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How does the Woman Wipe her Head during Wudu – Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al Uthaymeen

سؤال:

هل مسح الرأس للمرأة مثل الرجل؟ وماذا تفعل إذا كان شعرها طويلاً؟ هل تمسحه إلى نهايته وترجع، أم يكفي مسحه إلى حد رأس الرجل؟

الجواب:

يجب أن نعلم أن الأحكام الشرعية تتفق فيها النساء مع الرجال والرجال مع النساء، إلا ما قام الدليل على التفريق بينهما، وعلى هذا فالمرأة يشرع لها في مسح الرأس ما يشرع للرجل، فتضع يديها على مقدم الرأس، ثم تردهما إلى قفاه ثم تردهما إلى المحل الذي بدأت منه، كما يصنع الرجل، ولا يلزمها أن تمسح إلى أسفل الرأس، بل تمسح إلى حد منابت الرأس، وكذلك الرجل إذا كان له شعر طويل إلى الكتفين، فإنه لا يلزمه أن يمسح إلا على قدر منابت الشعر فقط.

English Translation:

Question

Is the wiping over the head (during Wudhu) for women similar to that of the mens’? What does she do if she has  long hair? Does she wipe it till she reaches the end of her hair and wipes back or is it sufficient for her to wipe till she reaches the hair line of the (back of the) head like the men.

Answer

It is obligatory for us to know that all religious legislated acts (rulings and teachings) apply to both men and women except where evidence establishes a difference (in ruling) between them.

Upon (applying) this, then it is legislated for a woman to wipe over her head in accordance to the way it is legislated for the men.

So she places both of her hands at the forehead (forehead hairline) and moves them both to the back of the neck then she returns them to the place she began from, like the men do.

She is not obligated to wipe past the base of the head but instead she wipes till the back hairline. Likewise, for men who have long hair till the shoulders, certainly he is not obligated to wipe except till the hairline boundary only.

Do Not Oppress your Family, Your Wife or Others – Shaykh ‘Abdul Azīz b. Bāz

Do Not Oppress your Family, Your Wife or Others. – Shaykh ‘Abdul Azīz b. Bāz


Oppression is from the most disgusting, despicable of major sins, it’s evil consequences Allāh (The Glorified) has informed us of in His Tremendous Book:

وَمَن يَظْلِم مِّنكُمْ نُذِقْهُ عَذَابًا كَبِيرًا

And whoever among you does wrong, We shall make him taste a great torment. (Al-Furqān: 19)

And Allāh says:

وَالظَّالِمُونَ مَا لَهُم مِّن وَلِيٍّ وَلَا نَصِيرٍ

And the Dhālimun (polytheists and wrong-doers, etc.) will have neither a Wali (protector) nor a helper. (Ash-Shūra: 8)

Hence, oppression is a great evil and it has evil consequences, the Messenger (sallāhu alayhi wa salam) said:

“Fear oppression for indeed oppression is darkness on the day of resurrection.” (Muslim)

Furthermore, Allāh has said in a Hadīth Qudsī (which is narrated by the Prophet (sallāhu alayhi wa salam)):

“Oh my servant! Indeed I have forbidden oppression upon myself and between you, so do not oppress.” (Muslim)

Therefore, it is obligatory to be cautious of perpetrating oppression to any of the people, whether it be your family, your wife, your brothers, your children, your mother, your father, your neighbours and other than them.

Likewise, do not oppress your employees, give them their wages in full, every month (for e.g.) give him or her their wages.

Give everyone who has a right upon you; your children, your wife and other than them; their rights.

The intent in being cautious regarding oppression of the people is because indeed Allāh has made sacred the blood, honour and wealth of the Muslims.

So, the Muslim takes himself to account and fears his Lord, so do not oppress anyone, not their honour or their wealth, regardless of whether they are close to you or not.


Paraphrased from Shaykh ‘Abdul Azīz ibn Bāz:

https://www.binbaz.org.sa/noor/8490

The Sin of the Person Who Does Not Provide for Those Under His Care. Hadeeth: Explanation of Shaykh ‘Abdul Muhsin Al Abbad

Abū Dawūd reported the hadīth of Abdullāh ibn ‘Amr (Allāh be pleased with him). He said, “Allāh’s Messenger (sallallāhu alaihi wa salam) said”

“Sufficient sin for a man is that he neglects those he should provide for.”(1)

Shaykh ‘Abdul Muhsin (hafidahullāh):

“Meaning, a person sins due to the absence of spending and providing on the one spending upon is obligated.

Regardless of whether that was due to him not seeking sustenance for them (by working), or if he was wealthy but was stingy and tightfisted with them.

Or perhaps he spends and gives optional charity to those who aren’t close to him, neglecting those who it is obligatory for him to spend on, from those close to him, (wife, children etc), so by doing this he fulfils a recommended act but abandons an obligation.

Indeed he is sinful because he abandons that which Allāh (‘azza wa jal) obligated upon him, from spending upon those it is obligated to provide for.

This is similar to the previous hadīth(2), Spend it on yourself, then your child, then your wife, then your servant, then he (sallallāhu alaihi wa salam) said: You have better knowledge; meaning: after that, give charity to whomsoever you wish, or don’t, its entirely up to you.”


Slightly Paraphrased from Shaykh ‘Abdul Muhsin’s (hafidahullāh) explanation of this hadīth in his lessons on Sunan Abū Dawūd in the Prophets Masjid.

(1) Authenticated by Shaykh Al-Albāni Sahīh Sunan Abū Dawūd Hadīth Nos. 1692 Vol.1 Pg. 469
(2) Full wording of the Hadīth:

On the Authority of Abū Hurayrah, he said Allāh’s Messenger commanded with giving in charity. Then a man said, “Oh Allāh’s Messenger! I have a dīnār?”

So Allāh’s Messenger said “Spend it in on yourself”.

He (the man) said, “I have another?”

(Allāh’s Messenger) said “Spend it on your offspring.”

He (the man) said, “I have another?”

(Allāh’s Messenger) said “Spend it on your wife.”

He (the man) said, “I have another?”

(Allāh’s Messenger) said “Spend it on your servant.”

He (the man) said, “I have another?”

(Allāh’s Messenger) said “You have better knowledge.” (On how to spend it, or give in charity to.)

Authenticated by Shaykh Al-Albāni Sahīh Sunan Abū Dawūd Hadīth Nos. 1691 Vol.1 Pg. 469

The Means to a Loving Relationship and Strong Bond Between Husband and Wife- By Shaikh Uthaymeen [rahimahullaah]

Shaikh Uthaymeen [rahimahullaah] said: If a person says: What will make a man love his wife and vice versa? We say: Allaah has clarified this in His statement:

وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ

And live with them honourably. [Soorah An-Nisaa’ Aayah 19]

If every person lives with his wife honourably and vice versa, then love, a strong bond and a happy married life will be established.


[Fataawaa Noor Alad-Darb 6/29. Abridged]

The Love Between Husband and Wife – By Imaam As-Sadi [rahimahullaah]

Allaah (The Most High) said:

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.” [Soorah Ar-Rum: Ayah: 21]

Imaam as-Saa’di [rahimahullaah]: ”In most cases you will not find love in anyone similar to the love and mercy between a husband and wife.”

2 Ahadeeth on Compassion Towards Our Wives

The Prophet (sallahualayhiwasallam) said:

“The best of you are those who are the best to their wives; and I am the best of you to my wives.” (Tirmidhi 3895. Declared authentic by Imaam Albaani in Sahih at-Tirmidhi)

The Prophet (sallahualayhiwasallam) said:

“You never spend anything, except that you will be rewarded for it; even the morsel of food that you lift to your wife’s mouth” (Bukhaari 6352 & Muslim 1628)

Special Thanks to That Special One in The House- [The Selfless Wife and Mother]  

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

After thanking Allaah, then thanks to that special person in the house – she fasts, establishes the five daily prayers and performs other acts of worship; but she also takes great pleasure in preparing the food which everyone is eager to see on the table at the time of Iftaar. She is not our possession; rather she is the one with a more compassionate heart InShaaAllaah- always ready to make everyone happy, even when she is tired. We thank Allaah for granting us the companionship of this special one- the compassionate wife and mother of the household. She is a treasure and a beloved one, within and outside the month of Ramadhaan. It is a great pleasure to know that we are sharing our lives with this person- one of the most selfless people we have ever met. May Allaah grant her abundant good in this life and the next…Aameen

Listen Here: https://t.co/lWSSwhn4n8 : Shaikh Abdur-Razzaaq Al-Badr speaks about appreciating the efforts of our wives in the house: [One Day, Man Did Household Chores & Really Appreciated Wife’s Daily Efforts]