ مِنْ آبَائِهِمْ وَأَزْوَاجِهِمْ وَذُرِّيَّاتِهِمْ ۖ وَالْمَلَائِكَةُ يَدْخُلُونَ عَلَيْهِم مِّن كُلِّ بَابٍ

سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكُم بِمَا صَبَرْتُمْ ۚ فَنِعْمَ عُقْبَى الدَّارِ

وَالَّذِينَ يَنقُضُونَ عَهْدَ اللَّهِ مِن بَعْدِ مِيثَاقِهِ وَيَقْطَعُونَ مَا أَمَرَ اللَّهُ بِهِ أَن يُوصَلَ وَيُفْسِدُونَ فِي الْأَرْضِ ۙ أُولَٰئِكَ لَهُمُ اللَّعْنَةُ وَلَهُمْ سُوءُ الدَّارِ

*Those who fulfill the Covenant of Allah and break not the Mithaq (bond, treaty, covenant);

*Those who join that which Allah has commanded to be joined (i.e. they are good to their relatives and do not sever the bond of kinship), fear their Lord, and dread the terrible reckoning (i.e. abstain from all kinds of sins and evil deeds which Allah has forbidden and perform all kinds of good deeds which Allah has ordained).

*And those who remain patient, seeking their Lord’s Countenance, perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat), and spend out of that which We have bestowed on them, secretly and openly, and defend evil with good, for such there is a good end;

*Adn (Eden) Paradise (everlasting Gardens), which they shall enter and (also) those who acted righteously from among their fathers, and their wives, and their offspring. And angels shall enter unto them from every gate (saying): Salamun ‘Alaikum (peace be upon you) for that you persevered in patience! Excellent indeed is the final home!”

*And those who break the Covenant of Allah, after its ratification, and sever that which Allah has commanded to be joined (i.e. they sever the bond of kinship and are not good to their relatives), and work mischief in the land, on them is the curse (i.e. they will be far away from Allah’s Mercy); And for them is the unhappy (evil) home (i.e. Hell) .   [Soorah Ar-Ra’ad: 20-25]

May Allaah grant us all success. Aameen

 

The wife raising her voice towards her husband – Shaykh Uthaymeen

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Shaykh Uthaymeen was asked about a woman who raises her voice and shouts at her husband:

(Paraphrasing)
Indeed raising of the wife’s voice towards her husband is from evil manners, and that is because he is her protector and he takes care of her.*

Therefore it is a must that she respects him and addresses him with manners. Because that is more likely to create affection between them and enables friendship and love to remain between them. Likewise the husband must also treat her kindly. So good manners and kind treatment is mutual, Allah the Most High said:

…And treat them kindly; then if you hate them, it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it.
Soorah An-Nisaa’ Verse 19

Fataawa Noor alad Darb li ibn Uthaymeen

* Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband’s property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.
Soorah An-Nisaa Verse 34

Marrying a pregnant woman – Permanent committee

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

 

The pregnant divorcee or widow has an iddah (specific time period before she can get married which is) until she has given birth, due to His statement:

And for those who are pregnant (whether they are divorced or their husbands are dead), their ‘Iddah (prescribed period) is until they deliver (their burdens)
Soorah Al-Talaaq Verse 4

(So) the marriage contract with her is obsolete and the marriage is not complete.

Fataawa Al-Lajnah Ad-Daa’imah 4945