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There’s No [Unrestricted or Unconditional] Allegiance to Anyone Besides The Infallible Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam]

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Al-Allaamah Zayd Bin Haadi Al-Madkhali [rahimahullaah] stated:

There is no [unrestricted or unconditional] allegiance except to the Messenger of Allaah [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] because he is infallible and never speaks out of his desires. As for unrestricted allegiance to personalities whether they are correct or mistaken, then indeed this is not permissible for the seeker of knowledge. On the other hand, he should look to such and such Shaikhs as to which of them is upon uprightness and is following the Manhaj of the Salaf. This is the one whom we place our hands on his hands- not out of blameworthy blind following, rather due to the fact that he is upon the truth. So we agree with him upon truth and follow a singular path in obedience to the statement of Allaah [The Mighty and Majestic]: [وَأَنَّ هَٰذَا صِرَاطِي مُسْتَقِيمًا فَاتَّبِعُوهُ ۖ وَلَا تَتَّبِعُوا السُّبُلَ فَتَفَرَّقَ بِكُمْ عَن سَبِيلِهِ  – And verily, this is my Straight Path, so follow it, and follow not (other) paths, for they will separate you away from His Path] [6:153]

As for the one who selects Shaikhs, leaders and guides, whilst being in agreement with them- in what is correct and wrong- to the extent that they do not leave their Manhaj whether they are correct or wrong, then these are the people who bring evil upon themselves and upon others. And if they do not repent, then they are most worthy of being blamed. So the affair-and all praise belongs to Allaah- is clear and it is not permissible for a person to be in confusion regarding this affair.

Therefore, we are with those who follow the straight path-we follow a singular path which Allaah [The Mighty and Majestic] has commanded us to follow and which the messenger called us to. And those you follow the wrong path or are mistaken in many of their affairs, or in some of their affairs, we leave him [i.e. we leave his mistakes or abandon him when he deserves to be boycotted]. None is followed in everything except the Messenger of Allaah [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam]. As for the people, then indeed they can be correct or mistaken. Indeed, we do not follow them and we do not follow their footsteps solely because they are Shaikhs, Callers to Islaam, leaders or guides; rather you should be with the people of the Salafi Manhaj-those who follow the correct manhaj and correct understanding.

[العقد المنضد الجديد في الإجابة على مسائل في الفقه والمناهج والتوحيد -(page:144) ]

 

An Incident Between AbuBakr As-Siddeeq And Rabee’ah Al-Aslami –[A Lesson On Maturity, Fair play, True Brotherhood, Being Eager to Give People Their Rights And Supplicating For One Another When Disagreement Related to a Worldly Affair Occurs]   

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Pearls of Wisdom, Purification of The Soul, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Rabee’ah Al-Aslami [radiyallaahu-anhu] narrated, “I used to serve the Messenger of Allaah [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam], so he gave me a piece of land and gave Abu Bakr a piece of land. Then, the worldly life came and we argued over a bunch of palm trees, so Abu Bakr said, ‘It is in my piece of land!’ and I said, ‘It is in my piece of land!’ Then there was an exchange of words between Abu Bakr and myself, so Abu Bakr said something to me that I disliked, and he regretted that. So, he said to me, ‘O Rabee’ah! Say in return to me what I said to you so that it becomes a retribution’. I said, ‘I will not do so!’ Abu Bakr said, ‘Say it, or I will call the Messenger of Allaah on you!’ I said, ‘I will not do so’. So Abu Bakr abandoned the piece of land and went to the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] and I followed him.  The people from [the tribe of] Aslam came and said, ‘May Allaah have mercy on Abu Bakr! Why would he call the Messenger of Allaah on you when he has said to you what he has said?’ So I said, ‘Do you know who that is? That is Abu Bakr -the Truthful [as-Siddeeq]! He is the one who was in the Cave with the Prophet [sallal laahu-alayhi wasallam], and he is the elder of the Muslims! So beware that he turns around and see you helping me against him and it makes him angry, then the Messenger of Allaah [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] comes along and become angry because of Abu Bakr’s anger, and then Allaah becomes angry due to their anger, and thus Rabee’ah is destroyed!’ So, they said, ‘So what do you want us to do?’ I said, ‘Go back to where you came from.’ So Abu Bakr went to the Messenger of Allah and I followed him by myself and continued until he got to the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] and informed him of our conversation as it happened. So he [the Prophet] raised his head to me and said, ‘O Rabee’ah! What is going on between you and as-Siddeeq?’ So I said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah! This happened and that happened, so he said something to me that I disliked, and he told me to say the same thing back to him so that it be would be a retribution’. So the Messenger of Allaah said, ‘Do not return his comment to him, rather say ‘May Allaah forgive you O Abu Bakr! May Allaah forgive you O Abu Bakr!’ So Abu Bakr turned his face and began to cry’”.

Beneficial Reminders From This Hadeeth By Shaikh Zayd Bin Haadi [rahimahullaah]

This hadeeth contains an amazing story from which we can take an exhortation and a lesson. Firstly, it is a proof regarding the purity of the hearts of the Sahaabah towards one another, and that when disagreement occurred between them regarding a worldly affair, they did not boycott one another – neither harboured resentment nor hatred; rather one gave sincere advice to the other.

This story shows that the Sahaabah were people of fair play and justice, and they feared falling into disobedience and evil deeds. And if punishment was legislated for an evil deed, they wished that such punishment is received in this worldly life and not the afterlife.

This story shows the virtue of AbuBakr [radiyallaahu-anhu] – his status in the eyes of the Sahaabah,  in the eyes of the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] and also in the sight of Allaah, for indeed the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] use to hold him in high esteem and raised him to his rightful status, just as Allaah stated in the Qur’aan: [إِذۡ هُمَا فِى ٱلۡغَارِ إِذۡ يَقُولُ لِصَـٰحِبِهِۦ لَا تَحۡزَنۡ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ مَعَنَا‌ۖ – The second of two, when they were in the cave, and he [Muhammad (sallal laahu alayhi wasallam)] said to his companion [Abu Bakr (radiyallaahu-anhu)], “Be not sad [or afraid], surely Allaah is with us”. [Surah At-tawbah. Aayah 40]

AbuBakr [radiyallaahu-anhu] was the Prophet’s [sallal-laahu-alayhi- wasallam] companion in the cave. He is the most virtuous person in the Ummah after the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] based on the consensus of Ahlus Sunnah Wal Jamaa’ah – past and present. Indeed, the Prophet [sallal laahu- alayhi wasallam] said to some of his companions regarding AbuBakr’s [radiyallaahu-anhu] affair, “Would you not leave my companion for me” – meaning AbuBakr [i.e. refrain from annoying or harming AbuBakr (radiyallaahu-anhu)] [Bukhari 3661]

This story shows the virtue of being forgiving and pardoning the one who wrongs you when you are able to do so and based on [a lawful and overriding] benefit, for indeed being forgiving and pardoning others will not increase you in anything except honour and a higher status in the sight of Allaah.

This story also shows that the companions of the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] were not infallible. Mistakes did occur from them unintentionally, but they were a people whom Allaah favoured with the companionship of the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam], and they did not persist upon mistakes as it is seen in this story. Indeed, disagreement did occur between them [ref 1], but they humbled themselves to the truth- neither repelled the truth with falsehood nor indulged in oppression; rather they hastened to Allaah’s Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] to resolve the [disagreements] that occurred between them. The Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] resolved those issues and all of them were pleased with the judgement and submitted with full submission.

This story shows the virtue of supplicating for others, especially for the one who wronged you. So, you supplicate for him that [Allaah] rectifies his affairs and forgives him, for indeed you have an angel who says, “Aameen and may Allaah grant you the same”. Therefore, one should be eager for this!

This story shows that to fulfil the rights of the people in this worldly life is better than leaving the affair until the day of judgement when none will  pardon another person, even if such person is the closest relative to him.

This story shows the virtue of Rabee’ah Al-Aslami [radiyallaahu-anhu] who advised his companions that neither should they be his supporters nor argue on his behalf against AbuBakr [radiyallaahu-anhu], because he knew the status of AbuBakr [radiyallaahu-anhu] in the sight of Allaah and the Messenger.

What do we derive as benefit from this story:

We should pardon and maintain love for one another when disagreement occurs between us regarding an affair of the Dunyaa. A person should be eager to give people their rights and also seek the forgiveness of the one he disputed with. [An Excerpt from ‘At-taleeqaat Al-maleehah Alaa Silsilah Al-Ahaadeeth as-Saheehah. Pages 42-44. Slightly paraphrased]

Ref: Differing Amongst The Sahaabah:

https://safeshare.tv/x/ss5d4fde1296604#

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/tolerated-differing-and-impermissible-differing-in-islaam/

https://salafidawahmanchester.com/2014/02/part-3-a-reply-to-asim-al-hakeems-nonsense-the-sahaabah-differed-in-aqeedah/

Some Sunan of Eedul Fitr and Eedul Adhaa

Written by Salafi Dawah Manchester on . Posted in Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

  • Pray in a spacious place [outside the Masjid], so that all the Muslims can gather to manifest this legislated Islamic ritual. However, it can be prayed in a Masjid due to an excuse.
  • Pray Eedul Adhaa early and Eedul Fitr delayed.
  • Eat before leaving for the Eedul Fitr Salaah and eat after the prayer on the day of Eedul Adhaa, because the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] did not use to leave for the Eedul Fitr prayer until he ate an odd number of dates. [Bukhaari 953] As for on the day of Eedul Adhaa, he used to eat after the prayer. [Tirmidhee542. Ibn Maaah 1756 and declared Saheeh by Imaam Albaani (rahimahullaah) in Saheeh Ibn Maajah 1422]
  • Take a bath and wear your best clothes.
  • Remember Allaah a lot by way of Takbeer [i.e. Allaahu Akbar] and Tahleel [Laa Ilaaha Illal laah].
  • When returning from the Eedul Fitr Salaah and Eedul Adhaa Salaah, take a road [or path] that is different from the one you took when you came out for the Salaah. This is based on the hadeeth of Jaabir [radiyallaahu-anhu] who said that the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] used to change roads. [Bukhaari 986]  It is said that the wisdom behind this is so that all the roads [or paths] will testify to this [i.e. on the day of judgement]. Other scholars say that the wisdom behind this is so that the Islamic rituals are manifested.
  • There is no harm if the people greet one another by saying [Taqabbalal Laahu Minnaa Wa Minkum [may Allaah accept from us (i.e. our good deeds) and from you (i.e. accept your good deeds as well)] as the companions of the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] used to do. And show happiness and joy in the presence of those whom you meet.

An Excerpt from ‘Al-Fiqhul Muyassar’ pages 126-127 – with the supervision of Shaikh Saaleh Aala Ash-Shaikh [hafidhahullaah]

 

How Did The True Believers Amongst Bani Israa’eel Obtain Upright Leadership?!

Written by Salafi Dawah Manchester on . Posted in Aqeedah (Creed & Belief), Methodology - 'Manhaj', Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Pearls of Wisdom, Purification of The Soul, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Allaah [The Most High] said:

وَجَعَلْنَا مِنْهُمْ أَئِمَّةً يَهْدُونَ بِأَمْرِنَا لَمَّا صَبَرُوا ۖ وَكَانُوا بِآيَاتِنَا يُوقِنُونَ

And We made from among them (Children of Israel), leaders, giving guidance under Our Command, when they were patient and used to believe with certainty in Our Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.).” [Sajdah: Ayah:24]

Imaam Ibnul Qayyim (rahimahullaah) said: Allaah informed us that upright leadership in the religion is obtained through patience and certainty. Patience repels lowly desires and corrupt wishes, and certainty repels doubts and those [views, beliefs, desires, opinions etc] that resemble the truth but are falsehood in reality. [An Excerpt from Badaa’i At-Tafseer Al-Jaami Limaa Fassarahu Al-Imaam Ibnu Qayyim Al-Jawziyyah: page:323 Vol:2. slightly paraphrased]

The Students of Hadeeth Should Strive to Be The Best In Behaviour!

Written by Abdullah Jallow on . Posted in Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Pearls of Wisdom, Purification of The Soul, Scholars of Islam, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

It is necessary (or crucial) that the seekers of Hadeeth should have the most perfect [behaviour, manners, etiquettes etc] amongst the people, be the most humble amongst the people, the greatest in their impartiality and adherence to the religion, the least in (deviating from good conduct) and (being overcome with) anger, because they constantly listen to the narrations that gathers the excellent manners and etiquettes of Allaah’s Messenger [peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him], the lives of the virtuous pious predecessors, the path of the scholars of Hadeeth and the virtues of the (pious ones and scholars) who have passed away; so they adhere to the purest and excellent (aspects of those traits, etiquettes, manners etc) and turn away from the most despised and lowly [(raits, behaviour, manners, etiquettes etc). [Source: An Excerpt from ‘Jaami Bayaan Al-Ilm 1/78. By Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdaadi (rahimahullaah). Slightly paraphrased]

Sujood As-Sahw [Prostration of Forgetfulness]: Should It Be Performed Before or After The Tasleem?

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Question: Is the Sujood As-Sahw [Pperformed] Before The Tasleem [i.e. after saying Assalaamu Alaykum Warahmatullaah] or After It; Or Are There [Different] Situations In Which It Should Be [Performed] Before the Tasleem or After It?

Shaikh Saaleh Al-Fawzaan [hafidhahullaah] Answers The Question: It is permissible [to perform] the Sujood As-Sahw before the Tasleem and after it; but what is better is to perform it before the Tasleem if one is performing it due to omitting [something] from the prayer, such as when one omits the first Tashahhud [i.e. unintentionally]; or omits an obligatory act of the prayer, such as the statement ‘Subhaanah Rabbiyal Adheem’ in the Rukoo or ‘Subhaanah Rabbiyal A’laa’ in the Sujood.

As for if it [i.e. the Sujood As-Sahw is performed] due to adding something extra [in the prayer], such as performing the Tasleem before completing [the prayer], or rising up for the fifth [Rak’ah] in a prayer that should be four [Rak’aat], or [rising for the] third [Rak’ah] in a prayer that should be two [Rak’ah], or [rising for the] fourth [Rak’ah] in the Maghrib prayer, but one remembered and sits down [i.e. straight away], then indeed the best thing is that it [i.e. the Sujood As-Sahw] is performed after the Tasleem. So, whatever is added [in the prayer] out of forgetfulness, then what is better is that [the Sujood As-Sahw] is performed after the Tasleem; but if one were to perform it constantly before the Tasleem or after the Tasleem, then there is no harm in that Inshaa-Allaah, and it has been reported that the Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] did this and that. [Bukhaari (2/65) based on the hadeeth reported by Abdullaah Ibn Buhaynah (radiyallaahu-anhu)]. [Ref 1]

Question: What should one say in the Sujood As-Sahw?

Answer to The Question: What is said in the Sujoodus Salaah [i.e. the statement Subhaanah Rabbiyal A’laa in the Sujood of the prayer] is what is to be said in the Sujood As-Sahw- either once or more; and one can supplicate whilst performing the Sujood As-Sahw just as he does in the Sujoodus Salaah [i.e. the Sujood of the prayer]. There is no difference between the two affairs [i.e. what is done in the Sujood of the prayer is what is to be done in the Sujood As-Sahw] due to the general evidences, and there is nothing reported that is specified to the Sujood As Sahw [i.e. no specific text to show that what is to be said in the Sujood As-Sahw should be different to what is said in the Sujood of the prayer] [Ref 2]

Ref 1: Al-Muntaqaa Min Fataawaa. Question 195. Vol 2. Publisher Dar Al-Imaan Ahmad. 1st edition 1434AH [2013]; Ref 2: Al-Muntaqaa Min Fataawaa. Question 196. Vol 2. Publisher Dar Al-Imaan Ahmad. 1st edition 1434AH [2013]

Judges Are Three Types – [One Promised Paradise and Two Threatened With Hell]

Written by Salafi Dawah Manchester on . Posted in Methodology - 'Manhaj', Morals and Manners - 'Akhlaaq', Pearls of Wisdom, Purification of The Soul, Scholars of Islam, Worship - 'Ibaadah'.

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Shaikhul Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah [rahimahullah] said:

When it is the case that the [true] followers of the Prophets are people of knowledge and justice, then the speech of the people of Islaam and the Sunnah about the disbelievers and people of bidah is to be [carried out] with knowledge and justice, and not [based on] conjecture and the soul’s desire. And due to this, the Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi wasallam] said, “Judges are three types; one will go to Paradise and two to Hell. A man who knows the truth and judges with it will enter paradise; a man who knows the truth but judges with the opposite of it will enter the fire, and a man who judges for the people based on ignorance will enter the fire’’. [Reported by Imaam Abu Dawud and others]

And when it is the case that the one who judges between the people in [affairs] of wealth, blood [i.e. murder cases etc] and honour will enter the hell fire if he is not a just scholar, then what about the one who passes judgements without knowledge-such being the case with ahlul bidah- on religions, the fundamental principles of Imaan, affairs of knowledge related to Allaah, His Names, Attributes and Actions, and the lofty affairs of knowledge?!’’

[Al-Jawaabus Saheeh 1/107-108]

 

 

A Warning Against Cutting The Ties of Kinship  

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Question: Is it obligated on a woman to keep the ties of kinship? Can you clarify this for us and may Allaah reward you.

Answer: keeping the ties of kinship is obligated on every person-both men and women. Allaah [The Most High] said:

فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ

أُولَٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَىٰ أَبْصَارَهُمْ

Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight. [47:22-23]

Allaah (Glorified be He and free is He from all imperfections) said: [  وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ – And fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship)]. [4:1]

Your kinship ties include everyone related to you, regardless whether they are close or distant relatives. Your mother is the closest relative to you and the one more deserving of your kind treatment, and then your father.  Abu Hurairah (radiyallaahu-anhu) reported that a man said: O Messenger of Allaah! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father. [Hadeeth reported by Muslim]

After your mother and father, those who are closest to you are your children, blood brothers and sisters, uncles (or aunts) and cousins. And whenever a person is closer to you as a relative, he (or she) is entitled to more rights from you. Keeping the ties of kinship should be established in accordance with one’s ability, so if your relatives live with you in the same country or close by, it is obligatory to visit them, honour them, show them kindness and assist them if they are in need.

Written correspondence and other means of communication, such as telephones and other modern means of communication are all good means through which close contact can established between many people living far away from each other. Therefore, it is obligated on a person to use them for what will make a person get close to Allaah by keeping the ties of kinship.

However, this (keeping contact through the modern means of communication) is not enough, rather it is obligated on a Muslim to visit his (or her) relatives in person, especially if they are in the same country or close by. But if they live far away, then one should strive to the best of his ability to keep in touch with them and utilise every means that is available to keep in touch. A person should be committed to that in order to receive the reward for keeping the ties of kinship.  He (she) should not be among those who cut the ties of kinship because cutting the ties of kinship is a dangerous affair.  Allah (Glorified be He and free is He from all imperfections) said:

 فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ

أُولَٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَىٰ أَبْصَارَهُمْ

Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight. [47:22-23]

And Allah knows best.

[Source: Fadaa’il Al-A’maal Pages 22-22’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah). Slightly paraphrased]

 

 

 

The Great Reward for the One Who Maintains the Ties of Kinship

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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Question: The questioner asks: We have blood relations who revile us, so is it obligatory that we have to visit them and maintain the ties of kinship?

Answer: Maintaining the ties of kinship is from the best of deeds due to the saying of the Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam): Whoever would like his provision to be increased and his lifespan to be extended, let him maintain the ties of kinship. [Reported by Bukhari and Muslim from Anas Ibn Maalik (radiyallaahu-anhu)]

Abu Hurairah [radiyallaahu-anhu] said, “The Prophet [sallal-laahi-alayhi-wasallam] said, ‘The Prophet said: Indeed Ar-Rahim (the womb) derives its root from Ar-Rahmãn (i.e., one of the Names of Allah) and Allah said: ‘I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you, (womb i.e., kith and kin) and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you, (womb, i.e., kith and kin).” [Reported by Bukhaari]

So even if you receive harm or revilement from them, it is still obligated on you to exercise patience in bearing their harm and deal with them kindly, and you’ll obtain a great reward (from Allaah). Abu Hurairah reported that a man said Abu Hurairah [radiyallaahu-anhu] said: A man said to the Messenger of Allaah, “I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. I treat them well, but they abuse me. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me.” The Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] said, “If you are as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot dust in their mouths. Allaah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that”. [Reported by Muslim]

Abdullah Ibn Umar [radiyallaahu-anhu] said that the Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said: The one who maintains a relationship with his relatives only because they maintain a relationship with him is not truly upholding the ties of kinship. The one who truly upholds those ties is the one who does so even if they break off the relationship. [Reported by Bukhaari] This is difficult upon the soul (i.e. a hard thing to bear patiently) but it carries a great reward.

[Source: Fadaa’il Al- A’maal pages 14-15’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah)]

 

 

 

 

 

Relationship Between Grandparents And Grandchildren

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 In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

The questioner asks: A relative of mine has children and those children neither sit with their grandmother nor do they visit her except occasionally, and the excuse they give is that she is harsh towards them. Her son is the only one who sits with her, so is this [i.e. behaviour of her grandchildren] permissible?

Answer: It is obligated on them to sit with her and make her happy because she is their grandmother. She is like their mother, so it is obligated on them to treat her with kindness and this is part of maintaining the ties of kinship. It is obligated on her son to nurture his children upon this [i.e. to keep the ties of kinship], deal kindly and softly with their grandmother. Likewise it is obligated on the grandmother to be gentle towards these children and not to be harsh towards them if what the children say is true. Abdullaah Ibn Amr [radiyallaahu-anhu] said that the Messenger [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “He (or she) is not one of us, who does not respect our elders and is not merciful to our youngsters”. [Reported by Imam Ahmad]

[Source: Fadaa’il Al- A’maal page 19’ by Shaikh Muhammad Bin Abdillaah As-Subayyil (rahimahullaah)]