[2] My intention is not to resemble them in my clothing or hairstyle!
In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.
The Messenger, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “Whoever resembles peoole is from them”. (1)
Imam Muhammad Ibn Salih Al-Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy upon him, said: Meaning, (this) refers to what makes one resemble them by engaging in specific practices associated with them. Resemblance can occur in beliefs, acts of worship, clothing, and customs. This hadith is general, and when it is the case that it is applied generally, the statement of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, “He is one of them” can be interpreted in light of other evidences. For instance, one who resembles a people in their beliefs is from them, as he believes what they believe (right or wrong)- whether related to acts of worship, belief in Allah’s Lorship, or His Names and Attributes. The one who resembles them in worship is from them, the one who resembles them in customs is from them, especially if the Shariah specifically prohibits such (action or thing). If an individual adopts the clothing of the disbelievers, resembling them in their clothing, wearing similar to what the disbelievers wear, we say: “He is from them”. The important thing to note is the resemblance and that is to engage in what is specifically associated with those being imitated. As for shared practices (i.e. which the Shariah has not forbidden), it does not constitute resemblance. [2] [End of quote]
Given the available evidence and the responsibility to enhance one’s conduct, it is quite perplexing when an individual asserts that he does not engage in Taqlid and that his contemporaries fail to comprehend the evidence, yet he disregards this evidence and chooses hairstyles that mimic those of the Mushrikoon. Subsequently, others attempt to justify their actions by claiming they do not aim to emulate the Mushrikoon.
It’s truly astonishing to see the challenges faced by some of the youth in our time. Many of us, whether we were guided to the Sunnah or not, used to approach our parents and elders with the words: “I’ve made Istikhaarah and now I’m looking for your advice on this matter.” We did this because, despite the fact that many elders in our families and clans might not have been fully aware of the Sunnah, we respected their life experience. Often, when we sought their counsel, we would think, “It’s incredible how my mother, father, aunt, or uncle didn’t mention a hadith, yet their advice aligns perfectly with what the scholars say.” However, it’s disheartening to witness some youth, even some of those who ascribe to the Sunnah, telling Salafi elders who are much older, “I’ve already made my decision, but I just want to hear your thoughts.” When you observe these young individuals getting into trouble and feeling lost, whilst thinking that the theory they see on the Internet and hear from their friends, instead of befitting from the life experiences, one appreciates what parents safeguarded us from. Our parents did not tolerate opinionated and self-amazed youth in issues of the Dunyah, so we do not expect any of our children to think that we’ll accept this behaviour in issues of the religion?! At the age of 53 Hijri and above, we still refer to those older than us and more experienced. Then one who was a baby few years ago may become swollen with self-importance to the extent that regardless how many proofs presented to him to abandon haram hairstyles, he clings to stubbornness and expects others to respect his views.
Read: https://abukhadeejah.com/the-prohibition-of-qaza-hairstyle-disallowed-by-allahs-messenger/
And Allah’s Aid is sought from all that blinds a person from what is right!
[1] Abu Dawud 4031
[2] Fath Dhil Jalaali Wal Ikraam 6/335